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I realized my stepmother is the cause of my issues with sexuality

2020.05.27 19:59 FetchingSparrow I realized my stepmother is the cause of my issues with sexuality

My father(edad) and stepmother (nmom) were married when I was 5. I never met my biological mother until I was grown so my stepmother was all I knew for a mother. I have been having issues with sex for years. I never understood what was wrong until now and I am in my early 30s. My issues: I have a problem being sexual toward my husband (but had zero issues with random dudes during my dating stage). I get angry when my husband sees naked women in movies or on tv. I just overall have this negative feeling towards sex. I thought it could have been my Christian upbringing, abstinence and all that. Also, my parents were preachepreachers wife. I decided that I had enough with feeling this way and I wanted to have a higher sex drive like I used to. I started talking about it with a friend who said that it sounds like I have anger towards sex and women. Which I had never thought I had any anger towards other women but realized they were right. They asked when I first started feeling that way and I realized it went all the way back to my childhood. My stepmother would be sexual towards my father and rub it in my face. Which sounds creepy on my part, like why would that bother me. But my issue had always been feeling like my dad replaced me with her. And she made sure that I knew that she was more important to him than I was. Anyway, she would do things like straddle him and sort of grind while smirking at me. She would make comments when I was older that they were going to try for another baby(at that point there were 4 of us kids). It was like she was trying to make sure I knew they were still fucking. She would come into my room (even when I had friends over) to talk all about sex. I would ask her over and over to stop. I would cover my head with pillows so I couldn't hear her as well and she would just keep going. She would walk by my and sort of caress my butt? I hated it and I always asked her to stop but she did it all the time. She started telling people I had a butt fetish when I was a teenager. Anyway, I don't know why I never realized that whole situation was abnormal. And no wonder I struggle to be sexual and I'm afraid for my husband to see someone better than me on the tv. It makes sense now why it didn't bother me as long as I didn't have feelings for someone. I think I have this under lying fear that some woman is going to seduce him away from me. Even if she is on tv. Anyway, it is relieving to at least know the source of my issues and now I need to figure out how to handle them. Sorry if this is rambling and doesn't make sense. I mostly just wanted to vent to people who may understand. I hate feeling like I'm broken and abnormal from others. Edit: also, if anyone has any advice on getting passed this, it would be much appreciated
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2020.05.26 22:11 ronniescookielove92 My story and progress

Trigger warnings, details of abuse, attempt of suicide, sexual assault.
First time post but I've been following the thread on and off for a while and it has helped me immensely. Hopefully my story can help someone else down the line. I'm also open to any advice for additional coping skills/ advice anyone may have to share.
I was raised by a Nmom and Edad. My Edad had his own abusive traits, and in my early childhood was worse than my mom. Because of the abuse and lack of support at home I was an angry child. Constantly in fights/ detention in elementary school. When my dad would abuse me it would be over small triggers. I spill a cup of water? I get hit with the belt until I bled. I break a plate or glass after being told to do the dishes? I get screamed at to drop dead, adopting me was the worst mistake of their lives, get my ass outside for 'target practice'. My dad had throwing knives and I was his moving target. Any time I talked about my home life in school I was told to stop lying by teachers. On the outside my parents were great. Bought me tons of toys, had me in all kinds of extra curricular activities, etc. So that must mean bored little girl has to make up lies for attention, right? Through out elementary and middle school I run away most nights and sleep on my elementary school playground when weather is above freezing. Fast forward to middle school, I'm determined to do everything in my power to never get in trouble in the slightest. I take daily beatings, intense bullying on the playground. I come home and deal with more of the same. Fighting depression daily, finally go to a teacher and say I might be depressed because of the bullying. I get told the Christian thing to do is turn the other cheek and be the bigger person. I'm 'too young to be depressed. ' she's met my parents 'and they're great. You have no reason to be sad.' my cousin who I am very close to is the only person who sees and helps me through what I'm going through. Then I get invited to a class members birthday party at a bowling alley. I'm so excited. My cousin doesn't trust it. I stupidly do. Every boy in my class met me in the back of the alley, I was lead to believe we were going to the party room. They attempted to sexually assault me. I was naked and being held down when an employee came out with my cousin who had his mom drive by and check on me when he had a bad gut feeling. The boys all fled with my clothes. I was given a garbage bag and waited while the police were called. Nmom shows up, dismisses the police refusing statements and charges to be laid. They all leave, she drags me to the car and calls me a whore and starts hitting me. 'if you get knocked up it'll be the end of your life, so help me God.' This starts a daily barrage of shit. She takes my mattress, bed frame, door away. She makes me take at home pregnancy and drug tests daily, from middle of 7th grade to 10th grade where I start refusing her shit. Later that month I attempted suicide by hanging. My cousin found me seconds before I stepped off the chair, noose around my neck. I'm admitted to the hospital, where nmom comes in and is sobbing about she had no idea it was this bad. Hours later I tell her more about my depression and I think I need help. Nmom tells me therapy is for nutjobs. Starts belittling me over requesting therapy, that if I'm that much of a nutjob then I should go throw myself in the ocean. Literally hours after a suicide attempt. Edad isn't present during this exchange, but when I call to ask him to get her from my hospital room he refuses. 'shes worried about you, she has a heart of gold' blah blah blah. Resume fighting depression on my own, refusing self harm and suicide in fear of being ridiculed and considered a nutjob and things getting worse.
Enter high school, still fighting depression, but make a few friends who also suffer with it. Never go into much detail about my parents abuse, but quickly learn it's not normal for parents to be like that. Nmom and Edad still belittling and gaslight me daily because of small inconsequential things. Senior year HS rolls around and I've started fighting back on their abuse and narc tendencies. Get into daily fights and arguments over useless shit because I'm falling out of their control. I have my own car, job, bank account, and made a copy of the house key on my 18th birthday. On nights when the fighting is bad, I sleep in my car a few towns over. Daily arguments and power struggles of nmom trying to gain power back over me.
Summer between HS and college, I get diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Nmom denies it's happening, says it's all an attention grab and a way to hurt her. Makes up lies to my family so they don't believe me. Go through treatments and surgeries alone. Edad won't believe my diagnosis either. Says nmom would never do anything to hurt me on purpose and I'm old enough to stop the attention grabbing bullshit. Go through experimental treatments and go into remission for PC. I've met my husband online through all of this and start dating long distance. NY to AB Canada. He's incredible, supportive and loving. We develop an incredible relationship. I disclose the relationship to nmom and she tries to do everything in her power to get me to break up with him. Then starts the classic 'you wouldn't talk to me this way before you met him. He's manipulating you' lines in relation to me starting my journey of trying to enforce boundaries. Living with nmom at the time was my only option. Jobs in NY were hard to come by. Every time I had a job I'd save every bit of money I had to visit my now husband. Nmom refuses to recognize the relationship, and calls him my friend'. We alternated trips and saw eachother once every 6 months for the first few years, and 3-4 months the last few. After I decided to move up to AB, nmom destroyed my passport days before a trip to view apartments. I got a new one rush printed for well over 500 bucks. Made the trip, and started planning my new life. Edad gets sick. He's never been in good health, but this was his final decline. Weeks after my move in which nmom blames me for his illness, he gets put in a medicated coma. She withholds information on his status, and I didn't press much. 6 months after my move he passes away. Nmom blames me and husband for abandoning her. I deal with the BS as emotional backlash from losing a spouse. Start requesting therapy every time I see her in person, which is every 2-3 months of very expensive trips back to NY. I travel alone most times because of husbands job. Every visit gets progressively worse with her outlashes and swings. Fast forward to November 2019. Husband and I fly in to celebrate Thanksgiving with her and the family. We had just found out I'm 5 weeks pregnant with a baby I never thought we could have. We land in NY and try to help her with a few things like reconnecting her phone that she unplugged. Shes always been a hoarder, but it's gotten worse since Edad died. We offer to help organize it and sort through the garage with her the next morning, and she agrees. We get up early to start on somethings. In less than an hour we have 12-15 bags of my old stuff to donate to make room for her stuff, and another 5-6 bags of pure garbage. Soiled underwear, old pee pads from her dogs, etc. We begin taking stuff out and she threatens us with calling the police for theft, crying, blocking the car, etc. We pull out and donate my stuff and throw out the garbage. She tells us to gtfo. We pack up, and are in the driveway ready to leave and she starts begging us to stay. I begin to think of how detrimental this relationship is and how done I am with it and how nothing ever works. I tell her we're leaving, and she'll never hear from us again. She begins begging my husband to see her side. He refuses. We Uber to a hotel near the train station so we can get to the airport in the morning. We book a flight home. She calls non stop begging us to talk to her. We agree to meet for dinner in public place and explain we're done. We don't tell her about the pregnancy yet. She cries and says it's not worth losing her daughter over and agrees to work on our relationship. We part ways, and go home. She returns to her normal self days later. I start LC. She leaves varying nasty voicemails and begging voicemails. Christmas Eve I break and tell her I'm pregnant. The first words out of her mouth were 'who else have you told? I bet you told HIS parents first'. I hung up and refused phone calls from that point on. February I made the decision to write a last attempt letter. In it I outlined my boundaries and that if she doesn't agree to attempt to work with me on them, I'm done. To only reply to the letter kindly and sincerely. Late March I get a 3 page letter back of her outlining all the things she did for me (driving me to sports practice, school, etc) and how I treated her like shit, and her cat died and it's my fault. I haven't responded since. Her number is blocked but she's still able to leave voicemails. They vary from tears, to threats. I've heard of numerous lies through the grapevine that she's told about me and my sudden absence in her life. Including that I'm hearing voices because of the pregnancy and she can't bear to see me that way, I've lost the baby, I'm I'm the ICU with Covid19, I'm moving back to NY, I've divorced my husband, etc. She's using my aunt as a way of contacting me, asking her to text me pleas to call her because she doesn't know what she did wrong. It's been months and I've gone through some grieving. Wondering if I did the right thing. At the end of the day I am sparing my child and husband the pain of seeing me in an abusive relationship, and showing them healthy boundaries. My mental health is improving drastically, even as I fight 3rd trimester pregnancy hormones and cravings. I'm finally seeing a therapist. I'm on medication for my depression and anxiety. And I have an amazing chosen family through my husband who are there to support me. I've cried many tears over the loss of a mother I never had. Over the family I never had. I'm terrified every day that someday I'll show the same behaviors as her to my son. But my husband assures me that he won't let that happen. Because as much as he loves me, if I do anything to ever hurt this little boy I'm carrying, he'll choose an innocent child every time. And for that I am so eternally grateful. Every day I grieve more and a little differently. I'm currently in the anger phase of grief. I'm angry at her for everything she's put me through. Angry at myself for not ending it sooner. Angry at all the bystanders who believed that all parents, especially adoptive ones are loving kind people who deserve children. Angry at the world for situations like this even being a thing that people have to endure. But I'm also healing. I'm grateful for the opportunity to improve my mental health before my son is born so he doesn't need to adjust to life and his mom being an emotional wreck. Hopeful that I'll be able to give my son the love and support I never received. Happy that I ended things when I did and grateful that my son never has to witness emotional manipulation from her. Excited to meet and love my son with my husband who has excellent emotional boundaries and helps me every day. There's light at the end of the tunnel. Some tunnels are longer and darker than others. Hang in there. Talk to me, talk to anyone who reaches a handout. There's hope, even at the bottom of the abyss. Thank you all for listening, and I hope you all have fantastic days ahead and find the solice you need, no matter where that source may be.
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2020.01.07 17:33 WifeofTech Love bombing with a side of guilt. But don't forget I'm still the JNMOM you've always known.

First off forgive any typos as I am on mobile and typing with one hand (you'll find out why) Also a long read because a lot happened.
Ok so I've already posted about the little letter JNMOM sent oldest in her birthday card. It was so passive aggressive that I didn't see it for what it really was. She's love bombing (in her way). I realized this once I started putting everything together.
Because coming up on my birthday she starts expectedly asking about when we will all get together to eat at a resturant. An inescapable birthday tradition she requires even of my DH who doesn't exist to her the rest of the year. I delay my response and tell her that maybe we can get together Sunday but don't specify a time.
Now for the unexpected. JNMOM asks to take the kids for the weekend. In 12 years I can count on literally one finger how many times she's asked to take the kids. JYMIL does traditionally take the kids so I can have a birthday date with DH but that wasn't going happen this weekend because oldest requested as a birthday gift to meet a friend at a certain wheeled shoe attraction. Since I'm grey rocking I tell JNMOM that oldest had plans. (Like I'd ever let my kids stay in that dirty house anyway)
Now the day before my birthday JNMOM sends me a text asking about a time Sunday. Unbeknownst to her she sent it to me right as I was leaving the ER. Oldest's play date didn't go as planned and I fell and totally dislocated my shoulder. Hours and much tears later I'm leaving the ER high on drugs, exhausted, and with my arm tied Napoleon style to my body. So I tell JNMIL that I just left the ER because I injured my shoulder (didn't go into detail) so birthday celebration will have to be in the afternoon or evening because I have no idea when I will be awake and feeling up to going to their town. (DH and I had planned to go to there anyway to pick the kids up from JYMIL who broke her day out with JYFIL and drove 2 hours to come and get them so they didn't have to sit in the ER. Love that woman!) JNMOM's response was asking how I hurt myself and a joke about joining a derby. She never asked if I was ok. (Remember the title. This is the reminder that it's the same jnmom she's always been.)
Early my birthday morning (no I was not awake to read it) I received an oddly loving text with a biblical reference. Despite being in the bible belt JNMOM is a bare minimum requirements type Christian. As in show up at church and done type. She has never been the type to regularly quote the bible (aside from children honor your parents). This is so odd and out of character that I just ignore it and don't respond. An hour or 2 later I get another text asking about meet up time. Just to get her to stop DH texts her and JYMIL that we will meet at 6. JYMIL says ok and JNMOM says I didn't know it'd be so late. In the long process of getting ready to go up there I tell DH to text my gcsister and tell her about the dinner date in case she wants to come (yes I know it was a couple hours notice and didn't care if she passed.) Gcsister responds that they are in x town and have been since noon because JNMOM told her we'd be eating at 1. "Wut?" Yeah JNMOM told her and my uncle that. "Sorry that was NEVER the plan!. If you have to go back home before the planned time that's cool." They do head back and I text JNMOM asking her to get a head count and reserve a table. DH wasn't sure of giving JNMOM the reins but I told him it's JNMOM's rodeo she should be the one forced to drive it. I get a text blaming me for gcsister going home, admitting to the 1pm plan time, telling me gcsister said I should have made it 5 (don't know if this is a lie as gcsister could be playing both sides of the table just to avoid conflict), and listing other people she invited that may or may not come. (Thank God they didn't)
On to the dinner. After everyone is seated JNMOM piles my one armed butt with a cake, flowers, a card, and balloon. With everyone except edad looking at her like she's crazy. Where am I supposed to put all this crap?! Some of this occurs to her when the server graciously takes the cake so she ties the balloon to the back of my chair so it can spend the dinner tapping my head I guess. I get my uncle who is next to me to put the flowers and card under my chair. (Great place for them I know but where else was I going to put them?)
JNMOM takes the seat by oldest where I later find out she spent the time FAMMMMILY guilting oldest because oldest spent that one day with her friend as opposed to spending it with her then asking about the next weekend. Oldest cleverly asked me with a Jedi look if we had plans next weekend so yes we had inescapable plans next weekend. (If I had known more than that one question was going on we would have gotten up and left. Oldest was already feeling bad because I got hurt at the place she wanted to go to. Hearing about it later... Let's just say being high on pain pills and your dh taking your phone from you can prevent major some major catastrophes.)
End of the meal comes and we leave. I have not yet opened the card. But I got this text on our way home:
"Glad you were blessed with a beautiful day for your birthday, tell dh he did good, you looked very nice, liked your sweater and hair, hope yaw made it back safe, Love you All very much❣😘" For reference JNMOM has always nit picked me not being fashionable. So I highly doubt she thought "I looked very nice" in sweat pants and an oversized sweater.
I opened ithe card when I got home only to be greeted with a whole notebook paper sized letter inside an again oddly religious birthday card. It opens with my maiden name (it actually took me a moment to realize it was my name. I haven't used my maiden name in over 13 years) then goes on to talk about who was present at my birth (where she calls me perfection, again something so out of character it's shocking) and makes the claim that my grandpa (whom I dearly loved but know he had no desire to be around "women's buisness") hated he missed my birth. She now calls a time she historically lamented being poor and saddled with a mistake a Happy time (yes she capitalized happy), claims that she felt like there wasn't anything she couldn't do (from a woman who will gleefully tell you all the things she's incapable of doing). Talks about my grandma talking about how I looked like my dad (like she didn't absolutely hate this fact. The primary reason gcsister is gc is because she's the spitting image of my jnmom as a baby) and says how I was a blessing from God (again with the oddly religious reference compounded with a positive reference to me). An odd toss in that oldest (and only oldest) surely gives me the same feeling of joy. And she finishes up with a "blessed birthday wish from the person who loved me first and will love me forever." Anyone else's skin crawl at that remark?
Anyway what is y'all's take on all this? Is she attempting a love bombing? If so how long until it stops or is there a way to stop it without complete bridge annihilation? I refuse to return any power to her. My family is free and happy and I like it that way. I'd just like to go back to being the invisible scape goat for now. (Jeez did I really just say that?)
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2019.10.17 06:15 jakestucker Do you ever feel extreme ecstacy and happiness and then immediately feel lost, alone and sad/angry?

I tried NC multiple times, but the family dynamic brings me closer a lot of times, dad has cancer and I desperately want and need to spend time with him, he's not an edad exactly, but he historically kinda "it's your mom, respect her" but in extreme situations would stand up to her.. it's more like he didn't have great education and looks up to her, even I do.. she's educated, strong, and gets shit done. But the emotional and mental abuse growing up fucks with me today as a 32 year old.. my sisters see me as the golden child, while I know none of us are. Ones a lesbian and my mom had "accepted" it out of necessity.. the other sister is a premarital mother which is bad cause we grew up strongly Christian even in the loose bounds of a Methodist church. As an adult I pushed away knowing it was toxic and destroying my dreams, ambitions, hopes, goals and attempts at success. But I kept getting pulled back in because I honestly believe she loves me, she's complicated when it comes to Nmom status.. she fits the bill.. but she seems to only fit the bill when it comes to ignoring the negativity and hurt she purports on her 3 children. She constantly gives and helps others in need. She will do anything for her 3 kids, but she makes us understand the burden and costs of helping us. She doesn't do this when it's helping through the church, or for strangers. I hurt my back about 13/15 years ago and I was still on family insurance. I went for an xray. When I was then sent to a back specialist for shots in my vertebrae to do something to the cartlidge between the bones to "fix me" she bitched about the 300$ x-ray for a month. I never went again to do anything for my back. I still have back problems. But even today I think it's worth the pain to not have listened to the bitching and complaining. I know life sucks with kids, I've heard. But if I had kids, and I was as broke as I am now.. id rob a bank to pay their med Bills. Even if I couldn't I'd do something.. but I'd never bitch and make a kid's life and health be a reason my kid should be ashamed or afraid to seek help. And back to the point of this post... I see movies. I see couples in public.. I see all sorts of "triggers" in public.. and a lot of times I forget my history and I'm enamored by the genuinely real interactions, I see myself in a movie beating the odds and finding love. I see myself in a scenario laughing and enjoying fun with my parents in public, I see myself getting hurt at a playground and my mom running over and hungging me and telling me she loves me and the scrape is gonna get better. But then no matter the "hopeful" situation I see myself in via strangers, movies, social media etc... I fall immediately back Into "I don't deserve to be happy. I don't deserve to be loved, I'm not good enough, it's my fault I can't date, communicate, or socialize..." And the worst part is, I know I am worth dating... I've just been conditioned that without a house, a good car, excellent pay, and all that American dream shit... I'll never be loved. The ONLY solace I've found as I've gotten older is I'll find a woman who will love me for my passions, my drive and enthusiasm for what I do, and won't give a shit about my social standing, or finances, someone who can be independent and love me for who I am... I know it's possible, but I'm constantly afraid I'm never good enough because I relate to these fake and real scenarios I see... And I just pull away, draw and paint, and hide from the real world. I'm happy I'll die an artist doing what I love regardless of being successful and making money or not.. but I'm kinda sad sometimes that the things I hope for like love and support and pride from others in my work... Won't ever really be a reality for me.
Tl;Dr sorry for the rant.. I always want to post.. but I'm afraid I'll just rant and rant because of not knowing anyone to help me focus my thoughts IRL... If you made it through, thank you, I love you!
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2018.08.01 04:27 4wheelie First Post - Low or No Contact?

Questions:
How have you guys gone NC? (If you've gone NC, would you please tell me how long?)
How has that worked out for you?
Have you broken your NC "vows" at some points along the way?
What did you experience emotionally, both good or challenging, as you started NC?
Did you set your email to filter and automatically delete anything from their email addresses?
Did you block their phone numbers on your phone and texts too?
Did you initiate NC yourself without giving a reason, or did you wait for the SHTF from their end to use that as a reason for NC?
Did you just drop off the face of the earth?
Did you explain to friends/family that you were going NC and not to engage in conversations with parents about you?
If you don't mind (please don't answer if this is triggering; I understand), what was the last straw for you that made you decide to go NC?
Backstory:
This is my first post here and I think only my second post on Reddit ever. I'll try to follow all rules, but I might need help with tagging my post etc because I've never done this before. Please help me out.
Bio Mom is narc, bio Dad is enabler (both still married) with his own mental health issues (not sure what category he might fall into). They create their own reality together which is very different from everyone else around them.
I'm in my mid-30's. I'm physically disabled and I live with a safe family now (not my bio family), and the mom of the household is my caregiver for me (and also my best friend of 4 years) so that I am not in a nursing home. I finally have a healthy place to call home! :D
I recently realized that I really need to go much lower contact with my parents, and I've started to do that.
I've also recently realized that for ME to be healthy mentally, I need to set some firmer boundaries. For example, now that I recently learned what triangulation is, I see that Nmom was using it last week and it took me days to catch on while she text bombed me and called me and left messages asking me to talk to someone about something for her. Took me a few days before I finally realized that I needed to tell her "here is this other person's contact information. I can't solve this issue for you, so you need to contact them. I'm no longer going to talk about this because I can't solve this problem." She continued to text bomb, and I eventually put my foot down. But now that I look back at it, I realize that I want to recognize the triangulation MUCH SOONER so that I can immediately pull myself out of it and end contact if she won't stop badgering me.
This is just ONE example of a boundary that I need to shore up.
Others include:
But I'm kinda stuck between a rock and a hard place here. I know that as I change my boundaries to be more strict and to have LESS contact with Mom and Dad, at first it might scoot under the radar for a few weeks. But eventually it will become WWIII and a poop slinging festival. Especially when I begin saying "NO" and repeating it or hanging up on her or Dad. Boy will that bring out the rage!
By going low contact, I realize I will need to exercise my boundaries and skills more than I ever have before. But to be honest, I deal with chronic pain and I'm really sick (which my parents don't believe....long story there). I don't have a lot of patience anymore for the drama and for being "nice." I'm not interested in guilt trips. I'm not playing their games. And they aren't going to be happy about it one bit. How much energy should I put into going low contact and dealing with the poop-fest? Silent treatment I can handle - hallelujah! - but the blaming and bringing up everything she thinks I've ever done wrong...no. Eventually they will team up and go after my friends and family members. This is enough for me to raise the "No Contact" white flag of surrender and be done with it if they push this far to hurting the people around me.
Long story short, I'm considering going NO CONTACT for my own wellbeing. Just to cut through the crud and be DONE with it. Yes, they will go after friends and family, probably worse than they would with low contact, but eventually they would give up because a narc just can't stand rejection unless THEY are the ones doing the rejecting.
I do love my parents. Mostly, I love God and I want to do what is honorable. I'm not going to treat them as I've been treated. I will not stoop to that level and I will continue to love them and hope that they will change...but FROM AFAR. So by No Contact, I do actually mean No Contact.
In the evangelical church, there is often this idea that the abused should be "long-suffering" with the abuser. I've been told way too many times to "forgive and go back to [my] parents," with horrible effects (because I did just that in the past). I'm past that now and financially independent enough that I will NEVER be going to live with my parents again, even if I have to live in a nursing home.
In the world of psychology, I sometimes find this sense of "get the hell out of that relationship!" without regard to the fact that these are my parents. To me it sometimes seems very selfish how psychologists and Reader's Digest seem to think we should just ditch without persevering in love.
So you can see how I'm torn on this issue. I'm a Christian who believes in extending grace to others, even when I've been wronged. And believe me, I've been abused in almost every possible way by my parents, so I'm not just someone who is saying "oh, they said bad things about me to my girlfriend and I'm scarred for life...woe is me!!!" I just don't feel comfortable dishing it out all online. But the abuse has been deep, life-long, and very real. It's better now because I won't be with my parents alone. My caregiver always goes with me. And because I live with a family, they are more reserved about what they say on the phone, realizing that I often use speakerphone. But if it was just me and them, I expect it would go extremely sour extremely quickly. I HAVE CHANGED A LOT. They have changed only a little. I keep the peace by giving her what she wants almost all the time. That's going to change. So I'm preparing myself for the backlash.
I'm having so much difficulty making the decision of Low Contact versus No Contact. Any advice is appreciated. I've never had the opportunity to talk to others who grew up with narc parents before, so I'm excited to meet you folks. Thanks for your patience as I learn to use this group and be supportive to others.
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2018.03.22 06:42 kicknarcass I need to know that I'm not crazy

For the longest time I was apprehensive about participating in this sub because I didn't want to re-engage with the pain my parents caused me. Tonight I'm really hurting though and although I was able to talk it through with my BF the wound is still so fresh that I wanted some other perspectives. Please bear with me as this is long.
To save you a long story, I have an emotionally fragile nMom and eDad. I've largely been the target and my younger brother has slowly but steadily morphed into my nMom. Needless to say, we're not very close and we've always had a very strained, combative relationship. Due to soon-to-be changing circumstances, I'm currently living with them. In recent years, I've learned to either not engage with nMom's antics or just grin and bear them to keep the peace (I pick and choose my battles). Occasionally she'll get so grating that we have a tiff but I've learned to better handle the conflict.
I'm gay and it's been a large source of tension between my parents and I. My dad all but outright says that he thinks his lack of proper parenting turned me gay, it was recently discovered that my brother is deeply homophobic, my mom has confidently used the f-slur and they're all convinced that gay people are disproportionately predators. My parents initially asked me not to reveal my sexuality to my siblings until my brother revealed he's a homophobe and my mom then decided to corner me into outing myself to them. I refused because I didn't even have time to process the evening. Unsurprisingly, I don't share much of my personal life with them. Coming to terms with my sexuality was a journey in and of itself, I don't need to share my dating woes with people who think like this.
Last week my phony Christian nMom went to a psychic who informed her that I was a coke fiend and a pothead who was at risk of losing my job and that I should come see this psychic and pay her $200+ for her to tell me my future. nMom thought it prudent to share this with me and accused me of coming home multiple times with white residue on my nose. Having never so much as smoked a cigarette, I of course looked bewildered but mostly kept my cool as she ranted about how she doesn't know what I'm up to and has a right as a mother to express these concerns to me.
At this point, I was so done with her bullshit and so close to preparing to move that I decided to pack my bags the next day and spend awhile with my grandmother. I tell my brother before I get a chance to tell them and being the pot stirrer that he is he immediately tells my parents. eDad called and gave a bunch of excuses for nMom but conceded that the psychic is bologna and that he doesn't believe I'm on drugs. nMom calls me, apologizes "although she doesn't know what she's apologizing for", and tells me all of the things that's wrong with me. I respectfully hang up and move forward with my plan. She texts me later with a thin apology about how she shouldn't have said anything (this is her way of saying I'm too thin-skinned). She has a huge project coming up that she always relies on me to help with and I don't think she wants me to tell my very religious grandmother that she's seeing psychics so I believe this is part of her motivation for her whack-ass apology. I text her back saying that her apology is insincere, this isn't how you approach someone with a drug problem, and that she probably doesn't understand why I'm hurt because I've never lobbed such an accusation against her. She doesn't respond.
A few days go by without me hearing from her and my brother calls to find out what's going on. I tell him he should ask mom. Apparently she then tells him that he should ask me. A few hours later eDad asks me to give him a call. It turns out my brother "did some research" and asked my mom if I was gay and then revealed to my parents that I was having sex with countless older men, was moving in with one out of state, had a sex and marijuana addiction, revealed to x number of people that I was gay, etc. Half of these accusations are untrue, fabricated, loosely based on the truth, or taken completely out-of-context. Reddit, these are things my brother could only have known if he had been reading my texts for at least the past few months. From what my dad has told me, he may have been looking back for years. Who knows the extent of his snooping. My brother has apparently been sobbing about my sex addiction and my living a double life and my probably no longer believing in God because of said sex addiction/pot usage. My mom has apparently been sobbing and comforting over my duplicity. My dad said that I've had no reason to hide my personal life from them because they've been nothing but supportive. When I told him that I was hurt and confused, he told me that I probably just felt exposed. He also told me that I have lots of issues that I clearly need to work through.
I am so hurt. I feel embarrassed, violated, and betrayed by my own brother who seems to have done this for no motivation beyond causing trouble. I feel gaslit by parents who have told me at 12 that they'd only be disappointed if I was gay. Am I being too sensitive? Have I wronged them by keeping so much of my life private?
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2018.03.21 05:09 author124 Real Estate back at it with the grossness

EDIT: previous to this, when I was still completely in the Fog, I would typically attempt to persuade my SO to come to my family's events. I try not to do this anymore, but it's important context. Also, neither of us are religious in terms of religions that celebrate Easter in the way that Christians do.
So she's back at it again. I will acknowledge that I put myself in this situation by asking to go to the carrier store and then to the house. There have been some choice moments and y'all, I am mad.
First, for context, Edad sent the following message about Easter planning that felt self-centered to myself and my SO, due to the fact that Easter falls on SO's birthday:
Hey author124, so Easter celebration will be over here so [elderly relative] will have less work. We would love for you and SO to join us. I know it's his birthday, so he may have some plans with his folks as well. Perhaps you two could split the day in both places. Anyway, think about it, and talk with SO, and then we can chat. Love you.
It's all moot because SO will be traveling, but it was still bad. I expressed this to Real Estate, only to receive the following:
He would never mean it that way!
We were expecting SO to say no, we just wanted him to know he was welcome
I feel like we can't do anything right
When she brought out the second one, I pointed out that neither of them ever text both of us when inviting him to join in on something. They always go through me, which makes it feel like an afterthought. Her response?
I don't have his number!
May I just say: bull. Shit. She has his number. We've been dating for 7 years, she has texted him before, she has his number. I even got her to look him up in her contacts; the CBF was epic when she found his name there.
Some choice moments during the process to take my line off of the account and pay the remaining balance on my phone:
That was it apart from more passive aggressive comments about cleaning which she claimed were "direct, not passive or aggressive!" Uh-huh, sure. One of those was the following (when I said I offered to clean my SO's apartment as a birthday gift):
Maybe he can come to [city] and do yours, hmm?
TL;DR: No's gonna No, but Dobby is free! Phone wise at least.
EDIT: left a location name. Whoops
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2018.01.04 08:47 TheBibleThumper Old story on Bible/edad. Also would like advice on privacy if one isn’t a minor? I don’t want this happening again.

Edit: Mod’s if there isn’t enough about Bible then let me know and I’ll fix it up :)
This is from about a year ago, after the biggest fight I had with Bible (see Bitchbot). There’s a ton of background I’ve put down on them in past stories, including a lot about their Christian values and their dislike of FH as a result.
Sorry for the length!
Let me set the scene: Thanksgiving week, I came home from college for a couple days and my phone’s screen had fought the floor and lost horrendously. Since I’m on my dad’s plan, we were all due to get our phone update with our provider, but the company won’t take shattered screens. Edad tells me to give him my phone, he’ll get his and mine fixed up while he’s at work, and touch through to me from Bible’s phone if he needs anything.
Now, I’m not an idiot. I got my phone randomly searched through in middle school/high school by Bible and Edad, and I know from past experiences (my phone has fought the floor a lot), that the guy doesn’t need to have the phone on when he fixes the screen, as long as it turns on when he’s done. So, I turn off my phone before handing it over to him for the day. Even with it off and a passcode on, I didn’t like it. I don’t trust Edad with my phone, couldn’t trust him in middle school, and I still can’t today.
About 2 hours later, Bible says my dad needs me. Edad texted me through her phone asking what my passcode was, Incase the repair man “needed it to test the phone”. I got a really bad feeling, but I knew refusing would cause a fight, so I reluctantly texted it to him (i realize now that was stupid).
End of the day, Edad comes home and gives me my repaired phone, things seem fine and dandy, until Bible and my siblings go to bible study (ha). Edad then calls me upstairs and as I turn the corner, his face looks like a mixture of disappointment and fury. He then tells me that while he was at work, my aunt texted me (true) and he decided to go into my phone to respond to her that I didn’t have my phone (bullshit, I never saw that text to her after I got the phone back). He then says he noticed that FH wasn’t the top of my text message list and because of this “parent intuition” that he had, he went through EVERY MESSAGE WITH EVERY PERSON I HAD TEXTED. Where he discovered that I had lost my virginity to FH after 4 years of dating during a text message conversation to my best friend who had recently lost her virginity and needed to talk to someone about it (me).
I was livid. Absolutely livid. EDad knows my best friends parents, and they (at the time) didn’t know about her activities. So not only was my privacy violated, but hers was as well. At the time, I was 19, and I know I was still (and am) young, I wasn’t a minor, and felt that he had no right to go through everything because his “dad radar” went off. And yet, he was upset at me.
EDad then tells me that I have to tell Bible before I leave at the end of the week, and to make sure I do, he’ll be mentioning to her that I have something to tell her.
At this point, I hadn’t met you wonderful people yet, and didn’t know what to do. So out of fear and manipulated guilt, I did what I was told, and the backlash from Bible was Godawful. The rest of my stay was filled with her randomly walking in the room I’d be in and asking a question about it, and then quoting scripture, and how disappointed they are in me. Constantly reminding me of how wrong I was. Oh, and FH wasn’t allowed in their house anymore since he might corrupt my siblings.
So my question is this, was EDad allowed to do what he did? I mean it’s one thing if he used his account to check things, especially if I was under 18, but he physically went into my phone and looked through everything and I was pretty good step over a legal adult. I’m also not financially able to get a phone plan for myself until I’m 21, which isn’t until the fall, so until then, how can I possibly prevent this from happening again?
TL;dr: Gives Edad my turned off/locked phone to get repairs, EDad gets into it and yells at me after violating the privacy of myself and literally every person I’ve never talked to. Then makes me tell Bible of my “sin”, and turns the rest of my trip into a nightmare.
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2017.06.29 23:06 Iskawaran Culturally religious NMom can't accept I'm marrying a White Athiest

Hi RBN - this is my first post. As brief background, I'm the only daughteformer GC of my parents who immigrated from an African Muslim country. I was raised culturally Muslim - didn't pray, sometimes fasted, but no religious community we belonged to. My parents basically kept my siblings and me home all the time. When I was in college, I became more observant on my own - choosing to wear a headscarf and dress modestly. In response to my decision to wear a scarf, my mom threw out all the scarves we had at home so I would have to buy some if I wanted to wear hijab. When I started wearing it, she called me a terrorist and said I'd lose all my friends for becoming an extremist. Of course that didn't happen...then when I chose to take it off three years later, she told me I was a whore. Just to give a snapshot on my NMom.
I lived a double life where I dated non-Muslims but didn't tell my parents because I was not financially dependent. Two years ago, I finally was financially independent and about to live on my own so I broke the news to them - I had a serious boyfriend and I could see myself marrying him. He's white, raised Christian but Athiest, and perfect for me. But not according to my parents.
This started 1.5 years of yelling and lecturing me every time I spoke to my parents. Some of these in person fights included my mom throwing stuff at me and spitting on me while my brother or dad tried to hold her back. It also included lots of wailing about how my mom's "investment" was ruined (aka, yours truly) and how I'll lose the respect of our extended community.
As a note - my mom was so controlling, we never formed close relationships with family members or anyone else from our ethnic background. My mom basically told us we can only trust her, because no one will love us like she does. So I am not losing any relationships by being cut off by our cultural community - but my mom will lose her opportunity to brag about her "perfect" daughter.
The constant fighting ended in December when I got engaged - my nmom said I had to pick my fiancé or my family. I said it didn't have to be that way, but I am staying with him. From December on, it's been radio silence. I've actually enjoyed it a lot - the only con has been I haven't been able to talk to my youngest brother who I was very close to. We've exchanged some Facebook messages but my parents are monitoring his phone and email to make sure we don't communicate because they believe I am a bad influence (he's 16).
Fast forward to this past month, which was Ramadan - the month of forgiveness in Islam. My mother sent me a text with a link to a website with prayers a Muslim who commit a grave sin like murder should make. I didn't respond. My dad then asked me to call, which I did. On the call, he asked me to come visit and I said I'd only come if my fiancé comes because the only way to move forward that I can see is bring him with me. My dad started yelling that he'll never let "that man" under his roof, so the call ended.
Last night, my mom called me for the first time since December to ask if I'm married yet and whether my fiancé has converted to Islam. I said no; and he's not converting. In typical NMom fashion, she burst into tears and kept repeating "what is wrong with you? What is wrong with you?!" I tried to remain calm with her and tell her I don't think marrying a non-Muslim means I'm on a one way train to burn for eternity. I pointed out how the Quran doesn't explicitly prohibit me marrying him, which is when she started accusing me of making my own religion.
The one good thing about the convo is I finally told her how I think she's a crappy mom - who cuts their daughter off for months because they're displeased with a decision? I also called her out on the negative language she'd use on me my whole life - my earliest memory of her calling me a whore was when I was 8, sitting with my legs spread apart a bit. She pinched the inside of my thigh, called me a whore and told me to close my legs.
So after the call I felt drained, but good. It took 28 years to tell her she's not the amazing mother she thinks she is, and I survived! But then my edad called this morning, to tell me he thinks my mother is mentally ill and she's threatening to kill herself so please call her to apologize. I didn't feel any guilt at all making my mom feel bad, but I truly feel sorry for my dad and brothers. We all have lived our double lives and I think he just has no idea how to handle conflict. He ended my call with him by asking for us to talk about my future this weekend "like two adults." Even though I've never raised my voice at him and it's always been him and my mom throwing a tantrum...
So I called my mother this morning to apologize briefly and said I hoped she had a good day. She goes "I won't have a good day ever again knowing that my daughter is going to hell."
So that's where I am now. Torn about having this conversation with my dad sometime this weekend, but hoping to keep it brief. And I hope it results in them leaving me alone again for a while because I really enjoyed that silence.
Thanks for letting me vent RBN!
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2017.05.07 03:59 IAmBaconsaur Holier Than Thou thinks my womb is old and dried up

I would like to share a fun tidbit about my own mother, Holier than Thou, who believes she is the most amazing Christian mother who has ever graced this earth to the point she believes she should teach parenting classes. She's a raging Narcissist and has caused my Dad to divorce her, one brother to be VLC, I am NC, and my other brother (who was usually GC anyway) has become her only child.
Anyway, this little nugget of wisdom came when I moved back home after college, and after my internship. I had to do a long internship (6 months) after graduating college, and I started mine a little later. When I didn't get a job where my internship was (I tried desperately, but no dice) I had to move back in with NMom and EDad. I was there for a grand total of four months I wanted out of there so badly.
She was a total brat when I moved back in, including taking credit for my education, career, yadda yadda, she's so super important. So while I was living with her she decided to bestow upon me the knowledge and wisdom she had. One night, and for the life of me I don't know why she said it, but she decided to give me advice about who to marry.
Now, those of you with enmeshing NMoms know, dating was hard with her. I'd been out with different guys a few times, but nothing lasted long, and she made a huge deal out of it every time that I needed to "find a nice Christian man" to marry. So this night in question she tells me "You need to find a nice Christian man with some children, you'd be a good mom"
Excuse me? I have to find a man with kids already? It dawned on me. I wasn't married yet at 23, so she thought I was getting too old. Nevermind that she was 23 when she got married and 25 when my brother was born, but damn it, I was too old.
Joke's on her though, she's never met my DH (who is, annoyingly, a good Christian man, but I don't hold that against him) and she will never meet my children. And I'm fairly sure I'm able to have children still, I'm still years shy of 30 and have had no reproductive health issues.
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2016.12.07 16:55 eventbot What's happening around town (Wed, Dec 7th - Tue, Dec 13th)

Oklahoma City's event list.

Ongoing

  • A Christmas Carol (Plaza District) Thru Sat, Dec 24th Start Time: 12:30pm A spectacular new Oklahoma holiday tradition returns with Lyric Theatre's production of the Charles Dickens classic,…
  • Christmas in the Park (Yukon City Park, Freedom Trail Park & Chisholm Trail Park - Yukon) Thru Sat, Dec 31st Yukon's Christmas in the Park offers a beautiful lighted drive through three interconnecting parks. Yukon's…
  • Devon Ice Rink Thru Sun, Jan 29th The Devon Ice Rink returns for its seventh season in the Myriad Botanical Gardens this November through the end of…
  • Downs Family Christmas Lights (Down's Family Christmas Light Ministry - Norman) Thru Sun, Jan 1st The Downs Family Christmas Lights in Norman is one of the most spectacular light displays at a private residence in…
  • Chickasha Festival of Light (Shannon Springs Park - Chickasha) Thru Sat, Dec 31st The Chickasha Festival of Light has been recognized as one of the top ten holiday light shows in the…
  • Edmond Historic Tours (Downtown - Edmond) Thru Sat, Dec 31st Join experts with the Edmond Historic Preservation Trust and learn something new with a walking tour of historic…
  • Midwest City Holiday Lights Spectacular (Joe Barnes Regional Park - Midwest City) Thru Fri, Dec 30th Celebrate the magic of the season as over one million lights transform Joe B. Barnes Regional Park into a twinkling…
  • Holiday Pop-Up Shops Thru Thu, Dec 22nd Venture over to Midtown in Oklahoma City during the winter holidays, and gaze in wonder at the geodesic dome city…
  • in December (Downtown) Thru Mon, Jan 2nd Spend your holidays experiencing fun activities as downtown Oklahoma City is turned into a winter wonderland during the…
  • Jane Austen's Christmas Cracker! (Civic Center Music Hall) Thru Sat, Dec 17th ABSOLUTELY NO LATE SEATING.
  • The Mystery Lights (Journey Church - Norman) Thru Fri, Dec 30th Visit Journey Church in Norman to see a stunning Christmas Light Display. During the month of December, the church is…
  • Kingfisher Nights (Kingifhser City Park - Kingfisher) Thru Fri, Dec 30th Millions of lights are setting historic Kingfisher Park ablaze in the city of Kingfisher. Every evening from the…
  • North Pole Adventure (Plaza Mayor At The Crossroads) Thru Sat, Dec 24th Experience the thrill of North Pole right in the heart of Oklahoma City. North Pole Adventure is a one-of-a-kind…
  • Edmond Outdoor Ice Rink (Mitch Park - Edmond) Thru Sun, Jan 8th Enjoy holiday ice skating in Mitch Park at the Edmond Outdoor Ice Rink. Glide around the 117ft. x 56ft.…
  • PAMBE Ghana Global Market Thru Sat, Dec 24th PAMBE Ghana's Global Market features some of the most unusual, standout gifts in the Oklahoma City metro. This…
  • 🎨 Power & Prestige Children's Gallery (National Cowboy & Western Heritage Museum) Thru Sun, May 14th Held in conjunction with the Power & Prestige: Headdresses of the American Plains exhibition, the Power &…
  • Red Earth Treefest (Red Earth Art Center) Thru Fri, Jan 13th Celebrate the Christmas season at Oklahoma City's Red Earth Art Center during the fun and festive Red Earth…
  • 🎭 A Territorial Christmas Carol (Pollard Theatre - Guthrie) Thru Fri, Dec 23rd Get in the holiday spirit at the historic Pollard Theatre in Guthrie with "A Territorial Christmas…
  • A Tuna Christmas (Civic Center Music Hall) Thru Sun, Dec 18th The Canterbury Choral Society's annual Christmas show is a beloved and anticipated holiday tradition in Oklahoma…
  • Victorian Walk (Historic Guthrie - Guthrie) Thru Sat, Dec 31st Go back in time with a close-up view of Guthrie's historic architecture on the Victorian Homes Tour. The…

Wednesday, Dec 7th

  • 🎓 2nd Grade Class Visit (Noble Public Library - Noble) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 1:00pm Librarian visits to the 2nd grade classes at Hubbard. The librarian spends an hour reading books and making crafts based on a monthly theme. The following classes are visited: Grayson, Nash, Vaughn, Whitehead, Jonas, Tarp, Fuchs, Webster, Williams
  • 🎨 Acrylic Paintings by Rebecca Mannschreck (50 Penn Art Gallery) Day 1 of 2 Acrylic Paintings by Rebecca Mannschreck, through December 31st. 50 Penn Place Art Gallery, 1900 NW Expressway. There will be an opening reception at 6 p.m. Friday (November 11th) 848-5567
  • 🎓 Adam Davies snd Ed Brown discuss cryptids (Anomalist Books and Brews - Lexington) Start Time: 5:00pm Tickets for sale on eventbrite
  • Annual Fall Show (The Studio Gallery) Day 1 of 2 Annual Fall Show, Nov 17-April 30, The Studio Gallery, 2646 W Britton. There will be an opening reception at 5 p.m. Nov. 17, 752-2642
  • 🍴 Anthem Drown Night! (HiLo Club) Our local friends at Anthem Brewing Co. have some great beers! Every Wednesday night from 9pm to close enjoy $8 Drown Night! Their Power Pils will be flowing!
  • 🎓 Author Visit: Mark Greaney (Norman Public Library - Norman) Start Time: 7:00pm Mark Greaney has a degree in international relations and political science. He is the author of Commander in Chief, Full Force and Effect, and Support and Defend. With Tom Clancy he coauthored Locked On, Threat Vector, and Command Authority. He has written five books in his own Gray Man series: The Gray Man, On Target, Ballistic, Dead Eye, and…
  • Barrel Racing Futurity World Championship (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Thru Sat, Dec 10th The annual Barrel Racing Futurity World Championships come to Oklahoma State Fair Park. Put on by the Barrel Futurities…
  • Berwanger (89th Street Collective) Start Time: 7:30pm
  • 🎓 BUMP: Building Understanding of Maternity & Pregnancy (Samis Center at OU Children's Hospital) Start Time: 5:30pm
  • Norman Central -Ho-Ho-Holiday Movie Trivia (Norman Public Library - Norman) Start Time: 7:00pm Did your family fly to Paris and leave you home alone? Then come to our trivia night featuring questions about your favorite holiday movies and tv specials! All that time spent watching the 24-hour marathon of A Christmas Story will pay off. Participants can choose to play individually or on teams of up to 5 people. There will be prizes for the…
  • Child Labor in Oklahoma: Photographs by Lewis Hine, 1916–1917 (Oklahoma History Center) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 10:00am Child Labor in Oklahoma: Photographs by Lewis Hine, 1916–1917 is a snapshot of images by Lewis Hine whose photography captured the soul of the child laborer in north America in the early 1900s. Although Hine focused on major cities, he did take brief trips to other parts of the country to document child labor, including Oklahoma. Hine…
  • 😂 Comedy to the rescue (Loony Bin Comedy Club)
  • "Cowboy Crossing 2016" featuring Cowboy Artists of America (CAA) 51st Annual Sale & Exhibition and the Traditional Cowboy Arts A (Western Heritage Museum) Day 1 of 2 Opening Weekend October 13 - 15, 2016
    Featuring the Cowboy Artists of America (CAA) 51st Annual Sale & Exhibition and the Traditional Cowboy Arts Association (TCAA) 18th Annual Exhibition & Sale.
    In one of the most significant happenings to hit the world of fine art, the National Cowboy & Western Heritage Museum hosts opening weekend…
  • Del City Kiwanis Club (Rose State College - Midwest City)
  • Eamonn McCrystal / Chloe Agnew (OCCC Visual and Performing Arts Center) Emmy Award Winning Irish Tenor, Eamonn McCrystal & your favorite Celtic woman Chloë Agnew, join forces for an exclusive North American tour celebrating Irish culture, great music and Christmas. Don’t miss their one-night only performance in OKC. Enter Promo Code IRELAND for 15% off tickets.
  • 🎨 Exhibtion: Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting (Western Heritage Museum) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 10:00am **Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting **
    Ohio watercolorist and Prix de West winner, Lowell Ellsworth Smith (1924-2011), once referenced his *theology of painting *during an interview. Short but meaningful, the phrase summarized his relationship with art. It was more than a hobby or pastime. More than a career. It was the lens…
  • Family Play Time/ La hora de jugar en familia (Noble Public Library - Noble) Start Time: 10:30am Join us for a bilingual family play program for babies and children under 5 years of age. ¡Aprendan y jueguen todos juntos! Para bebés y niños hasta 5 años de edad con las personas que los cuidan.
  • Hard Candy Christmas - Sunny Sweeney, Brennen Leigh, Courtney Patton, Jamie Lin Wilson (The Blue Door) Start Time: 8:00pm
  • Holiday Carousel (Myriad Botanical Gardens) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 11:00am
  • 🎭 Intro to Belly Dancing (Moore Public Library - Moore) Start Time: 6:00pm Pamela Doty of the Beledi Magic Dance Company will lead a beginner's course in belly dancing! Come and have a great time learning this ancient and beautiful art. Registration required. Please wear comfortable clothing and shoes. All participants will need to sign the group waiver before the class begins.
  • It's a Wonderful Life (Oklahoma City University) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 8:00am Back by popular demand, this beloved American holiday film classic comes to captivating life as a live 1940s radio broadcast. With the help of an ensemble that brings a few dozen characters to the stage, the story of idealistic George Bailey unfolds as he considers ending his life one fateful Christmas Eve. This uplifting and endearing classic…
  • Lapsit Story Time (Moore Public Library - Moore) Start Time: 10:00am Each week, caregivers and their children sit together to enjoy developmentally appropriate stories, songs, fingerplays and bubbles. For babies 24 months and younger accompanied by an adult. For more information, call the Moore Public Library at 405-793-4347. For updates on special events and more, be sure to check the Website, like us on…
  • NORTH POLE ADVENTURE - 2016 Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 5:30pm
  • Oklahoma Sooners Mens Basketball (The Lloyd Noble Center - Norman) Start Time: 7:00pm
  • Picturing Indian Territory, 1819-1907 Rec (Fred Jones Jr. Museum of Art - Norman) Art Exhibition Exploring Oklahoma History Opens Oct. 6 at OU
    NORMAN, Okla. – Oklahoma history comes to life through paintings, lithographs, drawings and other media in a new exhibition at the Fred Jones Jr. Museum of Art on the University of Oklahoma Norman campus. Picturing Indian Territory, 1819-1907 opens with a public, complimentary…
  • Reading Wednesdays (St. Paul's Cathedral) Start Time: 6:00pm Wednesday Night Live
    For Pre-School through Adults
    Begins September 7 from 5:50-8:14 p.m.
    Family Time (meal) from 5:50-6:30 p.m.
    Bible Study in small groups
    Recreation/Games
    Family Worship
    Register online at www.stpaulsokc.com under the Youth tab or bring during office hours
    FREE events for everyone.
    Those who register receive a…
  • Secret Santa Toy Drive (Mattress Firm) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 10:00am All Mattress Firm stores in Oklahoma City are hosting a toy drive, the sixth of Mattress Firm Foster Kids’ 2016 donation drives benefitting local foster youth and families. Through Sunday, Dec. 18, 2016 during normal store hours, Mattress Firm will accept new toys and monetary contributions to spread holiday cheer for foster children and…
  • 😂 Trixx (Loony Bin Comedy Club) Thru Sat, Dec 10th
  • Walking in a Winter Wonderland (Mount St Mary Catholic High School) Start Time: 7:00pm Mount St Mary Catholic High School Music Department Presents Walking in a Winter Wonderland a Christmas Concert

Thursday, Dec 8th

  • 🎓 2nd Grade Class Visit (Noble Public Library - Noble) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 1:00pm Librarian visits to the 2nd grade classes at Hubbard. The librarian spends an hour reading books and making crafts based on a monthly theme. The following classes are visited: Grayson, Nash, Vaughn, Whitehead, Jonas, Tarp, Fuchs, Webster, Williams
  • 6X6 on 16th Group Art Show (District House) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 6:00pm We're excited to announce our 6x6 on 16th Group Art Show! During December's LIVE on the Plaza and the Thursday night before, work by artists of all skillsets done on 6in x 6in canvas will be available fpr viewing and for sale at District House.
    Wanting to submit artwork for the show? Here's what you need to know -
    • All artwork submitted to…
  • 🎨 Acrylic Paintings by Rebecca Mannschreck (50 Penn Art Gallery) Day 2 of 2 Acrylic Paintings by Rebecca Mannschreck, through December 31st. 50 Penn Place Art Gallery, 1900 NW Expressway. There will be an opening reception at 6 p.m. Friday (November 11th) 848-5567
  • Annual Fall Show (The Studio Gallery) Day 2 of 2 Annual Fall Show, Nov 17-April 30, The Studio Gallery, 2646 W Britton. There will be an opening reception at 5 p.m. Nov. 17, 752-2642
  • ASK (After School Kids) Prek-2nd Painting (Blanchard Library - Blanchard) Start Time: 3:45pm ASK (After School Kids) for grades Pre-K through 2nd. A book will be read to the children. December is a hands-on creative painting activity which the children will get to take home. Registration Required. All Supplies will be provided.
  • Barrel Racing Futurity World Championship (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Thru Sat, Dec 10th The annual Barrel Racing Futurity World Championships come to Oklahoma State Fair Park. Put on by the Barrel Futurities…
  • Capsize (89th Street Collective) Start Time: 7:00pm
  • Norman Central -Thursday Night Page Turners book discussion group (Norman Public Library - Norman) Start Time: 7:00pm Come talk books with the Thursday Night Page Turners book discussion group! All are welcome. Meets the second Thursday of every month at 7 p.m. Copies of the book are available at the Information Services Desk in the center of the library.
  • 🍴 Yukon Chamber of Commerce Membership Luncheon (YPS Admin. Bldg - Yukon) Start Time: 11:30am
  • Child Labor in Oklahoma: Photographs by Lewis Hine, 1916–1917 (Oklahoma History Center) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 10:00am Child Labor in Oklahoma: Photographs by Lewis Hine, 1916–1917 is a snapshot of images by Lewis Hine whose photography captured the soul of the child laborer in north America in the early 1900s. Although Hine focused on major cities, he did take brief trips to other parts of the country to document child labor, including Oklahoma. Hine…
  • Cover to Cover (Noble Public Library - Noble) Start Time: 1:00pm Join us for thoughtful discussions and great food with a good book. This month: Sweet Forgiveness by Lori Nelson Spielman.
  • "Cowboy Crossing 2016" featuring Cowboy Artists of America (CAA) 51st Annual Sale & Exhibition and the Traditional Cowboy Arts A (Western Heritage Museum) Day 2 of 2 Opening Weekend October 13 - 15, 2016
    Featuring the Cowboy Artists of America (CAA) 51st Annual Sale & Exhibition and the Traditional Cowboy Arts Association (TCAA) 18th Annual Exhibition & Sale.
    In one of the most significant happenings to hit the world of fine art, the National Cowboy & Western Heritage Museum hosts opening weekend…
  • 🎭 Dean Martin's Merry, Merry, Merry, Merry Christmas (The Yellow Rose Dinner Theatre - Moore) Start Time: 6:30pm THE YELLOW ROSE DINNER THEATRE PRESENTS
    DEAN MARTIN'S MERRY, MERRY, MERRY, MERRY CHRISTMAS THURSDAYS - SUNDAYS NOVEMBER 25TH - DECEMBER 18TH
    STARRING: MICHAEL COOPER AS DEAN MARTIN, JORDAN VANOVER AS JERRY LEWIS, GARY PARKS AS JIMMY DURANTE, AND TASHA SANDERS
    DINNER BEGINS AT 6:30 PM PRE-SHOW AT 7:00 PM MAIN SHOW AT 7:30 PM
    YELLOW ROSE…
  • 🎨 Drink and Draw (Brass Bell Studios) Start Time: 8:00pm Drink & Draw is hosted every Thursday at either Brass Bell Studios, The Okay See, or Tree & Leaf from 8-11pm.
    Here is the weekly schedule:
    1st Thursday: The Okay See
    2nd Thursday: Brass Bell Studios
    3rd - 4th - 5th Thursdays: Tree & Leaf
    Drink & Draw is open to anyone that wants to attend. While consuming alcohol is welcome, it…
  • 🎓 English as a Second Language Class (Purcell Public Library - Purcell) Start Time: 11:00am English as a Second Language class. All materials are provided.
  • Evin Brady (Wormy Dog Saloon)
  • 🎨 Exhibtion: Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting (Western Heritage Museum) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 10:00am **Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting **
    Ohio watercolorist and Prix de West winner, Lowell Ellsworth Smith (1924-2011), once referenced his *theology of painting *during an interview. Short but meaningful, the phrase summarized his relationship with art. It was more than a hobby or pastime. More than a career. It was the lens…
  • Family Night Skate (Skate Galaxy) Start Time: 6:00pm FAMILY NIGHT SKATE Thursdays 6pm-9pm & Sundays 6pm-8pm Admission is only $6 (includes skate rental) per person! Family Night $29 Package Special! Includes: Admission, Skate Rental, Pizza & Drinks For up to 5 Family members!
  • Final Drive (St Louis), Volition, Dred-Dour Start Time: 9:30pm
  • 🎭 Finding Santa (Chickasha Community Theatre - Chickasha) Start Time: 7:30pm
  • 🎭 Hands on Hardbody (Elsie C. Brackett Theatre - Norman) Start Time: 8:00pm HANDS ON A HARDBODY
    NORMAN—This December University Theatre will present the musical Hands on a Hardbody. The musical is infused with a country and rock-inflected score, telling the story of a hilarious, hard-fought contest for 10 down-on-their luck Texans, where only one winner can drive away with the American dream. Hands on a…
  • 🎓 Headliner Lecture: "Human Flourishing and the Urban Possibilities for our Grandchildren" (Oklahoma Memorial Union, Meecham Auditorium - Norman) Start Time: 6:30pm Human Flourishing and the Urban Possibilities for our Grandchildren December 8, 6:30 - 7:30 PM Meacham Auditorium, Oklahoma Memorial Union The University of Oklahoma 900 Asp Ave., Norman, OK 73019
    Register at http://www.ou.edu/flourish
    There is perhaps no more universal desire than to see our children and our children’s children flourish.…
  • Heavenly Holidays (University of Central Oklahoma - Edmond) Thru Sat, Dec 17th Liven up the holiday season and attend a performance of "Heavenly Holidays" at the UCO Jazz Lab in Edmond.…
  • Holiday Carousel (Myriad Botanical Gardens) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 11:00am
  • Holiday Happening 2016 (Sam Noble Museum - Norman) Start Time: 4:00pm Bring the family and come be merry at our FREE 2016 Holiday Happening event at the Sam Noble Museum! We'll have an elf scavenger hunt for kids, photos with Santa Claus, holiday music, storybook time with Pioneer Library System, dancing and discounts at Excavations, the museum store, so you can cross some names off your holiday shopping lists!
  • 🎭 Home for the Holidays (Oklahoma City University) Start Time: 8:00pm “Home for the Holidays is a fast-moving, beautiful and entertaining show with something for everyone,” Rowan said. Home for the Holidays is recommended for ages 6 and up. Show times are 8 p.m. Dec. 8 and 9, 2 and 8 p.m. Dec. 10 and 2 p.m. Dec. 11. Tickets are $29 each and can be purchased by calling 405-208-5227
  • It's a Wonderful Life (Oklahoma City University) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 8:00am Back by popular demand, this beloved American holiday film classic comes to captivating life as a live 1940s radio broadcast. With the help of an ensemble that brings a few dozen characters to the stage, the story of idealistic George Bailey unfolds as he considers ending his life one fateful Christmas Eve. This uplifting and endearing classic…
  • Jake's Jingle Jam (Riverwind Casino - Norman) Start Time: 7:00pm Head to Riverwind Casino in Norman for Jake's Jingle Jam. Featuring The Band Perry and Luke Combs, guests are in for…
  • John Moreland (The Blue Door) Day 1 of 2
  • Making Peace Series Pt 3: Being a Peacemaker in the 21st Century (Norman Public Library - Norman) Start Time: 6:30pm Join us for the third and final presentation in our three-part Making Peace Series. For many people, the swirl of events reflected in daily news reports—local, national, and international—fuel a sense of despair. The enormity of problems evident in the ongoing, horrific conflict in Syria or severe tensions along racial or religious lines…
  • 🍴 Moderns Annual Holiday Party (Oklahoma City Museum of Art) Start Time: 6:00pm Let’s kick off the holiday season by joining together for an evening of glassblowing and celebration! Enjoy cocktails, hors d’oeuvres, and the opportunity to create a one-of-a-kind glass ornament. *This is a Moderns exclusive event. Members are allowed to bring one guest each. Not a Moderns Member? Contact [email protected].
  • The Museum Store (Western Heritage Museum) Start Time: 10:00am Thursday – Saturday 10:00 a.m. – 9:00 p.m. Sunday 10:00 a.m. – 6:00 p.m. Join The Museum Store in Midtown Oklahoma City for a fun and festive shopping experience! From stocking stuffers to showstoppers, The Museum Store is here to help with your gift-giving needs. Admission is not required to shop. For more information, contact The Museum…
  • A Nice Family Christmas (Carpenter Square Theatre) Start Time: 7:30pm Carpenter Square Theatre celebrates the holidays during its 33rd Season with the Oklahoma City premiere of “A Nice Family Christmas,” a comedy by Phil Olson. All performances November 25-December 17, 2016 are at the theater, located at 800 W. Main in downtown Oklahoma City. Specific performance dates and times are: 8 p.m.…
  • NORTH POLE ADVENTURE - 2016 Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 5:30pm
  • One Incredible Moment (First Presbyterian Church - Edmond) Start Time: 7:30pm Calendar Notice. First Presbyterian Church of Edmond presents “One Incredible Moment,” a musical drama for the entire family of the Savior’s birth, life, death and resurrection. It is scheduled 7:30 p.m. Thursday-Sunday Dec. 8-11. There is no cost. Childcare is provided for the slightly over one-hour presentation. Under the direction of…
  • Pre-K Play (Moore Public Library - Moore) Start Time: 10:00am Preschoolers and their caregivers are invited to create and play in this hour-long come and go event.
  • Secret Santa Toy Drive (Mattress Firm) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 10:00am All Mattress Firm stores in Oklahoma City are hosting a toy drive, the sixth of Mattress Firm Foster Kids’ 2016 donation drives benefitting local foster youth and families. Through Sunday, Dec. 18, 2016 during normal store hours, Mattress Firm will accept new toys and monetary contributions to spread holiday cheer for foster children and…
  • SNU: JV Men's Basketball vs Mid-America Christian (Bethany Library - Bethany) Start Time: 6:00pm JV Men's Basketball vs Mid-America Christian http://snuathletics.com/calendar.aspx?id=3034
  • Tai Chi For Better Balance (Noble Public Library - Noble) Start Time: 4:00pm The movements of Tai Chi help all ages reduce stress, increase balance and flexibility. Participants learn relaxation to improve their overall mind, body and spirit through a series of slow continuous movements. This program is designed for people at all levels of mobility and can be performed standing or sitting. Please wear comfortable…
  • Teen DIY Christmas gifts! (Guthrie Library - Guthrie) Start Time: 5:00pm Hey Teens! Stuck on what to give for christmas this year? Come to the DIY Christmas event. Where you'll get the chance to make one or many of the options to give to your family members. Some of the gifts avaible are Costume Decorated mugs or vases, scented schets, jersey knit braclets, and an arrow bookmark.
  • 🎓 Teens! Hour of Code (Moore Public Library - Moore) Start Time: 3:30pm Teens! Get creative and learn the basics with coding in this annual and nationwide program, Hour of Code. The Hour of Code is a global movement by Computer Science Education Week and Code.org reaching tens of millions of students in 180+ countries through a one-hour introduction to computer science and computer programming. No prior computer…
  • 😂 Trixx (Loony Bin Comedy Club) Thru Sat, Dec 10th
  • Wind Symphony: Rhapsodies and Blues (University of Central Oklahoma - Edmond) Start Time: 7:30pm http://edmondok.com/calendar.aspx?EID=6941
  • 🏃 Zumba (Moore Public Library - Moore) Start Time: 6:00pm Latin and International music creates a dynamic, exciting, and effective fitness system! Participants must sign a waiver each class, and anyone under 18 must have parent/guardian consent and signature. This program is made possible through the Health Literacy Grant by Oklahoma Department of Libraries, Oklahoma Literacy Resource Office, and…

Friday, Dec 9th

  • 6X6 on 16th Group Art Show (District House) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 6:00pm We're excited to announce our 6x6 on 16th Group Art Show! During December's LIVE on the Plaza and the Thursday night before, work by artists of all skillsets done on 6in x 6in canvas will be available fpr viewing and for sale at District House.
    Wanting to submit artwork for the show? Here's what you need to know -
    • All artwork submitted to…
  • Barrel Racing Futurity World Championship (Oklahoma State Fair Park) 1 day left The annual Barrel Racing Futurity World Championships come to Oklahoma State Fair Park. Put on by the Barrel Futurities…
  • Brian Setzer Orchestra (Firelake Arena - Shawnee)
  • Heavenly Holidays (University of Central Oklahoma - Edmond) Thru Sat, Dec 17th Liven up the holiday season and attend a performance of "Heavenly Holidays" at the UCO Jazz Lab in Edmond.…
  • I See Stars (89th Street Collective) Head to 89th Street Collective in Oklahoma City for a thrilling night filled with upbeat electronic hardcore tunes.…
  • John Moreland (The Blue Door) Day 2 of 2
  • Pretty Boy Floyd et al. (Oklahoma City Limits)
  • Roy Clark (The State Theatre - Harrah)
  • Oklahoma City Thunder vs. Houston Rockets (Chesapeake Energy Arena) Start Time: 7:00pm
  • 😂 Trixx (Loony Bin Comedy Club) 1 day left

Saturday, Dec 10th

  • All-College Basketball Classic (Chesapeake Energy Arena) Start Time: 3:00pm The 2016 All-College Basketball Classic will be played on Saturday, December 10th at the Chesapeake Energy Arena. The contest will feature the Wichita State Shockers against the Oklahoma Sooners with tipoff slated for 3:00 PM.
    Children two and older must have a ticket.
  • America On Tap (Cox Convention Center) Start Time: 5:00pm Oklahoma City on Tap is coming to the Cox Convention Center on Saturday, December 10th from 5pm to 8pm. Sample over 100 releases from some of Americas best craft breweries. Plus hang out in an atmosphere filled with live music, delicious food available for purchase, and great vendors. Participants must be at least 21 years of age to attend.
  • Barrel Racing Futurity World Championship (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Last Day The annual Barrel Racing Futurity World Championships come to Oklahoma State Fair Park. Put on by the Barrel Futurities…
  • Blue October (Diamond Ballroom)
  • Oklahoma City Blue vs. Westchester Knicks (Cox Convention Center) Start Time: 7:00pm
  • The Drunkard and Olio
  • Heavenly Holidays (University of Central Oklahoma - Edmond) Thru Sat, Dec 17th Liven up the holiday season and attend a performance of "Heavenly Holidays" at the UCO Jazz Lab in Edmond.…
  • Lil Durk (ACM @ UCO)
  • OKC Dodgers Snow Tubing Winter Festival (Chickasaw Bricktown Ballpark) Day 1 of 2 Wavier must be filled out and signed by adult, parent, or guardian for each guest who wishes to snow tube. Follow link to download form, and present at will call.
  • 😂 Trixx (Loony Bin Comedy Club) Last Day

Sunday, Dec 11th

  • Danielle Nicole (Friends Bar)
  • Heavenly Holidays (University of Central Oklahoma - Edmond) Thru Sat, Dec 17th Liven up the holiday season and attend a performance of "Heavenly Holidays" at the UCO Jazz Lab in Edmond.…
  • OKC Dodgers Snow Tubing Winter Festival (Chickasaw Bricktown Ballpark) Day 2 of 2 Wavier must be filled out and signed by adult, parent, or guardian for each guest who wishes to snow tube. Follow link to download form, and present at will call.
  • Oklahoma City Thunder vs. Boston Celtics (Chesapeake Energy Arena) Start Time: 6:00pm

Monday, Dec 12th

  • Heavenly Holidays (University of Central Oklahoma - Edmond) Thru Sat, Dec 17th Liven up the holiday season and attend a performance of "Heavenly Holidays" at the UCO Jazz Lab in Edmond.…
  • Milk Moms (Thrive Mama Collective) Start Time: 6:00pm
  • Pint Night at The Mule (Plaza District) Start Time: 5:00pm Come try a new brew and keep the glass while you're at it!
  • Public Access: Open Mic Mondays (District House) Start Time: 8:00pm Got talents? Come rock the mic.
    Hosted by Matt Raney

Tuesday, Dec 13th

  • Heavenly Holidays (University of Central Oklahoma - Edmond) Thru Sat, Dec 17th Liven up the holiday season and attend a performance of "Heavenly Holidays" at the UCO Jazz Lab in Edmond.…
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2016.11.23 08:36 madelinevas A not-so-brief wedding timeline of a girl going insane by her Nmom & Edad.

I didn't flair this thread because it fits into almost all of them. It's a vent, looking for support. Gah. Just gah.
November 2015: Engaged! Hooray! Fiancé proposed on the tennis court we had our first date. So sweet, so meaningful. We get back home and before my mom even congratulates us she shoves a present into my arms. I unwrap it to reveal a wedding planner. Nope, can’t even go 24 hours enjoying engagement bliss… She then promptly sits me and fiancé down and forces us to go through the entire thing. Fiancé is overwhelmed. I am overwhelmed. This is just the beginning of a 20-month engagement shit show. We also are told that my parents have saved 10k for our wedding that we are free to use in any way that we like. If we want to spend 5k of it and spend the other 5k on our honeymoon we can. If we want to spend it all on the wedding, we can. Only stipulation is that we get premarital counseling. No problem there, FH and I had already planned on it.
December 2015: Making the guest list. Mine is 125, friends and family included. Nmom’s is 375, just friends. I’m the only daughter out of my two older sisters to have a “normal” wedding, which I originally wanted until my mom became insane. My mom insists that we make the guestlist 300, then divide it by 3rds. 100 to FH and I, 100 to his family, and 100 to my family. Oh and of course she gets to add someone for everyone not in the 100 for us and his family, she also gets a B-list for any “No” RSVP’s. I’m not allowed a B-List.
January 2016: Dress shopping because hotels in Chicago were cheap! I set the dress budget at a MAX of $3500. First stop I try on a bunch of dresses. My mom insists I try on every shape and style to see what I like. I like straight dresses and mermaid style. She decides she isn’t happy with her statement and tells me I look like a hobbit in every dress that style and that I have a huge gut. (I’m a size 0….) I also firmly say NO LACE. NO TULLE. She insists I try a fully lace/tulle ballgown. It looks pretty, but it’s $5500. Hell no. She cries. I try on another dress, find out it weighs 40 pounds which is a huge no for me since I am getting married in June. She cries again. Instructs Maid of Honor to take photos of the dress and the tag w/ style number since she will make sure I “change my mind by the end of the day.” I end up finding two dresses from two other stores that I love. One slightly more than the other. I am ready to bite the bullet, am crying happy tears, have a veil, etc. She says she needs a moment with me and the bridesmaids. She proceeds to tell me she hates the dress, it looks like I’m wearing lingerie. (Here’s a link to oh so scandalous dress: http://www.bhldn.com/shop-the-bride-wedding-dresses/rosalind-gown/productoptionids/fbcaeb8b-b90b-4e9a-9313-32da085940dd) She insists I try on 3 more dresses, but when I go to try on the dress I love I find out she has had it removed from the fitting room.
February 2016: I finally start going to counselling. My therapist is amazing, super lovely and everything you could ever want in a therapist. I am diagnosed with severe anxiety, and severe non-suicidal depression. Turns out a mentally and emotionally abusive nmom, and a verbally abusive edad will do that to you. Nmom is furious. HOW DARE I SEE A NON CHRISTIAN COUNSELOR?! Also, our 10k budget is slashed to 5k since FH and I are “Making so many decisions that [parents] are not happy with.” No decisions had been made. We hadn’t even picked a wedding date.
March 2016: With the wedding budget slashed I knew I had to start being money savvy. I noticed my 2nd favorite dress went drastically on sale for 24 hours. I texted my bridesmaids to get their opinion, hear back from two. “GO FOR IT!” No response from MOH. (Maid of Honor). I order dress and am overjoyed. MOH shortly thereafter, “Don’t you think you’re rushing into decisions? It seems like you’re just doing this to prove you can make a decision without your mom. I mean geez, I would’ve celebrated with you and popped some champaign.” (How? You’re 4 hours away and aren’t 21.) – I find out later this was my mom’s prompting. Nmom, “I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU MADE THIS DECISION! YOUR FATHER WANTED YOU IN THE LACE AND TULLE ONE AND WAS GOING TO PAY THE DIFFERENCE IN THE COST. I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU DID NOT INCLUDE ME IN THIS!” le sigh
April 2016: More therapy. It’s going great! Parents insist on making FH and I tour a country club to see as a potential wedding venue. I hate it. We aren’t members, never have been, and probably never will be. It’s run down, the carpets are stained, and to be quite frank I seemed more like a funeral home than a place for a wedding. Plus it’s VERY over budget. I put my foot down, FH backs me up. I end up getting an internship at a location that hosts weddings. They offer me their venue for 1/3 of the CC price. Whoop whoop!
May 2016: School is out plus it’s my birthday! Both of my sisters fly home to surprise me and it was awesome to see them both. My mom ignores the fact that it’s my birthday and tells everyone they came in town for mother’s day instead. On my birthday I receive a text from my boss. “Happy birthday! Hope you have a wonderful day. So glad you are working for us again this summer, we are SO excited to have you working for us for the 3rd year and are so blessed you’re on the team. Also, congratulations on booking your wedding at the Country Club! Jeff (my bosses’ husband) is the manager there and saw your parents there the other day and noticed your wedding and date on the books. I know it’s not your ideal venue, but I know that we can work together to make it beautiful!” Me: What? Parents can’t just book a wedding venue without the bride and groom’s permission can they? Ha. Hahaha. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA. Apparently they can. And they can disregard any and all wishes you have for your wedding too. Nmom: “BUT YOUR FATHER HAD HIS BAR MITZVAH THERE!” Me: “That was exactly 50 years ago. Also, he’s not even Jewish anymore.” Nmom: “WE HAD OUR REHEARSAL THERE!” Me: “That’s great for you, maybe if FH’s family can afford it we can have our rehearsal there too but it’s 3 times the 5k budget we currently have.” Parents: disregard everything
June 2016: Continually argue about everything. My mom has a suggestion for everything and when I politely decline she gets mean. Me: decides on flowers Nmom: “Well I don’t know why you would pick peonies. They’re SO expensive.” Me: “Well that’s why only the bouquets will be peonies, all the other floral will be eucalyptus and it will only cost a small amount.” Nmom: “Well I don’t think it will look good at all.” MOH emails me and CC’s her mother and mine into it: “Hello, I’m really concerned about the mental and emotional health of your family. I would like to invite you both to a much needed heart to heart so we can have a “come to Jesus” moment so we can all move along in the wedding planning process, that is if we decide there will even be one. Please join us at our house for light refreshments and some girl talk… [time, date]” – I find out later this was my mom’s prompting. I promptly reply that while it’s so very nice of her to try and mediate, I think that my mother and I desperately need to see someone with a little more experience in this area and would gladly come if a counselor who my mother and I agreed upon would join us. (i.e. my pastor) Response from MOH’s mother: “I’m not comfortable with your pastor being in our house. Please resolve your issues then you can contact my daughter again.” le sigh Two days later my mother sits me down in the living room, and they show up. Nmom & MOH’s mom ambush me. Things like “You just turned 22, your brain isn’t fully developed… How can you be getting married this young?” “When I was married everyone was thankful they got chicken and I was thankful for what my parents provided for me.” “Why can’t you just be happy your parents care SO MUCH that they already took care of the venue…?” bangs head against wall
July 2016: Mother tries telling me that if we have over 175 guests at the wedding I will have to pay for the extra, but we aren’t allowed to cut down the guest list and they HAVE to be allowed to have a B-list. So even if we get no’s we’re still adding yes’s to the list because they have to have all their friends at this damn event to impress them all. Arguing about gues tlist…. Arguing about guest list… Arguing about guest list… Then I receive a phone call. My best guy friend and one of our groomsmen died in a super tragic accident. He drowned in Lake Michigan. My mom starts praying immediately. 2 days later she insists we work on the guest list again. Groomsmen’s name is first one on the list. I tell her I need some more time before tackling the list because it was just too hard. Nmom: “I’ll just take him off the list for you. His parents can go too right?” That was the final straw for the guest list. I told her NO B-list. NO more adding everyone and their uncle. FH and I would have the final say on who was invited. That didn’t work. She’s still trying to add people, and as I write this in November is still adding them.
August 2016: I get 2nd job so I can avoid being at home as much as possible since I cannot handle her anymore. She goes sobbing to our pastor, also my FH’s and my marriage counselor, and starts telling him that I want this extremely extravagant wedding. I am manipulating everyone around me. I am a terrible daughter who is money hungry. I’m only nice when I want something from someone. The list goes on and on. Engagement photos! The photographer was one thing that I booked without my mom knowing and she is everything I could ever want. Nmom takes it upon herself to book me a makeup appointment at local department store. I go to appease her. Woman is 60-years-old, her foundation doesn’t match her skin tone, her mascara is on her eyelids. I show her the photo of what I want. She finishes in 10 minutes which is a record. She shows me, and it’s so terrible I just thank her and leave quickly so I have a chance to wash everything off my face and re-do my makeup. She only drew on one eyebrow. Nmom was upset because if the lady ever saw the engagement photos she would know I redid my makeup and she’s a friend of my mom’s so that would hurt my mom. Nmom also hides shoes I was planning on wearing because she is mad at me for something. I call the store and they say they’re delivered… I find them hidden in the guest bedroom closet.
September 2016: FINALLY BACK AT SCHOOL. FREEDOM. (If freedom can be found with 18 credits.) FH and I set up our registry on a whim and have a really good time. Nmom makes comments like “How dare you register for a $600 down comforter? Why do you need China anyway? No one is going to get you anything from Macy’s, Crate and Barrel, or Anthropologie. You need to register at Bed Bath & Beyond and Kohls.” Well, no we actually don’t. We also get our engagement photos back! They’re absolutely AMAZING. Honestly everything I every hoped for in photos and more. They’re the most gorgeous photos I’ve ever seen, but perhaps I’m biased. Nmom: “I hope you’re not going to use any of them for the Save the Dates. You better be getting a new photographer for the wedding because you aren’t looking at the camera in any of the photos except two.”
October 2016: Nmom: “You let your bridesmaids pick out different dresses? How will you know they coordinate?” Me: “Because I showed them the styles and colors they could pick from.” Nmom: “But what is [bridesmaid] picks a dress that washes her out? What if [bridesmaid] picks a dress that doesn’t flatter her? What if they colors don’t mix??? Me: ignores nmom Nmom: “Also why would you pick a date for your bachelorette party that makes it so your sister can’t come to the bridal shower your aunt is throwing?” Me: “I didn’t pick the date. I gave them 4 options, they all decided upon that one and didn’t CC me into the emails.”
November 2016: This was a fun month. sarcasm Yay for being engaged 1 year! My sister announces she’s pregnant with her 2nd child. I am OVERJOYED! She’s due 2-3 weeks before my wedding so there’s a chance she might not make it due to her already having a C-section. Although sad by this prospect I am WAY more concerned with her and the baby being healthy versus being at my wedding. I’m just super excited to be an aunt again! Nmom: “Do you realize she might not be at your wedding? Don’t you think it’s terrible she chose to have a child so close to your wedding day? What are you going to do if she can’t be there!??!!!” (essesntially, what will she do if her whole family isn’t there so she can pretend to have a perfect family? And a baby would take the attention off of her.) Me: “No, actually I’m really excited that my sister is having another baby. I already bought the baby its first outfit.” My dance teacher passes away so I return home the weekend before Thanksgiving break to attend. All but one of my classes are canceled so I don’t have to return home the following week and have a nice 10 day break. Parents aren’t home for beginning of break because they’re on vacation. I feel uneasy because there was a crazy person who came to our house this summer and started harassing my parents at 3am. The police were called and he was arrested. Granted it is months later, but being a woman, and being alone in a house is pretty terrifying. I decide to pick up my parent’s dog 2 days early from boarding to feel safer. I tell my mom I am going to get dog, she acknowledges this. I ask my dad for number of the person boarding the dog, he gives me this. I tell my mom I am doing this so I feel safer, she agrees with me. I pick up dog. (She’s a really good dog. Next day: nmom: “HOW COULD YOU LIE TO US AND THE PERSON BOARDING THE DOG? YOU ARE A PATHOLOGICAL LIAR. YOU ARE MANIPULATIVE. She then arrives home form her vacation and forces me to sit and be lectured in the living room. Essentially I manipulate my fiancé, my parents, all my friends, my bridesmaids. I am a habitual and pathological liar, and it’s my natural bent to lie in every circumstance. I was forced to pay my dad back for the 2 days my dog wasn’t being boarded at the place. (I don’t know how he “lost” this… The dog was still being taken care of by me… I messaged all my bridesmaids to ask if I was manipulative in any way shape or form. All said I haven’t been at all. Oh and Nmom also called my pastor to complain about my hair, and what a terrible and manipulate child I am. Honestly what would she do if I wasn’t a straight-a student, if I partied, if I was pregnant, if I actually was this terrible, awful, horrible person she makes me out to be? I really want to switch pre-marital counselors now because my mom’s first response is to go cry wolf to him to poison his mind against me. I can’t wait to see what December-June hold.
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2016.11.02 15:10 eventbot What's happening around town (Wed, Nov 2nd - Tue, Nov 8th)

Oklahoma City's event list.

Wednesday, Nov 2nd

  • 2016 Woman of the Year (Western Heritage Museum) Start Time: 6:00pm On November 2, 2016, The Journal Record will name a new Woman of the Year from a group of 50 honorees. The honorees will be profiled in a printed salute to the states female business…
  • 🎓 Academic Excellence Luncheon (Vast) Start Time: 11:30am The following individuals and organizations will be recognized for the 2015-2016 School Year: Central Oklahoma Spelling Bee Champion (a message from Sonic) Newspapers in Education…
  • Amarillo Junction (JJ's Alley) Start Time: 7:00pm
  • 🍴 Anthem Drown Night! (HiLo Club) Our local friends at Anthem Brewing Co. have some great beers! Every Wednesday night from 9pm to close enjoy $8 Drown Night! Their Power Pils will be flowing!
  • Beach Slang With Bleached (89th Street Collective)
  • Bi-Weekly Meetup (51st st. Speakeasy) Start Time: 5:00pm
  • Bringing Books to Life (Myriad Botanical Gardens) Start Time: 10:00am
  • Norman Central - After School Special (Norman Public Library - Norman) Start Time: 3:30pm After School Special combines books, a film, and an awesome craft for an afternoon of fun. This weekly program is for children in Kindergarten, First, and Second grades. For more…
  • 🎨 Norman Central - Ed Harris Film Festival (Relocated from Evans Theatre) (Norman Public Library - Norman) Start Time: 6:30pm Benefiting the Women's Resource Center of Norman (and previously scheduled at the Evans Theatres Robinson Crossing 6), the Ed Harris Film Festival screenings will now take place at…
  • 🎓 Norman Central - Robot Club (Norman Public Library - Norman) Start Time: 4:00pm Robot Club is for any teen interested in designing, building, and programming a real, working robot. The Norman Library is proud to offer Robot Club in fall on Wednesday nights,…
  • Child Labor in Oklahoma: Photographs by Lewis Hine, 1916–1917 (Oklahoma History Center) Thru Fri, Nov 4th Start Time: 10:00am Child Labor in Oklahoma: Photographs by Lewis Hine, 1916–1917 is a snapshot of images by Lewis Hine whose photography captured the soul of the child laborer in north America in the…
  • 🎓 A Closer Look at Ownership Transition - Real Life Stories (21C Museum Hotel) Start Time: 8:00am Learn how to tackle ownership transition and related liquidity issues that face every business owner. Do you know the pros and cons of alternative exit strategies? This seminar will…
  • "Cowboy Crossing 2016" featuring Cowboy Artists of America (CAA) 51st Annual Sale & Exhibition and the Traditional Cowboy Arts A (Western Heritage Museum) Day 1 of 2 Opening Weekend October 13 - 15, 2016
    Featuring the Cowboy Artists of America (CAA) 51st Annual Sale & Exhibition and the Traditional Cowboy Arts Association (TCAA) 18th Annual…
  • Del City Kiwanis Club (Rose State College - Midwest City)
  • 🎨 Exhibtion: Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting (Western Heritage Museum) Thru Fri, Nov 4th Start Time: 10:00am **Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting **
    Ohio watercolorist and Prix de West winner, Lowell Ellsworth Smith (1924-2011), once referenced his *theology of painting *during…
  • 🏃 Family Yoga Night (Noble Public Library - Noble) Start Time: 6:30pm Cooperative event with Shannon Scott. Please join the Noble Public Library and Shannon Scott for Family Yoga Night, every Wednesday. For more information please contact Shannon Scott --…
  • Featured Artists Jane White and Jessie Ann Wallentine rec (The Studio Gallery) Day 1 of 2 Featured Artists Jane White and Jessie Ann Wallentine
    The Studio Gallery, located at 2646 W, Britton Rd., is pleased to announce Jane White and Jessie Ann Wallentine as featured…
  • 🎓 Free Real Estate Legal Hotline (Oklahoma City Metropolitan Association of REALTORS® Foundation) Start Time: 10:00am The Oklahoma City Metropolitan Association of REALTORS® Foundation is launching its first legal hotline event. It will take place Wednesday, November 2nd!
    Experts will answer…
  • Get Dead (Drunken Fry) Start Time: 7:00pm
  • 🎡 Guthrie Haunts (4524 Riverside Cir - Guthrie) Thru Sat, Nov 5th Visit Guthrie Haunts for a terrifying Halloween experience that's full of scary fun. This haunted house is sure to…
  • Hosty (BleuGarten) Start Time: 5:00pm
  • Judah & The Lion (ACM @ UCO)
  • 🎭 Killer Joe by Tracy Letts (The Paramount OKC) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 8:00pm October 27,28,29 and November 3,4,5 at 8pm Civic Center Music Hall CitySpace Theatre Tracy Letts, the Pulitzer Prize winning playwright and native Oklahoman, began his career with…
  • Kool Smiles Operation Troop Treats (Midwest City Kool Smiles Office - Midwest City) Thru Fri, Nov 4th Start Time: 8:00am Bring your Halloween candy to any Kool Smiles dental office beginning Friday, Oct. 28 through Saturday, Nov. 5. You don't have to be a current patient to participate! For every 25…
  • Margot Holaday and Dodge Hill (The Studio Gallery) Day 1 of 2 Margot Holaday and Dodge Hill
    The Studio Gallery, 2646 W, Britton Rd., is pleased to have Margot Holaday and Dodge Hill as featured artists for the month of August.
    Holaday is an…
  • Mary Chapin Carpenter (Hudson Performance Hall)
  • 🎨 Melvin Edwards Exhibit (Oklahoma Contemporary) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 9:00am Melvin Edwards’ In Oklahoma features a dozen new, site-specific works by this internationally renowned sculptor. The exhibit includes 16 pieces from his famous Lynch Fragment series…
  • 🎓 Military Affairs Reception (Old Germany Restaurant - Choctaw) Start Time: 6:00pm Please join us for a meet and greet with the top leadership of Tinker Air Force Base. $15/person, RSVP to [email protected] by October 28th.
  • OU School Music Stephen Page (Catlett Music Center - Norman) Start Time: 8:00pm music
  • Picturing Indian Territory, 1819-1907 Rec (Fred Jones Jr. Museum of Art - Norman) Day 1 of 2 Art Exhibition Exploring Oklahoma History Opens Oct. 6 at OU
    NORMAN, Okla. – Oklahoma history comes to life through paintings, lithographs, drawings and other media in a new…
  • 🎓 Resistance Band Training (Purcell Public Library - Purcell) Start Time: 1:00pm RESISTANCE BAND TRAINING Resistance Band Training is a safe, progressive way to build and maintain the strength we need to perform activities of daily living. During this presentation…
  • 🎡 The Sanctuary (The Sanctuary OKC) Thru Sat, Nov 5th Experience four stories of terror in The Sanctuary, a horrific haunted attraction in Oklahoma City. The tragic…
  • September Mourning with Guests Start Time: 7:30pm
  • 😂 Vince Morris (Loony Bin Comedy Club) Thru Sat, Nov 5th 21 & over Show Time:Wednesday 11/2/2016 @ 8:00 PM Arrival Time:Wednesday 11/2/2016 @ 7:30 PM Buy Ticket 21 & over Show Time:Thursday 11/3/2016 @ 8:00 PM Arrival Time:Thursday 11/3/2016…
  • Viva GLART! Grow a Learner through Art (Noble Public Library - Noble) Start Time: 10:30am Bilingual early literacy practice through art play. For babies and children through age 5 and their caregivers.
  • 🍴 Way Back Wednesday - $1 Beer (Remington Park)
  • Western Movie Matinee: Romance Rides the Range (Western Heritage Museum) Start Time: 1:00pm Join us for these terrific “staff picks.” Popcorn provided. The Museum is admission free to all on Wide Open Wednesdays, courtesy of the Oklahoma Ford Dealers.
    November 2 - Romance…
  • 🎓 Woman of the Year Forum (Embassy Suites) Start Time: 8:00am Woman of the year Forumis held the morning of the Gala at the Embassy Suites Downtown Medical Center at 741Phillips Ave., Oklahoma City

Thursday, Nov 3rd

  • 2016 Dodgeball Tournament (Chickasaw Bricktown Ballpark) Start Time: 6:00pm Earn bragging rights at the second annual Dodgeball Tournament with the Oklahoma City Dodgers! This single elimination tournament is on Thursday, November 3 from 6:00-9:00 p.m. The…
  • Adam Hood (The Blue Door) Start Time: 8:00pm
  • Behnaz Sohrabian Gallery Opening (Edmond Fine Arts - Edmond) Start Time: 5:00pm http://edmondok.com/calendar.aspx?EID=6879
  • Child Labor in Oklahoma: Photographs by Lewis Hine, 1916–1917 (Oklahoma History Center) 1 day left Start Time: 10:00am Child Labor in Oklahoma: Photographs by Lewis Hine, 1916–1917 is a snapshot of images by Lewis Hine whose photography captured the soul of the child laborer in north America in the…
  • "Cowboy Crossing 2016" featuring Cowboy Artists of America (CAA) 51st Annual Sale & Exhibition and the Traditional Cowboy Arts A (Western Heritage Museum) Day 2 of 2 Opening Weekend October 13 - 15, 2016
    Featuring the Cowboy Artists of America (CAA) 51st Annual Sale & Exhibition and the Traditional Cowboy Arts Association (TCAA) 18th Annual…
  • 🍴 Dashing Dinner Theatre - Dinner for Two $29.99 (Remington Park)
  • 🍴 Drink and Draw (Okay See) Start Time: 8:00pm Drink & Draw is hosted every Thursday at either Brass Bell Studios, The Okay See, or Tree & Leaf from 8-11pm.
    Here is the weekly schedule:
    1st Thursday: The Okay See
    2nd…
  • 🎨 Ed Harris Film Festival Screening (Norman) Start Time: 6:30pm Benefiting the Women's Resource Center of Norman (and previously scheduled at the Evans Theatres Robinson Crossing 6), the Ed Harris Film Festival screenings will now take place at…
  • 🎨 Exhibtion: Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting (Western Heritage Museum) 1 day left Start Time: 10:00am **Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting **
    Ohio watercolorist and Prix de West winner, Lowell Ellsworth Smith (1924-2011), once referenced his *theology of painting *during…
  • 🎓 Family Play Time/La hora de jugar en familia (Blanchard Library - Blanchard) Start Time: 4:00pm Play and learn together! Bilingual story time f or babies and children up to age 5 and their caregivers. ¡Aprendan y jueguen todos juntos! Para bebés y niños hasta 5 años de edad…
  • Featured Artists Jane White and Jessie Ann Wallentine rec (The Studio Gallery) Day 2 of 2 Featured Artists Jane White and Jessie Ann Wallentine
    The Studio Gallery, located at 2646 W, Britton Rd., is pleased to announce Jane White and Jessie Ann Wallentine as featured…
  • Green River Ordinance Fan Presale (Wormy Dog Saloon) Start Time: 10:00pm Green River Ordinance live at Wormy Dog Saloon in OKC - 11/3 Stay tuned... announcement about the special guests being added to this date coming SOON!
  • GRO (Wormy Dog Saloon) Green River Ordinance brings their 'Country As Folk Tour' to OKC, returning for a show at Wormy Dog Saloon on Thursday, November 3rd! With special guests The Roosevelts and Castro -…
  • 🎡 Guthrie Haunts (4524 Riverside Cir - Guthrie) Thru Sat, Nov 5th Visit Guthrie Haunts for a terrifying Halloween experience that's full of scary fun. This haunted house is sure to…
  • 🎭 Killer Joe by Tracy Letts (The Paramount OKC) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 8:00pm October 27,28,29 and November 3,4,5 at 8pm Civic Center Music Hall CitySpace Theatre Tracy Letts, the Pulitzer Prize winning playwright and native Oklahoman, began his career with…
  • Kool Smiles Operation Troop Treats (Midwest City Kool Smiles Office - Midwest City) 1 day left Start Time: 8:00am Bring your Halloween candy to any Kool Smiles dental office beginning Friday, Oct. 28 through Saturday, Nov. 5. You don't have to be a current patient to participate! For every 25…
  • Margot Holaday and Dodge Hill (The Studio Gallery) Day 2 of 2 Margot Holaday and Dodge Hill
    The Studio Gallery, 2646 W, Britton Rd., is pleased to have Margot Holaday and Dodge Hill as featured artists for the month of August.
    Holaday is an…
  • 🎨 Melvin Edwards Exhibit (Oklahoma Contemporary) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 9:00am Melvin Edwards’ In Oklahoma features a dozen new, site-specific works by this internationally renowned sculptor. The exhibit includes 16 pieces from his famous Lynch Fragment series…
  • Miss Brooks Loves Books! (Blanchard Library - Blanchard) Start Time: 3:45pm Come meet Miss Brooks the book character from the book: Miss Brooks loves books! (and I don't) by Barbara Bottner. The story will be read to the children, there will be activities,…
  • PAMBE Ghana Global Market Thru Sat, Dec 24th PAMBE Ghana's Global Market features some of the most unusual, standout gifts in the Oklahoma City metro. This…
  • Picturing Indian Territory, 1819-1907 Rec (Fred Jones Jr. Museum of Art - Norman) Day 2 of 2 Art Exhibition Exploring Oklahoma History Opens Oct. 6 at OU
    NORMAN, Okla. – Oklahoma history comes to life through paintings, lithographs, drawings and other media in a new…
  • Planes Mistaken for Stars (89th Street Collective) Start Time: 7:00pm Planes Mistaken For Stars / Drug Church $10/$12
  • Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Management Support Group (Mental Health Association Oklahoma main office) Start Time: 6:00pm PTSD is a psychiatric disorder that can occur following the experience of witnessing of life-threatening events such as military combat, natural disasters, terrorist incidents, serious…
  • 🎡 The Sanctuary (The Sanctuary OKC) Thru Sat, Nov 5th Experience four stories of terror in The Sanctuary, a horrific haunted attraction in Oklahoma City. The tragic…
  • Survivors of Suicide Support Group (Mental Health Association Oklahoma main office) Start Time: 6:00pm Nearly 31,000 people take their own lives each year. As a survivor – a family member or friend of the victim – you may need help coming to terms with suicide. This group offers the…
  • 🎭 "The Sweetest Swing in Baseball (Carpenter Square Theatre) Start Time: 7:30pm Carpenter Square Theatre presents “The Sweetest Swing in Baseball,” a comedy-drama by Rebecca Gilman, October 14-November 5, 2016. All performances are at 800 W. Main in downtown …
  • Travis Traps (Farmer's Market) Start Time: 7:00pm
  • UCO Modern Language Talent Show (University of Central Oklahoma - Edmond) Start Time: 7:00pm Thu, November 3rd 7pm No cover · Open Seating
  • 🎨 UCOto Explore "The Art of Collecting" (Melton Gallery - Edmond) Start Time: 5:30pm 5:30 PM - Melton Gallery: At the center of this exhibit is a keystone work of art. The still life "Still Life with Shells and a Bottle" by Childe Hassam is an example of one of the…
  • University of Oklahoma Ghost Tour (University of Oklahoma - Norman) Discover the mysterious side of an Oklahoma landmark with a University of Oklahoma Ghost Tour. Visitors who join this…
  • 🎓 Veterans benefit trends (Touchmark at Coffee Creek - Edmond) Start Time: 12:00pm Touchmark at Coffee Creek hosts informative presentation by Lt. Col. Brian E. Bart, speaking on the changing trends and benefits for veterans. He is also a professor of Military Science…
  • 🎭 Victim Of Retirement, (Waters Edge Winery) Start Time: 7:30pm Whodunit Dinner Theater is nationally recognized as one of the top comedy troops in America. Feel free to use the attached photographs.
    Whodunit is teaming up with Waters Edge…
  • 😂 Vince Morris (Loony Bin Comedy Club) Thru Sat, Nov 5th 21 & over Show Time:Wednesday 11/2/2016 @ 8:00 PM Arrival Time:Wednesday 11/2/2016 @ 7:30 PM Buy Ticket 21 & over Show Time:Thursday 11/3/2016 @ 8:00 PM Arrival Time:Thursday 11/3/2016…
  • World Championship Quarter Horse Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Thru Sat, Nov 19th

Friday, Nov 4th

  • 2nd Annual Jasco Merry Market (Jasco Products) Start Time: 11:30am Featuring over 35 vendors and locally owned businesses (and the list is still growing!) Bring your Christmas list and come shop one-of-a-kind finds, jewelry, upcycled treasures, trendy…
  • 🎭 Annie (OCCC Visual and Performing Arts Center) Day 1 of 2 Come see preview shows of the national Annie tour. Sit back in the OCCC Visual & Performing Arts Center Theater and…
  • Bully et al. (Opolis - Norman)
  • Norman Central - Minecraft: Survival! (Norman Public Library - Norman) Start Time: 5:00pm Minecraft? Yes! At the Library? Yes! With your friends in a giant (16-computer) LAN party? Yes! 1st and 3rd Fridays: Minecraft Survival at the Computer Training Center for anyone ages…
  • Child Labor in Oklahoma: Photographs by Lewis Hine, 1916–1917 (Oklahoma History Center) Last Day Start Time: 10:00am Child Labor in Oklahoma: Photographs by Lewis Hine, 1916–1917 is a snapshot of images by Lewis Hine whose photography captured the soul of the child laborer in north America in the…
  • 🎭 Comedy Get Down (Chesapeake Energy Arena) Don’t miss a night of non-stop hilarious entertainment at The Comedy Get Down. Held at the Chesapeake Energy Arena…
  • 🎨 Exhibtion: Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting (Western Heritage Museum) Last Day Start Time: 10:00am **Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting **
    Ohio watercolorist and Prix de West winner, Lowell Ellsworth Smith (1924-2011), once referenced his *theology of painting *during…
  • 🍴 Fall Craft Show (Southgate Baptist Church - Moore) Start Time: 1:00pm Our annual Craft Show has over 50 vendors with unique items with everything from home decor, crafts & jewelry, kettle corn, baked goods, & the best burger you'll eat all year! Vendor…
  • 🎨 First Friday Gallery Walk (Paseo Arts District) Start Time: 6:00pm The First Friday Gallery Walk in the Paseo Arts District occurs on the first Friday of every month. Friday night…
  • 🎡 Guthrie Haunts (4524 Riverside Cir - Guthrie) 1 day left Visit Guthrie Haunts for a terrifying Halloween experience that's full of scary fun. This haunted house is sure to…
  • Haunt the Phil (Civic Center Music Hall) Day 1 of 2 Oklahoma's own Tony Award winner Kelli O'Hara is bringing a magical holiday performance to the Oklahoma City…
  • Kool Smiles Operation Troop Treats (Midwest City Kool Smiles Office - Midwest City) Last Day Start Time: 8:00am Bring your Halloween candy to any Kool Smiles dental office beginning Friday, Oct. 28 through Saturday, Nov. 5. You don't have to be a current patient to participate! For every 25…
  • 🎓 Management & Ethics Conference (Randall University - Moore) Start Time: 8:00am The Randall University Management & Ethics Conference Friday November 4th will feature more than 20 speakers sharing their expertise on management topics. This conference will equip…
  • Merry Market (Jasco Products) Whip out your holiday shopping lists and cross off a few names as you browse through gift offerings at the Merry Market…
  • 🎭 Michelle Rambo Master Class (The Sooner Theatre - Norman) Start Time: 10:30am
  • PAMBE Ghana Global Market Thru Sat, Dec 24th PAMBE Ghana's Global Market features some of the most unusual, standout gifts in the Oklahoma City metro. This…
  • 🎭 Pancakes & Booze Art Show (Farmer's Market) Underground art and breakfast collide when the Pancakes and Booze Art Show comes to the OKC Farmers Public…
  • 🎡 The Sanctuary (The Sanctuary OKC) 1 day left Experience four stories of terror in The Sanctuary, a horrific haunted attraction in Oklahoma City. The tragic…
  • 😂 Vince Morris (Loony Bin Comedy Club) 1 day left 21 & over Show Time:Wednesday 11/2/2016 @ 8:00 PM Arrival Time:Wednesday 11/2/2016 @ 7:30 PM Buy Ticket 21 & over Show Time:Thursday 11/3/2016 @ 8:00 PM Arrival Time:Thursday 11/3/2016…
  • World Championship Quarter Horse Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Thru Sat, Nov 19th
  • Zane Williams (Wormy Dog Saloon)

Saturday, Nov 5th

  • 🎭 Annie (OCCC Visual and Performing Arts Center) Day 2 of 2 Come see preview shows of the national Annie tour. Sit back in the OCCC Visual & Performing Arts Center Theater and…
  • Blue October in Concert (Diamond Ballroom) Feel the music as alternative band Blue October comes to Diamond Ballroom for one night only. Don't miss your chance…
  • 🎡 Central DASH 5K & Market and Craft Fair (Yukon) The annual Central DASH 5K & Market and Craft Fair in Yukon is a fun way to get fit and find handmade crafts all in…
  • 🏃 Choctaw Challenge (Choctaw Creek Park - Choctaw) USATF Sanctioned 5 K race & 1 Mile run for Tri-City Youth & Family Center, Inc. The agency provides outpatient behavioral health services. Shirts for first 200 race participants.…
  • 🏃 Crazy-4-Color 5K Run/Walk (Heritage Church - Shawnee) USATF certified course 5K Color Run & Family Festival Fundraiser
    http://www.crazy4colorrun.com
  • The Drunkard and Olio
  • Gin Blossoms (Riverwind Casino - Norman) Grab a seat at Riverwind Casino in Norman to see one of your favorite alternative rock bands perform live. Gin…
  • 🎡 Guthrie Haunts (4524 Riverside Cir - Guthrie) Last Day Visit Guthrie Haunts for a terrifying Halloween experience that's full of scary fun. This haunted house is sure to…
  • Haunt the Phil (Civic Center Music Hall) Day 2 of 2 Oklahoma's own Tony Award winner Kelli O'Hara is bringing a magical holiday performance to the Oklahoma City…
  • Jingle Bell Bazaar (Edmond) Head to the Jingle Bell Bazaar in Edmond and start your Christmas shopping early. This show features a wide variety of…
  • 🏃 KATS Making Tracks 5K (University of Oklahoma - Norman) ​The women of Kappa Alpha Theta are proud to announce our annual run benefitting Cleveland County Court Appointed Special Advocates (CASA). We invite you to be a part of our 5K & Fun…
  • Mary Chapin Carpenter in Concert (Hudson Performance Hall) Head to Hudson Performance Hall in Oklahoma City for a captivating live performance by Mary Chapin Carpenter. A…
  • 🎓 National Weather Festival (National Weather Center - Norman) The annual National Weather Festival in Norman highlights the many weather related organizations and activities in…
  • 🎡 Oklahoma Wine Walk (Brookhaven Village - Norman) Held at the beautiful Brookhaven Village in Norman, the Oklahoma Wine Walk invites visitors to enjoy delicious…
  • PAMBE Ghana Global Market Thru Sat, Dec 24th PAMBE Ghana's Global Market features some of the most unusual, standout gifts in the Oklahoma City metro. This…
  • Pumpkin Harvest Craft Festival (Robertson Activity Center - Yukon) Yukon's Pumpkin Harvest Craft Festival features more than 45 crafters selling everything from candles and home…
  • 🏃 Putnam City Cancer Classic (Wheeler Park) The event has grown each year, last year attracting more than 1,200 participants. The event so far has enabled the donation of more than $100,000 for cancer research at the Oklahoma…
  • $ Repticon Reptile & Exotic Animal Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Day 1 of 2 The Repticon Reptile & Exotic Animal Show at Oklahoma State Fair Park in OKC features vendors with reptile pets,…
  • 🎡 The Sanctuary (The Sanctuary OKC) Last Day Experience four stories of terror in The Sanctuary, a horrific haunted attraction in Oklahoma City. The tragic…
  • Storytime (District House) Start Time: 10:00am
  • Oklahoma City Thunder vs. Minnesota Timberwolves (Chesapeake Energy Arena) Start Time: 5:00pm
  • 🎓 Oklahoma City Traditional Music Association Workshop & Jam (Nicoma Park Christian Church)
  • 😂 Vince Morris (Loony Bin Comedy Club) Last Day 21 & over Show Time:Wednesday 11/2/2016 @ 8:00 PM Arrival Time:Wednesday 11/2/2016 @ 7:30 PM Buy Ticket 21 & over Show Time:Thursday 11/3/2016 @ 8:00 PM Arrival Time:Thursday 11/3/2016…
  • World Championship Quarter Horse Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Thru Sat, Nov 19th

Sunday, Nov 6th

Monday, Nov 7th

Tuesday, Nov 8th

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2016.10.05 15:30 eventbot What's happening around town (Wed, Oct 5th - Tue, Oct 11th)

Oklahoma City's event list.

Ongoing

  • 🎡 FrightFest (Starlight Amphitheater @ Frontier City) Thru Sun, Oct 30th This Halloween season, visit Frontier City in Oklahoma City for a day of thrilling rides and fun activities for the…
  • 🎡 Harvest of Fear Haunted Maize (Reding Farm - Chickasha) Thru Sat, Oct 29th For the whole month of October, Reding Farm in Chickasha will feature the Harvest of Fear Haunted Maize. Every Friday…
  • 🎡 Guthrie Haunts (4524 Riverside Cir - Guthrie) Thru Sat, Nov 5th Visit Guthrie Haunts for a terrifying Halloween experience that's full of scary fun. This haunted house is sure to…
  • Edmond Historic Tours (N Blvd & W Danforth Rd - Edmond) Thru Sat, Dec 31st Join experts with the Edmond Historic Preservation Trust to learn something new with a downtown tour of historic Edmond.…
  • 🎡 Newcastle Nightmare (Newcastle) Thru Mon, Oct 31st Newcastle Nightmare is a unique haunted attraction located south of Oklahoma City that puts a new twist on Halloween…
  • 🎡 Pops Arcadia Corn Maze (Arcadia) Thru Sat, Oct 29th Celebrate the fall season with a trip to the Pops Arcadia Corn Maze. Navigate your way through the maze, which has a…
  • Power & Prestige: Headdresses of the American Plains (National Cowboy & Western Heritage Museum) Thru Sun, May 14th Learn more about war bonnets and feather headdresses, iconic images of the American West, at the National Cowboy &…
  • 🎡 The Pumpkin Patch (Southern Hills United Methodist Church) Thru Mon, Oct 31st Head into the pumpkin patch at Southern Hills United Methodist Church and wander through the 3,000 gourds among the hay…
  • 🎭 The Rocky Horror Picture Show (The Boom) Thru Mon, Oct 31st The Boom, a combination club and live entertainment venue in Oklahoma City, puts on a production of the Rocky Horror…
  • 🎡 The Sanctuary (The Sanctuary OKC) Thru Sat, Nov 5th Experience four stories of terror in The Sanctuary, a horrific haunted attraction in Oklahoma City. The tragic…
  • 🎡 Terror on 10th Street Haunted House Thru Mon, Oct 31st A nightmare waits around every corner at the Terror on 10th Street Haunted House. Come face your worst fears at the 12th…
  • 🎡 Thunderbird Trail of Fear Haunted Scream Park (Noble) Thru Mon, Oct 31st The Thunderbird Trail of Fear Haunted Scream Park is the second location of one of Oklahoma's largest haunted…
  • Victorian Walk (Historic Guthrie - Guthrie) Thru Sat, Dec 31st Guthrie has long been a destination for fans of Victorian architecture and with this lovely holiday walking tour, you…
  • 🎡 Lexington Zombie Farm (Lexington) Thru Mon, Oct 31st Can you survive a walk through the Lexington Zombie Farm? Get ready to encounter things that go bump in the night, as…

Wednesday, Oct 5th

  • 🍴 Anthem Drown Night! (HiLo Club) Our local friends at Anthem Brewing Co. have some great beers! Every Wednesday night from 9pm to close enjoy $8 Drown Night! Their Power Pils will be flowing!
  • Benny Golson Quartet (UCO Jazz Lab - Edmond) Start Time: 8:00pm The BENNY GOLSON QUARTET will be performing a very special ONE-TIME ONLY performance at the UCO Jazz Lab next WEDNESDAY OCTOBER 5. This is an absolute DO NOT MISS event! Please spread the word!
  • Bi-Weekly Meetup (51st st. Speakeasy) Start Time: 5:00pm
  • Bringing Books to Life (Myriad Botanical Gardens) Start Time: 10:00am
  • Norman Central - After School Special (Norman Public Library - Norman) Start Time: 3:30pm After School Special combines books, a film, and an awesome craft for an afternoon of fun. This weekly program is for children in Kindergarten, First, and Second grades. For more information, contact the Children's department at 405-701-2630.
  • Norman Central - Baby Story Time (Norman Public Library - Norman) Start Time: 10:00am Calling all babies, toddlers and the ones who love them! It's time for Baby Story Time! Each week, we'll explore the world through books, songs, fingerplays and rhymes designed for the smallest library fans! This story time is great for ages birth to 24 months. For more information, please call the Children's department at 405-701-2630.
  • Norman Central - Getting Started with Computers, Day 3 (Norman Public Library - Norman) Start Time: 1:00pm Come to the Library and get started learning computers! This is the third day of a five-day series. On Day 3, we'll be using the Internet for the very first time! While this is a five-day series, participants are welcome to attend only for the events in the series where they feel comfortable. We'd love to see you each of the five days, but - for…
  • 🎓 Norman Central - Robot Club (Norman Public Library - Norman) Start Time: 4:00pm Robot Club is for any teen interested in designing, building, and programming a real, working robot. The Norman Library is proud to offer Robot Club in fall on Wednesday nights, 4:00-6:00. Any teen (grade 6-12) who is interested and wants to show up to every week of Robot Club may apply by visiting this website . If you have any questions,…
  • 🎨 Child Labor in Oklahoma: Photographs by Lewis Hine, 1916–1917 (Oklahoma History Center) 1 day left Start Time: 10:00am Child Labor in Oklahoma: Photographs by Lewis Hine, 1916–1917 is a snapshot of images by Lewis Hine whose photography captured the soul of the child laborer in north America in the early 1900s. Although Hine focused on major cities, he did take brief trips to other parts of the country to document child labor, including Oklahoma. Hine…
  • Del City Kiwanis Club (Rose State College - Midwest City)
  • 🎨 Exhibtion: Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting (Western Heritage Museum) 1 day left Start Time: 10:00am **Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting **
    Ohio watercolorist and Prix de West winner, Lowell Ellsworth Smith (1924-2011), once referenced his *theology of painting *during an interview. Short but meaningful, the phrase summarized his relationship with art. It was more than a hobby or pastime. More than a career. It was the lens…
  • Family Play Time/ La hora de jugar en familia (Noble Public Library - Noble) Start Time: 10:30am Join us for a bilingual family play program for babies and children under 5 years of age. ¡Aprendan y jueguen todos juntos! Para bebés y niños hasta 5 años de edad con las personas que los cuidan.
  • 🏃 Family Yoga Night (Noble Public Library - Noble) Start Time: 6:30pm Cooperative event with Shannon Scott. Please join the Noble Public Library and Shannon Scott for Family Yoga Night, every Wednesday. For more information please contact Shannon Scott -- [email protected] (405) 517-9605
  • Hospice Volunteer Opportunities (New Century Hospice, Inc.) 1 day left Start Time: 9:00am The services you will give as a Hospice volunteer will profoundly improve the quality of our patient's lives. Friendly visits enable families to keep their loved ones at home, around the people they love, and the things they love. Assisting with errands helps a tired family cope with their many challenges and allows them time with their loved…
  • Kevin Devine w/ Chase Kerby (Opolis Prod - Norman) Start Time: 7:00pm Opolis Prod presents: Kevin Devine w/ Chase Kerby + The Villains at Opolis
    Wednesday, October 5th, 2016 Doors - 7pm // Show - 8pm $12 adv $14 day of 21+ BUY TICKETS HERE: http://www.ticketstorm.com/event/kevindevine/opolisproduction/norman/17801/ http://www.kevindevine.net/ http://chasekerby.com/
  • Landry (Loony Bin Comedy Club) Thru Sat, Oct 8th music
  • Lapsit Story Time (Moore Public Library - Moore) Start Time: 10:00am Each week, caregivers and their children sit together to enjoy developmentally appropriate stories, songs, fingerplays and bubbles. For babies 24 months and younger accompanied by an adult. For more information, call the Moore Public Library at 405-793-4347. For updates on special events and more, be sure to check the Website, like us on…
  • Make America Rock Again (The Criterion) Start Time: 7:00pm Make America Rock Again Tour Featuring: Trapt, Saliva, Saving Abel, Alien Ant Farm, Crazytown, 12 Stones, and Tantric Doors: 6:00pm Show: 7:00pm Early Entry and Meet and Greet tickets available
  • Margot Holaday and Dodge Hill (The Studio Gallery) Margot Holaday and Dodge Hill
    The Studio Gallery, 2646 W, Britton Rd., is pleased to have Margot Holaday and Dodge Hill as featured artists for the month of August.
    Holaday is an experienced artist who recieved her Bachelor of Fine Arts from the University Of Oklahoma. She has participated in local art shows, in Texas
    and has had…
  • MC Chris (89th Street Collective)
  • Oil Paintingws by Russell Hughes (50 Penn Art Gallery) Day 2 of 2 Carolyn, please run the following under the Exhibits listing in the
    September 4th edition of the Oklahoman:
    *Oil Paintings by Russell Hughes, *through October 29th.
    50 Penn Art Gallery, 1900 NW Expressway. There will be an
    opening reception at 6 p.m. Friday (Sept. 9th) 848-5567
  • Quirky Quilt Show Giveaway Builds Homes for Foster Children (Paseo Arts District) 1 day left Start Time: 12:00pm WHEN: October 1-31, 2016 WHERE: Paseo Arts District, 3022 Paseo, OKC, OK WHY: Quilt Show/Giveaway during American Craft Celebration WHAT: Quirky Quilt Show Giveaway Builds Homes for Foster Children The Paseo Arts District features a Quirky Quilt Exhibit/Giveaway to build new happy homes for foster children at the Peppers Ranch Foster Care…
  • The Struts in Concert (Diamond Ballroom) Experience classic rock from a contemporary hard rock band as The Struts trek from England to Oklahoma City. After…
  • The Struts OKC 10/5 (Diamond Ballroom) Start Time: 8:00pm THE STRUTS OCTOBER 5, 2016 7PM DOORS / 8PM SHOW TIX AT BUY FOR LESS 866-977-6849 www.diamondballroom.com Direct Link: http://bit.ly/THESTRUTSokc ON SALE FRI 7/15 10AM
  • 🎓 Tai Chi Moving For Better Balance (Purcell Public Library - Purcell) Start Time: 1:00pm The movements of Tai Chi help all ages reduce stress, increase balance and flexibility. Participants learn relaxation to improve their overall mind, body and spirit through a series of slow continuous movements. This program is designed for people at all levels of mobility and can be performed standing or sitting. Please wear comfortable…
  • 🎨 Volunteer for Cloud City by Tomás Saraceno Day 2 of 2 Tomás Saraceno’s Cloud City is coming to Oklahoma City! Get to know the large-scale installation inside and out as a volunteer for this “utopian city in the sky” during its five-week run at Campbell Art Park, adjacent to our planned art campus at NW 11th and Broadway. To show our appreciation, volunteers who work three shifts will…
  • 🍴 Way Back Wednesday - $1 Beer (Remington Park)
  • 🎓 Western Movie Matinee: Hud (Western Heritage Museum) Start Time: 1:00pm Join us for these terrific “staff picks.” Popcorn provided. The Museum is admission free to all on Wide Open Wednesdays, courtesy of the Oklahoma Ford Dealers.
    October 5 – Hud Hard-drinking, arrogant, womanizing Hud Bannon (Paul Newman) lives a self-centered, indolent life supported by his hard-working and morally upstanding father, Homer…

Thursday, Oct 6th

  • Big Daddy Weave in Concert (Quail Springs Baptist Church) Come see one of the top Christian music artists perform live at Quail Springs Baptist Church. Supporting acts Plumb and…
  • 🎓 Norman Central - Getting Started with Computers, Day 4 (Norman Public Library - Norman) Start Time: 1:00pm Come to the Library and get started learning computers! This is the fourth day of a five-day series. On Day 4, we'll be working on file management skills: how to create, organize, and move files and folders in Windows. While this is a five-day series, participants are welcome to attend only for the events in the series where they feel…
  • 🎓 Norman Central -Science Cafe (Norman Public Library - Norman) Start Time: 7:00pm STEAM Tweens connects kids with Science, Technology, Engineering, Art & Design, and Mathematics in the library! Each week, join us as we explore and create different things of the STEAM variety! This program is for ages 8-12 or children in third, fourth, fifth, or sixth grades. For more information, please call the Children's desk at 405-701-2630.
  • Norman Central - Toddler Explorers (Norman Public Library - Norman) Start Time: 10:00am Toddler Explorers is an hour of fun activities for toddlers and the grown-ups who love them. This is a monthly come-and-go event and will take place on the first Thursday of the month for one hour. Previously known as Baby Time and Baby Crafts, this program is best for ages 12-36 months. For more information, contact the Children's department at…
  • 🎨 Child Labor in Oklahoma: Photographs by Lewis Hine, 1916–1917 (Oklahoma History Center) Last Day Start Time: 10:00am Child Labor in Oklahoma: Photographs by Lewis Hine, 1916–1917 is a snapshot of images by Lewis Hine whose photography captured the soul of the child laborer in north America in the early 1900s. Although Hine focused on major cities, he did take brief trips to other parts of the country to document child labor, including Oklahoma. Hine…
  • 🎨 Cloud City by Tomás Saraceno Start Time: 5:00pm Cloud City , Tomás Saraceno’s 28-foot-tall steel and acrylic sculpture, will refract and rearrange the Oklahoma City skyline beginning Sept. 8. The structure, previously installed atop New York’s Metropolitan Museum of Art and at the Green Box Arts Festival in Green Mountain Falls, Colo., can be explored from the inside and out. Visit NW…
  • 🎭 Dancing in the Gardens featuring Line Dancing! (Myriad Botanical Gardens) Start Time: 7:00pm
  • Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood (Rose State College - Midwest City) Start Time: 6:30pm
  • Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood (Hudiburg Chevrolet Center)
  • 🎓 English as a Second Language Class (Purcell Public Library - Purcell) Start Time: 11:00am English as a Second Language class. All materials are provided.
  • 🎨 Exhibtion: Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting (Western Heritage Museum) Last Day Start Time: 10:00am **Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting **
    Ohio watercolorist and Prix de West winner, Lowell Ellsworth Smith (1924-2011), once referenced his *theology of painting *during an interview. Short but meaningful, the phrase summarized his relationship with art. It was more than a hobby or pastime. More than a career. It was the lens…
  • 🎓 Homeschool Heroes (Noble Public Library - Noble) Start Time: 1:00pm A home-school meet-up where the students present on a different topic each month. The students bring their research to share in a variety of forms, which could include food, posters, speeches, dioramas, etc... Interested families should contact the Noble Library at 872-5713 and speak with Maureen. October 6: Cooking Bring something prepared with…
  • Hospice Volunteer Opportunities (New Century Hospice, Inc.) Last Day Start Time: 9:00am The services you will give as a Hospice volunteer will profoundly improve the quality of our patient's lives. Friendly visits enable families to keep their loved ones at home, around the people they love, and the things they love. Assisting with errands helps a tired family cope with their many challenges and allows them time with their loved…
  • James Garr Gallery Opening (Edmond Fine Arts - Edmond) Start Time: 5:00pm http://edmondok.com/calendar.aspx?EID=6878
  • Knocked Loose (89th Street Collective) Start Time: 7:00pm
  • Landry (Loony Bin Comedy Club) Thru Sat, Oct 8th music
  • 🎓 Oh Whata Night (Whataburger) Start Time: 5:00pm On Thursday, Oct. 6, Whataburger customers can show their support for Hilldale Elementary School by enjoying their favorite menu items, and 20 percent of Whataburger’s sales from 5 to 8 p.m. will be donated to the school. To add to the fun, there will be a face painter and caricature artist at the event.
  • Quirky Quilt Show Giveaway Builds Homes for Foster Children (Paseo Arts District) Last Day Start Time: 12:00pm WHEN: October 1-31, 2016 WHERE: Paseo Arts District, 3022 Paseo, OKC, OK WHY: Quilt Show/Giveaway during American Craft Celebration WHAT: Quirky Quilt Show Giveaway Builds Homes for Foster Children The Paseo Arts District features a Quirky Quilt Exhibit/Giveaway to build new happy homes for foster children at the Peppers Ranch Foster Care…
  • SNU: 10/6 7:00 PM Soccer (M) vs Northeastern State (Bethany Library - Bethany) Start Time: 7:00pm Soccer (M) vs Northeastern State\nStreaming Video: https://www.youtube.com/useSNUCrimsonStorm\n http://snuathletics.com/calendar.aspx?id=2883
  • 🎓 Tamara Draut on the Sleeping Giant: How the New Working Class will Transform America (Fairview Baptish Church) Start Time: 11:30am Tamara Draut, Vice-President of Demos and author of an important new book on the American labor movement, Sleeping Giant: How the New Working Class Will Transform America", will be the featured speaker at the Central Oklahoma Community Forum’s 2016 Labor-Religion luncheon. The event, beginning at 11:30 am, is at Fairview…
  • Thunder in the Heartland NHRA Drag Racing (Thunder Valley Raceway Park - Lexington) Thru Sun, Oct 9th Bring the whole family out to Noble's Thunder Valley Raceway Park for Thunder in the Heartland NHRA Drag Racing.…
  • The Violent Art Tour (Elite Studios) Start Time: 7:00pm
  • Viva Glart! (Blanchard Library - Blanchard) Start Time: 4:00pm Bilingual early literacy practice through art play. For babies and children through age 5 and their caregivers.
  • 🏃 Zumba (Moore Public Library - Moore) Start Time: 6:00pm Latin and International music creates a dynamic, exciting, and effective fitness system! Participants must sign a waiver each class, and anyone under 18 must have parent/guardian consent and signature. This program is made possible through the Health Literacy Grant by Oklahoma Department of Libraries, Oklahoma Literacy Resource Office, and…

Friday, Oct 7th

  • Alesana et al. (89th Street Collective) Come to 89th Street Collective to see Alesana perform tracks off their "On Frail Wings of Vanity and Wax"…
  • Ben Rector et al. (Oklahoma Christian University, Edmond, OK - Edmond)
  • Bob Schneider (ACM @ UCO)
  • Camp Fired-Up (Camp DaKaNi) Round up the family for a camp experience at Camp DaKaNi. At Camp Fired-Up, a one-day camp immersion, encourage the…
  • 🎡 Dead Woods Trail of Fear (Luther) Thru Mon, Oct 31st Dead Woods Trail of Fear is the latest invention of The Trail of Fear Haunted Scream Parks. This is the third…
  • 🎨 First Friday Gallery Walk (Paseo Arts District) The First Friday Gallery Walk in the Paseo Arts District occurs on the first Friday of every month. Friday night…
  • 🎭 Heathers the Musical (Pollard Theatre - Guthrie) Thru Sat, Oct 29th Just in time for Halloween, the Pollard Theatre in Guthrie presents Heathers The Musical. This darkly delicious show…
  • 🎡 Ink Life Tour Tattoo & Music Festival (Cox Convention Center) Thru Sun, Oct 9th The Ink Life Tour Tattoo & Music Festival comes to the Cox Convention Center in OKC for three days of music and fun.…
  • Landry (Loony Bin Comedy Club) 1 day left music
  • 🍴 Market on the Meadows (Macomb) Day 1 of 2 Regardless of the weather, head to the rural community of Macomb for a fun weekend of picking during Market on the…
  • Melanie Martinez et al. (Diamond Ballroom) Head to Diamond Ballroom for an evening of pure pop magic as Melanie Martinez takes the stage at this Oklahoma City…
  • Neil Sedaka (Grand Casino Hotel & Resort - Shawnee) With over 60 years of music industry experience, Neil Sedaka is sure to please the Grand Casino Hotel & Resort crowd…
  • 🎡 Pumpkinville (Myriad Botanical Gardens) Thru Sun, Oct 23rd Make your way to Pumpkinville at the Myriad Botanical Gardens in Oklahoma City to celebrate the fall season. Explore the…
  • Thunder in the Heartland NHRA Drag Racing (Thunder Valley Raceway Park - Lexington) Thru Sun, Oct 9th Bring the whole family out to Noble's Thunder Valley Raceway Park for Thunder in the Heartland NHRA Drag Racing.…

Saturday, Oct 8th

  • Moore Arts & Crafts Festival (Moore Central Park - Moore) Head to Moore for a day spent immersed in arts and crafts. At the Moore Central Park Multi-Purpose Pavilion, 25 vendors…
  • Classy Craft & Junk in the Trunk Show (Schrock Park - Tuttle) Pick out your favorite crafts and treasured recycled items at the Classy Craft & Junk in the Trunk Show in Tuttle.…
  • 🎡 Dead Woods Trail of Fear (Luther) Thru Mon, Oct 31st Dead Woods Trail of Fear is the latest invention of The Trail of Fear Haunted Scream Parks. This is the third…
  • 🎡 Fall Into Art (Martin Nature Park) Fall Into Art at the Martin Park Nature Center in Oklahoma City. Bring the whole family down to enjoy a variety of…
  • Fit For An Autopsy et al. (89th Street Collective)
  • 🎨 Free Family Make + Take Art Project: Dreamcatcher (Oklahoma Contemporary) Enjoy some quality time with your children and help them develop their creative skills at this family-friendly art…
  • Grand National & World Championship Morgan Horse Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Thru Sat, Oct 15th
  • 🎡 ' Haunt the River (Oklahoma River Cruises) Thru Sat, Oct 29th Take a spooky voyage and leave the safe harbor behind for an ominous adventure on the waters of the Oklahoma River.…
  • 🎭 Heathers the Musical (Pollard Theatre - Guthrie) Thru Sat, Oct 29th Just in time for Halloween, the Pollard Theatre in Guthrie presents Heathers The Musical. This darkly delicious show…
  • 🎡 Ink Life Tour Tattoo & Music Festival (Cox Convention Center) 1 day left The Ink Life Tour Tattoo & Music Festival comes to the Cox Convention Center in OKC for three days of music and fun.…
  • Landry (Loony Bin Comedy Club) Last Day music
  • 🍴 Market on the Meadows (Macomb) Day 2 of 2 Regardless of the weather, head to the rural community of Macomb for a fun weekend of picking during Market on the…
  • $ OKC Gun Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Day 1 of 2 For a high quality gun show with great prices and selection, visit the OKC Gun Show in Oklahoma City. Held at the…
  • Old Oak Farms Flea Market (Minco) Old Oak Farms Flea Market features fall fare in every variety. Gather in Minco and get into the Halloween spirit by…
  • 🎡 Pumpkinville (Myriad Botanical Gardens) Thru Sun, Oct 23rd Make your way to Pumpkinville at the Myriad Botanical Gardens in Oklahoma City to celebrate the fall season. Explore the…
  • $ Spirit, Mind & Body Expo (Biltmore Hotel) Day 1 of 2 If you're interested in metaphysical subjects, you'll want to check out the Spirit, Mind & Body Expo held at…
  • Thunder in the Heartland NHRA Drag Racing (Thunder Valley Raceway Park - Lexington) 1 day left Bring the whole family out to Noble's Thunder Valley Raceway Park for Thunder in the Heartland NHRA Drag Racing.…
  • Zombie Bolt 5K (Mitch Park - Edmond) Prepare yourself for a zombie infestation like never before as undead ghouls take over Mitch Park in the city of Edmond…

Sunday, Oct 9th

  • Big Daddy Weave et al. (Quail Springs Baptist Church)
  • 🎡 Dead Woods Trail of Fear (Luther) Thru Mon, Oct 31st Dead Woods Trail of Fear is the latest invention of The Trail of Fear Haunted Scream Parks. This is the third…
  • Grand National & World Championship Morgan Horse Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Thru Sat, Oct 15th
  • 🎡 ' Haunt the River (Oklahoma River Cruises) Thru Sat, Oct 29th Take a spooky voyage and leave the safe harbor behind for an ominous adventure on the waters of the Oklahoma River.…
  • 🎭 Heathers the Musical (Pollard Theatre - Guthrie) Thru Sat, Oct 29th Just in time for Halloween, the Pollard Theatre in Guthrie presents Heathers The Musical. This darkly delicious show…
  • 🎡 Ink Life Tour Tattoo & Music Festival (Cox Convention Center) Last Day The Ink Life Tour Tattoo & Music Festival comes to the Cox Convention Center in OKC for three days of music and fun.…
  • $ Motorcycle Swap Meet (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Get ready to see some unique, top-of-the-line motorcycles and turn your bike parts into cash at the Motorcycle Swap Meet…
  • $ OKC Gun Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Day 2 of 2 For a high quality gun show with great prices and selection, visit the OKC Gun Show in Oklahoma City. Held at the…
  • 🎡 Pumpkinville (Myriad Botanical Gardens) Thru Sun, Oct 23rd Make your way to Pumpkinville at the Myriad Botanical Gardens in Oklahoma City to celebrate the fall season. Explore the…
  • Rally Around the Pits Motorcycle Rally (Iron Nation Harley Davidson - Edmond) Head to Rally Around the Pits in Edmond to enjoy a family-friendly motorcycle rally. Admire the polished chrome and…
  • $ Spirit, Mind & Body Expo (Biltmore Hotel) Day 2 of 2 If you're interested in metaphysical subjects, you'll want to check out the Spirit, Mind & Body Expo held at…
  • Thunder in the Heartland NHRA Drag Racing (Thunder Valley Raceway Park - Lexington) Last Day Bring the whole family out to Noble's Thunder Valley Raceway Park for Thunder in the Heartland NHRA Drag Racing.…
  • Tory Lanez et al. (Diamond Ballroom)
  • 🏃 Tour de BBQ (Chickasaw Bricktown Ballpark) The Tour de BBQ was established in 2009 by a group of young professionals to raise money to fight cancer in the Kansas City Metropolitan area and is organized by a 100% volunteer board. Since its inception in 2009, the Tour de BBQ has donated nearly $500,000 to fight cancer. For 2016, Tour de BBQ is coming to Oklahoma City to help fight cancer…
  • 🏃 Until Valhalla (Hybrid Powerlifting/Strongman Competition) (Brewhouse Barbell) Hybrid powerlifting/strongman competition to mentally and physically test challengers to their maximum potential. No qualifications are needed to compete. Open to both male and female, no weight classes. Awards for top 3 males & females. Benefiting Honoring America's Warriors: http://honoringamericaswarriors.org

Monday, Oct 10th

  • 🎡 Dead Woods Trail of Fear (Luther) Thru Mon, Oct 31st Dead Woods Trail of Fear is the latest invention of The Trail of Fear Haunted Scream Parks. This is the third…
  • Drown Night at Saints (Plaza District) Start Time: 8:00pm All you can drink Anthem beer for $8 starting at 8pm.
  • Elvis Costello (Chevy Bricktown Events Center) Start Time: 7:30pm
  • The Get Up Kids (89th Street Collective) Start Time: 7:30pm
  • A Good Trip w/Shane Mauss - Presented by: Black Mesa Brewing Co. (Opolis - Norman) Start Time: 9:00pm As seen on Conan, Showtime, Netflix, Jimmy Kimmel, Comedy Central and way more.
    with TBA
    BUY TICKETS HERE
  • Grand National & World Championship Morgan Horse Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Thru Sat, Oct 15th
  • 🎡 ' Haunt the River (Oklahoma River Cruises) Thru Sat, Oct 29th Take a spooky voyage and leave the safe harbor behind for an ominous adventure on the waters of the Oklahoma River.…
  • 🎭 Heathers the Musical (Pollard Theatre - Guthrie) Thru Sat, Oct 29th Just in time for Halloween, the Pollard Theatre in Guthrie presents Heathers The Musical. This darkly delicious show…
  • Kyle Dillingham & Horseshoe Road in Concert (Boathouse District) Catch some hot tunes by local musicians performing live at the CHKCentral Boathouse. Listen in as award-winning…
  • Milk Moms (Thrive Mama Collective) Start Time: 6:00pm
  • Pint Night at The Mule (Plaza District) Start Time: 5:00pm Come try a new brew and keep the glass while you're at it!
  • Public Access: Open Mic Mondays (District House) Start Time: 8:00pm Got talents? Come rock the mic.
    Hosted by Matt Raney
  • 🎡 Pumpkinville (Myriad Botanical Gardens) Thru Sun, Oct 23rd Make your way to Pumpkinville at the Myriad Botanical Gardens in Oklahoma City to celebrate the fall season. Explore the…
  • Twiztid et al. (Farmer's Market)

Tuesday, Oct 11th

  • Bart Budwig (Red Brick Bar - Norman)
  • Clutch et al. (Diamond Ballroom)
  • 🎡 Dead Woods Trail of Fear (Luther) Thru Mon, Oct 31st Dead Woods Trail of Fear is the latest invention of The Trail of Fear Haunted Scream Parks. This is the third…
  • Grand National & World Championship Morgan Horse Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Thru Sat, Oct 15th
  • 🎡 ' Haunt the River (Oklahoma River Cruises) Thru Sat, Oct 29th Take a spooky voyage and leave the safe harbor behind for an ominous adventure on the waters of the Oklahoma River.…
  • 🎭 Heathers the Musical (Pollard Theatre - Guthrie) Thru Sat, Oct 29th Just in time for Halloween, the Pollard Theatre in Guthrie presents Heathers The Musical. This darkly delicious show…
  • Palisades et al. (89th Street Collective)
  • 🎡 Pumpkinville (Myriad Botanical Gardens) Thru Sun, Oct 23rd Make your way to Pumpkinville at the Myriad Botanical Gardens in Oklahoma City to celebrate the fall season. Explore the…
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2016.08.03 15:55 eventbot What's happening around town (Wed, Aug 3rd - Tue, Aug 9th)

Oklahoma City's event list.

Ongoing

  • Concerts in the Park (Yukon City Park, Freedom Trail Park & Chisholm Trail Park - Yukon) Thru Thu, Aug 18th Enjoy free concerts every Thursday during the summer months in Yukon. Concerts in the Park, held in Yukon's…
  • Edmond Historic Tours (Downtown - Edmond) Thru Sat, Dec 31st Join experts with the Edmond Historic Preservation Trust to learn something new with a downtown tour of historic Edmond.…
  • 🎨 Matisse in His Time: Masterworks of Modernism Exhibit (Oklahoma City Museum of Art) Day 2 of 2 For the first time in history, “Matisse in His Time: Masterworks of Modernism from the Centre Pompidou,…
  • Victorian Walk (Downtown Historical District - Guthrie) Thru Sat, Dec 31st Guthrie has long been a destination for fans of Victorian architecture and with this lovely holiday walking tour, you…

Wednesday, Aug 3rd

  • The 44th Annual Prix de West Invitational Art Exhibition & Sale (Western Heritage Museum) Day 1 of 2 ** The 44th Annual Prix de West Invitational Art Exhibition & Sale **
    **
    **
    Open to the Public with Museum admission. Be the first to experience more than 300 new Western paintings and sculpture by the finest contemporary Western artists in the nation when the doors open an hour early on June 10, 9:00 a.m. The National Cowboy & Western…
  • Acrylic paintings by Linda Hiller (50 Penn Art Gallery) Day 1 of 2 *Acrylic paintings by Linda Hiller, *through August 31st. 50 Penn
    Art Gallery, 1900 NW Expressway. There will be an opening
    reception at 6 p.m. Friday (July 8th) 848-5567.
  • 🍴 Anthem Drown Night! (HiLo Club) Our local friends at Anthem Brewing Co. have some great beers! Every Wednesday night from 9pm to close enjoy $8 Drown Night! Their Power Pils will be flowing!
  • "Brushstroke Dreams" exhibit by Brad Price (The Depot - Norman) Day 1 of 2 Brad Price Fills Depot Gallery with “Brushstroke Dreams”
    NORMAN... The bold brushstrokes and bright colors in expressionist paintings by local artist Brad Price will fill The Depot Gallery with “Brushstroke Dreams” from July 8 through August 29, 2016. An opening reception will be held in conjunction with the 2nd Friday Art Walk…
  • Camille Harp and Lauryn Hardiman (The Deli - Norman) Start Time: 7:00pm
  • Del City Kiwanis Club (Rose State College - Midwest City)
  • Dodgers vs Express (Chickasaw Bricktown Ballpark) Start Time: 7:05pm Come experience America's favorite pastime in downtown Oklahoma City as the Oklahoma City Dodgers take on the…
  • Drawing in the Prix de West Galleries (Western Heritage Museum) Day 1 of 2 June 10
    “Drawing in the *Prix de West *Galleries” art students with a valid student ID are invited to draw in the galleries, June 10 – August 7, 10:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m. For more information: Nationalcowboymuseum.org, (405) 478-2250.
  • 🎨 Exhibtion: Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting (Western Heritage Museum) Thru Fri, Aug 5th Start Time: 10:00am **Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting **
    Ohio watercolorist and Prix de West winner, Lowell Ellsworth Smith (1924-2011), once referenced his *theology of painting *during an interview. Short but meaningful, the phrase summarized his relationship with art. It was more than a hobby or pastime. More than a career. It was the lens…
  • Family Play Time/ La hora de jugar en familia (Noble Public Library - Noble) Start Time: 10:30am Join us for a bilingual family play program for babies and children under 5 years of age. ¡Aprendan y jueguen todos juntos! Para bebés y niños hasta 5 años de edad con las personas que los cuidan.
  • Ferry Fun Cruises (Oklahoma River Cruises) Thru Fri, Aug 5th Start Time: 11:30am With four river landings, it's easy travel the Oklahoma River. Learn more about each of the landings and where they're located.
    The ferry transit schedule varies throughout the season.
    *** Purchase your tickets onboard**
    **Trip times in black are 1 hr 40 min round trip*
    *** Theme Cruises are on all evening service departures the last…
  • 🎨 Guerrilla Art Park (Oklahoma Contemporary) Thru Fri, Aug 5th Start Time: 11:00am Artists: Apply to be part of our first installment of Guerrilla Art Park - an outdoor sculpture exhibition near our Showroom on the site of our future arts campus. We are accepting submissions now through the month of May, and planning to install in June - it's going to be a lightning-fast operation, but we are excited to activate the…
  • 🎨 A Hiding Place (Artspace At Untitled) Thru Fri, Aug 5th Start Time: 10:00am Poetry Reading Begins at 6:30pm
    This exhibit is a dialog beginning with a poet’s voice and then calling forth an artist’s remix, and response. You are invited to this collaborative exhibition in hopes you, too, will discover something hidden, and now made communal in the open light. A Hiding Place can be a rest stop or a generator shop, a…
  • Hospice Volunteer Opportunities (New Century Hospice, Inc.) Thru Fri, Aug 5th Start Time: 9:00am The services you will give as a Hospice volunteer will profoundly improve the quality of our patient's lives. Friendly visits enable families to keep their loved ones at home, around the people they love, and the things they love. Assisting with errands helps a tired family cope with their many challenges and allows them time with their loved…
  • Influence & Brown Bag: Instagram 101 (The Barn: Networking + Lunch n’ Learn) Start Time: 11:30am
  • 🍴 Little Chefs Learn to Serve (Edmond Mobile Meals - Edmond) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 2:00pm Registration is now open for Edmond Mobile Meal's children's cooking program. The program runs in 3 sessions in June, July & August. East 2-class session costs $80 and includes all kitchen supplies and groceries. Students receive a chef hat, apron & cookbook to keep. The Little Chef's program is for children 9-11 years old with a maximum class…
  • Music Together Classes by Gracenote Family Music (Tealridge Retirement Community - Edmond) Start Time: 10:45am Early childhood Music Together classes are internationally recognized for infants, toddlers, preschoolers, kindergartners and the adults who love them. The classes are created from a research-based, developmentally appropriate early childhood music curriculum that strongly emphasizes and facilitates adults involvement. This Mixed-Age Class is…
  • Nature Camp (Will Rogers Exhibition Center) Thru Fri, Aug 5th Start Time: 7:30am Nature Camp
    Go WILD this summer with the Oklahoma City Parks & Recreation Department's Nature Camp. Two distinct camp environments provide hands-on fun in nature, gardening and fishing. Campers can sign up for one week at each location for maximum nature fun!
    August 1-5 Monday-Friday 7:30 a.m. - 5:30 p.m.
    Will Rogers Gardens Learn plant…
  • 🎓 Our City, Our Collection (Oklahoma City Museum of Art) Thru Fri, Aug 5th Start Time: 10:00am In celebration of the many extraordinary acquisitions that have made the Oklahoma City Museum of Art the premiere collecting institution in central Oklahoma, the exhibition Our City, Our Collection: Building the Museum’s Lasting Legacy tells the story of the Museum’s history as a series of transformative gifts, bequests and…
  • Private River Cruise Charters (Oklahoma River Cruises) Start Time: 10:00am Oklahoma River Cruises is the venue for your next meeting or special event. Your guests will be treated to impeccable service and amazing views of Oklahoma City. *If you would like an estimate for your upcoming event please submit a Charter Inquiry Form . *We encourage you to check date availability as often as you need to, but to reserve a…
  • The Rajun Cajun John Morgan (Loony Bin Comedy Club) Thru Sat, Aug 6th
  • Sign the medical Marijuana Petition (NW Expressway and Meridian - Warr Acres) Thru Fri, Aug 5th Start Time: 7:00am Oklahomans for Health is a non-profit organization running an initiative petition to legalize medical marijuana in Oklahoma. Sign the petition today! Go to ok4health.org to learn more!
  • 🍴 SONIC SUMMER MOVIES: Raiders of the Lost Ark (Myriad Botanical Gardens) Start Time: 8:00pm A much-loved summer tradition is back thanks to our sponsor Sonic Drive-In ! Join us each Wednesday on the Great Lawn for movies, activities, food and lots of fun. Thanks to SONIC these movies are completely FREE. Come early to get a great seat. Bring a picnic or enjoy a hamburger and fries from the Ice House, hot dog from J’s Ice Cube or…
  • 🎨 Summer Wheat: Everything Under the Sun (Oklahoma Contemporary) Thru Fri, Aug 5th Start Time: 9:00am Step into another world where Summer Wheat explores an extensive portrayal of what she imagines to be behind the wall in Vermeer’s historical painting, *The Milk Maid. *Wheat will create an immersive, site-specific experience which includes painting, sculpting, architecture, and installation. The exhibit and artist-in-residency will serve as…

Thursday, Aug 4th

  • The 44th Annual Prix de West Invitational Art Exhibition & Sale (Western Heritage Museum) Day 2 of 2 ** The 44th Annual Prix de West Invitational Art Exhibition & Sale **
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    Open to the Public with Museum admission. Be the first to experience more than 300 new Western paintings and sculpture by the finest contemporary Western artists in the nation when the doors open an hour early on June 10, 9:00 a.m. The National Cowboy & Western…
  • Acrylic paintings by Linda Hiller (50 Penn Art Gallery) Day 2 of 2 *Acrylic paintings by Linda Hiller, *through August 31st. 50 Penn
    Art Gallery, 1900 NW Expressway. There will be an opening
    reception at 6 p.m. Friday (July 8th) 848-5567.
  • "Brushstroke Dreams" exhibit by Brad Price (The Depot - Norman) Day 2 of 2 Brad Price Fills Depot Gallery with “Brushstroke Dreams”
    NORMAN... The bold brushstrokes and bright colors in expressionist paintings by local artist Brad Price will fill The Depot Gallery with “Brushstroke Dreams” from July 8 through August 29, 2016. An opening reception will be held in conjunction with the 2nd Friday Art Walk…
  • Carrie Underwood: The Storyteller Tour (Chesapeake Energy Arena) Start Time: 10:00am Seven-time Grammy winner and ACM Female Vocalist of the Year nominee Carrie Underwood has just announced The Storyteller Tour- Stories in the Round will extend through the fall including a stop in Oklahoma City at Chesapeake Energy Arena on Nov. 23. The in-the-round arena tour launched to rave reviews in January and has already played sold out…
  • Connor Hicks Band (Wormy Dog Saloon)
  • Country Music Group Therapy (The Deli - Norman) Start Time: 7:00pm
  • 🎓 Dancing in the Gardens Dance Lesson: Tango! (Myriad Botanical Gardens) Start Time: 6:30pm Dancing in the Gardens Lessonns: Tango Thursday, August 4, 6:30-7:30pm South Lobby of the Crystal Bridge Must be 13 and older Members $10/Nonmembers $15 Join the stars of 3Sixty Dance Studio for a small group dance lesson in preparation for Dancing in the Gardens. This one hour lesson will give participants one-on-one instruction and break down…
  • Dodgers vs Express (Chickasaw Bricktown Ballpark) Start Time: 7:05pm Come experience America's favorite pastime in downtown Oklahoma City as the Oklahoma City Dodgers take on the…
  • Oklahoma City Dodgers vs. Memphis Redbirds (Chickasaw Bricktown Ballpark) Start Time: 7:05pm
  • Drawing in the Prix de West Galleries (Western Heritage Museum) Day 2 of 2 June 10
    “Drawing in the *Prix de West *Galleries” art students with a valid student ID are invited to draw in the galleries, June 10 – August 7, 10:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m. For more information: Nationalcowboymuseum.org, (405) 478-2250.
  • 🍴 Drink and Draw (Okay See) Start Time: 8:00pm Drink & Draw is hosted every Thursday at either Brass Bell Studios, The Okay See, or Tree & Leaf from 8-11pm.
    Here is the weekly schedule:
    1st Thursday: The Okay See
    2nd Thursday: Brass Bell Studios
    3rd - 4th - 5th Thursdays: Tree & Leaf
    Drink & Draw is open to anyone that wants to attend. While consuming alcohol is welcome, it…
  • 🎨 Exhibtion: Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting (Western Heritage Museum) 1 day left Start Time: 10:00am **Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting **
    Ohio watercolorist and Prix de West winner, Lowell Ellsworth Smith (1924-2011), once referenced his *theology of painting *during an interview. Short but meaningful, the phrase summarized his relationship with art. It was more than a hobby or pastime. More than a career. It was the lens…
  • Faith Night with Finding Favour (Chickasaw Bricktown Ballpark) Start Time: 5:00pm The OKC Dodgers and Finding Favour are thrilled to share with you the new date and time for Faith Night at Chickasaw Bricktown Ballpark – THURSDAY, AUGUST 4 at 5:00 p.m. – prior to the Dodgers 7:05 p.m. game that evening. Finding Favour will take the stage for a full hour starting at 5:30 p.m. and local Christian performer CedEnough will…
  • Ferry Fun Cruises (Oklahoma River Cruises) 1 day left Start Time: 11:30am With four river landings, it's easy travel the Oklahoma River. Learn more about each of the landings and where they're located.
    The ferry transit schedule varies throughout the season.
    *** Purchase your tickets onboard**
    **Trip times in black are 1 hr 40 min round trip*
    *** Theme Cruises are on all evening service departures the last…
  • 🍴 First Thursdays--Evening at the Museum (Edmond Historical Society - Edmond) Start Time: 5:00pm Looking for a way to unwind before the weekend? Come spend an Evening at the Museum on Thursday, August 4th! We will be open 10 am to 8 pm. Grab dinner at a great local restaurant and then stop by to see our newest exhibit "Edmond People, Edmond Politics!" As always, admission will be free!
  • 🎨 Guerrilla Art Park (Oklahoma Contemporary) 1 day left Start Time: 11:00am Artists: Apply to be part of our first installment of Guerrilla Art Park - an outdoor sculpture exhibition near our Showroom on the site of our future arts campus. We are accepting submissions now through the month of May, and planning to install in June - it's going to be a lightning-fast operation, but we are excited to activate the…
  • 🎨 A Hiding Place (Artspace At Untitled) 1 day left Start Time: 10:00am Poetry Reading Begins at 6:30pm
    This exhibit is a dialog beginning with a poet’s voice and then calling forth an artist’s remix, and response. You are invited to this collaborative exhibition in hopes you, too, will discover something hidden, and now made communal in the open light. A Hiding Place can be a rest stop or a generator shop, a…
  • Hillsong United with Lauren Daigle (Chesapeake Energy Arena) Start Time: 10:00am Australian-based worship group Hillsong UNITED is adding a string of spring and summer dates to their North American EMPIRES Tour. The new shows will feature special guest Lauren Daigle. Following a February capacity-crowd tour run, the second leg of cities kicks off April 28 with stops across the country throughout April, May and July. The tour…
  • Hospice Volunteer Opportunities (New Century Hospice, Inc.) 1 day left Start Time: 9:00am The services you will give as a Hospice volunteer will profoundly improve the quality of our patient's lives. Friendly visits enable families to keep their loved ones at home, around the people they love, and the things they love. Assisting with errands helps a tired family cope with their many challenges and allows them time with their loved…
  • 😂 Kurt Braunohler - ACM (ACM @ UCO) Start Time: 8:00pm THIS IS A SEATED, GENERAL ADMISSION SHOW (NO RESERVED SEATING) Presented by OKC Comedy. Kurt Braunohler was featured in Variety's annual prestigious "10 Comics To Watch" list, named in Time Out New York's list of 50 Funniest New Yorkers and Backstage Magazine's "5 Comics To Watch," "Comic to Watch" by Comedy Central, the New York Comedy…
  • Kurt Braunohler - Presented by: Black Mesa Brewing Co. ([email protected] Performance Lab) Start Time: 8:00pm From Comedy Central, IFC, and Conan!
    with Alex Sanchez & Madison Allen
    BUY TICKETS HERE
  • 🍴 Little Chefs Learn to Serve (Edmond Mobile Meals - Edmond) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 2:00pm Registration is now open for Edmond Mobile Meal's children's cooking program. The program runs in 3 sessions in June, July & August. East 2-class session costs $80 and includes all kitchen supplies and groceries. Students receive a chef hat, apron & cookbook to keep. The Little Chef's program is for children 9-11 years old with a maximum class…
  • National Housing Trust Fund Input Session National Housing Trust Fund Con Plan Input Session Agency: Housing Finance Agency, Oklahoma - OHFA Contact Phone
  • Nature Camp (Will Rogers Exhibition Center) 1 day left Start Time: 7:30am Nature Camp
    Go WILD this summer with the Oklahoma City Parks & Recreation Department's Nature Camp. Two distinct camp environments provide hands-on fun in nature, gardening and fishing. Campers can sign up for one week at each location for maximum nature fun!
    August 1-5 Monday-Friday 7:30 a.m. - 5:30 p.m.
    Will Rogers Gardens Learn plant…
  • 🎓 Our City, Our Collection (Oklahoma City Museum of Art) 1 day left Start Time: 10:00am In celebration of the many extraordinary acquisitions that have made the Oklahoma City Museum of Art the premiere collecting institution in central Oklahoma, the exhibition Our City, Our Collection: Building the Museum’s Lasting Legacy tells the story of the Museum’s history as a series of transformative gifts, bequests and…
  • The Rajun Cajun John Morgan (Loony Bin Comedy Club) Thru Sat, Aug 6th
  • Sex Snobs / Shut Up Matt Jewett / Masterhand (Blue Note) Start Time: 9:00pm DON'T MISS OUT ON THIS AMAZING SHOW! ok+ OF SOME BADASS MEATY MUSIC!
  • Sign the medical Marijuana Petition (NW Expressway and Meridian - Warr Acres) 1 day left Start Time: 7:00am Oklahomans for Health is a non-profit organization running an initiative petition to legalize medical marijuana in Oklahoma. Sign the petition today! Go to ok4health.org to learn more!
  • Smarty Pants Trivia Night (Oklahoma History Center) Start Time: 7:00pm Don't miss Smarty Pants Trivia Night 2016 at the Oklahoma History Center! Another year of great trivia, food and spirits makes this one of Oklahoma City’s favorite events. Together we are stronger; together we can end MS forever.
  • Sooners Baseball vs Sooner Sports Experience (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Start Time: 5:30pm New hands-on event that will allow fans to interact with OU coaches and student-athletes.
  • 🎨 Summer Wheat: Everything Under the Sun (Oklahoma Contemporary) 1 day left Start Time: 9:00am Step into another world where Summer Wheat explores an extensive portrayal of what she imagines to be behind the wall in Vermeer’s historical painting, *The Milk Maid. *Wheat will create an immersive, site-specific experience which includes painting, sculpting, architecture, and installation. The exhibit and artist-in-residency will serve as…
  • Sunset River Cruises (Oklahoma River Cruises) Start Time: 7:30pm Departs Exchange Landing Last 3 Fridays (June – September) $35/person
    Relax and recharge on the deck in the fresh Oklahoma breeze or inside the climate-controlled cabin while on an hour and a half sunset cruise enjoying music, appetizers and soda. Cruise times vary by season. A cash bar is available on board.
    Space is limited and…
  • Team Karaoke Challenge (O'Connell's Irish Pub & Grille - Norman) Start Time: 9:00pm Get a few friends together for Fun Food and Beverages every Thursday Night at 9pm. Wes presents Team Trivia at O'Connell's. His questions are all over the board...come challenge yourself.
  • Zumba in the Gardens Begins! (Myriad Botanical Gardens) Start Time: 5:45pm Pavilion or Terrace Room depending on weather $5 members, $10 nonmembers No pre-registration required Thursdays through September 20
    Zumba is a Latin-inspired cardio-dance workout that uses music and choreographed steps to form a fitness party atmosphere. While many of the types of dance and music featured in the program are Latin American…

Friday, Aug 5th

  • 🎨 13, The Musical (ArtWorks Academy of Performing Arts - Norman) Start Time: 7:00pm ArtWorks Academy Presents 13, The Musical Friday, August 5 at 7:00 pm Saturday, August 6 at 7:00 pm Performances will be held at Randall University (formerly Hillsdale College) in Moore, OK, which is located at 3701 S. Frontage Rd. This production will be most enjoyed by those 13 and older. Tickets are $10 and reserved seating. PLEASE NOTE:…
  • Amelie's Anomalies Trunk Show! (Dig It) Start Time: 6:00pm Come check out the newest oddities, jewelry, wall decor and more from one of our fave designers here at Dig It . Amelie's Anomalies is about to hit the road for the last of her summer shows and she is giving you the chance to see her newest line of products before she heads out. These are all new goodies that haven't made it to the public…
  • AQHYA World Youth Championship Quarter Horse Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Thru Sat, Aug 13th The AQHYA World Youth Championship Quarter Horse Show arrives in Oklahoma City. This is one of the top youth events in…
  • CODY JINKS & WHITEY MORGAN (Diamond Ballroom) Diamond Ballroom 8001 S. Eastern Ave. Oklahoma City, OK Tickets On Sale FRI 5/20 at 10am Buy For Less locations in OKC Brady Box Office or Starship Records in Tulsa Charge by phone @ 866.977.6849 online @ protix.com GA Tickets: $25 in advance 4 Pack GA Tickets: $80 (Limited Quantity VIP Tickets: $125 Doors open at 6pm All Ages Welcome
  • 🎭 Dancing in the Gardens featuring Tango Dancing! (Myriad Botanical Gardens) Start Time: 7:00pm
  • Dodgers vs Express (Chickasaw Bricktown Ballpark) Start Time: 7:05pm Come experience America's favorite pastime in downtown Oklahoma City as the Oklahoma City Dodgers take on the…
  • Evening Ferry River Cruises June - September (Oklahoma River Cruises) Start Time: 11:30am Departs from Regatta, Bricktown & Exchange Landings see Ferry Schedule for Evening Departure Times Fridays & Saturdays
    Join us for a full cash bar and complimentary snack mix on board one of our beautiful 65’ cruisers for the price of our Public Ferry service. All ages are welcome, but please consider this is an adult environment cruise and…
  • 🎨 Exhibtion: Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting (Western Heritage Museum) Last Day Start Time: 10:00am **Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting **
    Ohio watercolorist and Prix de West winner, Lowell Ellsworth Smith (1924-2011), once referenced his *theology of painting *during an interview. Short but meaningful, the phrase summarized his relationship with art. It was more than a hobby or pastime. More than a career. It was the lens…
  • Ferry Fun Cruises (Oklahoma River Cruises) Last Day Start Time: 11:30am With four river landings, it's easy travel the Oklahoma River. Learn more about each of the landings and where they're located.
    The ferry transit schedule varies throughout the season.
    *** Purchase your tickets onboard**
    **Trip times in black are 1 hr 40 min round trip*
    *** Theme Cruises are on all evening service departures the last…
  • Yukon FFA IPRA Rodeo (Yukon Round-Up Club Arena - Yukon) Day 1 of 2 If you love rodeos and feel like having a fun, exciting time, head to Yukon for the Yukon FFA IPRA-sanctioned rodeo held…
  • 🎨 First Friday Gallery Walk (Paseo Arts District) The First Friday Gallery Walk in the Paseo Arts District occurs on the first Friday of every month. Friday night…
  • FOL Book Sale (Noble Public Library - Noble) Start Time: 4:00pm
  • 🎨 Guerrilla Art Park (Oklahoma Contemporary) Last Day Start Time: 11:00am Artists: Apply to be part of our first installment of Guerrilla Art Park - an outdoor sculpture exhibition near our Showroom on the site of our future arts campus. We are accepting submissions now through the month of May, and planning to install in June - it's going to be a lightning-fast operation, but we are excited to activate the…
  • 🎨 A Hiding Place (Artspace At Untitled) Last Day Start Time: 10:00am Poetry Reading Begins at 6:30pm
    This exhibit is a dialog beginning with a poet’s voice and then calling forth an artist’s remix, and response. You are invited to this collaborative exhibition in hopes you, too, will discover something hidden, and now made communal in the open light. A Hiding Place can be a rest stop or a generator shop, a…
  • Hospice Volunteer Opportunities (New Century Hospice, Inc.) Last Day Start Time: 9:00am The services you will give as a Hospice volunteer will profoundly improve the quality of our patient's lives. Friendly visits enable families to keep their loved ones at home, around the people they love, and the things they love. Assisting with errands helps a tired family cope with their many challenges and allows them time with their loved…
  • Megafauna et al. (Opolis - Norman)
  • Nature Camp (Will Rogers Exhibition Center) Last Day Start Time: 7:30am Nature Camp
    Go WILD this summer with the Oklahoma City Parks & Recreation Department's Nature Camp. Two distinct camp environments provide hands-on fun in nature, gardening and fishing. Campers can sign up for one week at each location for maximum nature fun!
    August 1-5 Monday-Friday 7:30 a.m. - 5:30 p.m.
    Will Rogers Gardens Learn plant…
  • Tuttle Open Rodeo & Parade (Schrock Park - Tuttle) Day 1 of 2 Join the citizens of Tuttle for a weekend of rodeo thrills and excitement. Events will include bronc riding, bull…
  • 🎓 Our City, Our Collection (Oklahoma City Museum of Art) Last Day Start Time: 10:00am In celebration of the many extraordinary acquisitions that have made the Oklahoma City Museum of Art the premiere collecting institution in central Oklahoma, the exhibition Our City, Our Collection: Building the Museum’s Lasting Legacy tells the story of the Museum’s history as a series of transformative gifts, bequests and…
  • Paul Cauthen (Wormy Dog Saloon)
  • 🎨 Raiders!: The Story of the Greatest Fan Film Ever Made (Oklahoma City Museum of Art) Start Time: 6:30pm Following the release of Raiders of the Lost Ark in the summer of 1981, three eleven-year-old boys from Mississippi set out to make a faithful, shot-by-shot remake of the Steven Spielberg adventure classic. Over the course of the next seven years, and with unbelievable ingenuity and daring, the trio managed to shoot every scene but one—the…
  • The Rajun Cajun John Morgan (Loony Bin Comedy Club) 1 day left
  • Tuttle Rodeo (Schrock Park - Tuttle) Day 1 of 2 Join the citizens of Tuttle for two evenings of rodeo thrills and excitement. This family-friendly event will include…
  • Scott Stapp (Legends Pub House - Chickasha)
  • Sign the medical Marijuana Petition (NW Expressway and Meridian - Warr Acres) Last Day Start Time: 7:00am Oklahomans for Health is a non-profit organization running an initiative petition to legalize medical marijuana in Oklahoma. Sign the petition today! Go to ok4health.org to learn more!
  • 🎨 Summer Wheat: Everything Under the Sun (Oklahoma Contemporary) Last Day Start Time: 9:00am Step into another world where Summer Wheat explores an extensive portrayal of what she imagines to be behind the wall in Vermeer’s historical painting, *The Milk Maid. *Wheat will create an immersive, site-specific experience which includes painting, sculpting, architecture, and installation. The exhibit and artist-in-residency will serve as…

Saturday, Aug 6th

  • AQHYA World Youth Championship Quarter Horse Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Thru Sat, Aug 13th The AQHYA World Youth Championship Quarter Horse Show arrives in Oklahoma City. This is one of the top youth events in…
  • 🎡 Beats & Bites Festival (Riverwind Casino - Norman) Feast on delicious entrees and snacks from various food trucks at Riverwind Casino's Beats & Bites music and…
  • 🏃 Color Me OKC (Wake Zone Cable Park) Color Me OKC is Grant Thornton's first charitable 5K. Color Me OKC is a 5K color run directly benefiting Positive Tomorrows, a local school for children without homes. Join the fun and register today! http://colormeokc.com
  • Dodgers vs Express (Chickasaw Bricktown Ballpark) Start Time: 7:05pm Come experience America's favorite pastime in downtown Oklahoma City as the Oklahoma City Dodgers take on the…
  • Elizabeth Wills (The Blue Door)
  • Yukon FFA IPRA Rodeo (Yukon Round-Up Club Arena - Yukon) Day 2 of 2 If you love rodeos and feel like having a fun, exciting time, head to Yukon for the Yukon FFA IPRA-sanctioned rodeo held…
  • OKC Fall Jam Urban Arts Festival (Star Spencer High School - Spencer) The OKC Fall Jam Urban Arts Festival in Spencer is a great day full of family fun. Come enjoy the pumpkin patch to…
  • OneHealthyBod Fitness Expo (Cox Convention Center) Start Time: 5:30am Four years ago OneHealthyBod LLC hosted the Oklahoma City Classic at the Cox Convention Center. This event included body building, figure, men's physique classes as well as a CrossFit competition. Over 300 competitors and 2,000 supporters attended the event and the entries had to be caped due the overwhelming excitement of the event reaching…
  • Tuttle Open Rodeo & Parade (Schrock Park - Tuttle) Day 2 of 2 Join the citizens of Tuttle for a weekend of rodeo thrills and excitement. Events will include bronc riding, bull…
  • $ Oklahoma City Pet Expo (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Day 1 of 2 Bring your pet down to Oklahoma State Fairgrounds for this pet-centric event. At the Oklahoma City Pet Expo, visit…
  • The Rajun Cajun John Morgan (Loony Bin Comedy Club) Last Day
  • 🍴 Red Brick Nights (Oklahoma Ave & Wentz Ave - Guthrie) From May to October, look forward to Guthrie's monthly Red Brick Nights, the town's food truck and live…
  • Tuttle Rodeo (Schrock Park - Tuttle) Day 2 of 2 Join the citizens of Tuttle for two evenings of rodeo thrills and excitement. This family-friendly event will include…

Sunday, Aug 7th

  • AQHYA World Youth Championship Quarter Horse Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Thru Sat, Aug 13th The AQHYA World Youth Championship Quarter Horse Show arrives in Oklahoma City. This is one of the top youth events in…
  • $ Oklahoma City Pet Expo (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Day 2 of 2 Bring your pet down to Oklahoma State Fairgrounds for this pet-centric event. At the Oklahoma City Pet Expo, visit…

Monday, Aug 8th

Tuesday, Aug 9th

  • AQHYA World Youth Championship Quarter Horse Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Thru Sat, Aug 13th The AQHYA World Youth Championship Quarter Horse Show arrives in Oklahoma City. This is one of the top youth events in…
  • Daryl Hance (Red Brick Bar - Norman)
  • The Drowsy Chaperone (Civic Center Music Hall) Thru Sat, Aug 13th Laugh, sing, and dance with the Tony-Award winning, The Drowsy Chaperone! This "musical-within-a-comedy," combines rouge gangsters, comic asides, and larger than life leading ladies in a show that pays tribute to why we love going to the theatre- to be entertained.
  • Wheeler Criterium Once the weather starts warming up, gather your crew and head south of the Oklahoma River for the Wheeler Criterium each…
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2016.06.01 16:26 al0813 Thinking about marriage and how to to deal with Nmom

Hi all, new to this subreddit, really glad to find others like me! I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years and have always had trouble with the idea of marriage and I think stemming from my own parents' tumultuous relationship. My background: My Nmom and Edad have been very unhappily married for 30 years, fight weekly if not daily. She accuses him of cheating on her frequently (although I see no proof) basically because he women co-workers. She has said very inappropriate things in front of me and my siblings about my dad, such as that he want's his brother's wife,etc. She even accused him of not wanting to retire because he doesn't want to spend time with her! I wish they would get a divorce but I know that they won't because they are both very Christian and don't believe in it. I don't live near them (about 8 hours away by driving) so luckily I am not home much, but whenever I am, I feel exhausted and depressed. My Nmom is very controlling, says horrible things to me about my body, that "I will regret the way I treat her" and constantly harasses me via text or phone calls when I am not at home. She has in the past tried showing up to where I live (again 8 hours drive away) and I moved places in my city since then and she does not know where I live. The thing that really depresses me is that I am so distant from my younger teenage sister (who lives near my parents home and is often home on the weekends) because I have to separate myself from my mom. She tends to blame me for not communicating with my mom more and has in the past blamed me for instigating my parents' fights due to upsetting my mom. Deep down, I know my sister has to deal with watching them fight on a more regular basis and I think she is just trying to blame someone else because she can't control them. I love her deeply and I think I am slowly accepting that we might not be close until later in life. Back to the topic of marriage, I finally feel more ready for marriage and I love my boyfriend and really do want to spend my life with him. We have been talking about planning a wedding and have not yet been able to agree on a compromise about the day. My mom was mad at me on my college graduation day and my family did not show up to it which made me sad but I learned a lesson. Thereafter, I have avoided inviting them to my post-graduate graduation and other important events because I have learned that I am happier when they are not there. I sometimes feel embarrassed because I see everyone else with their families and I'm all alone. I've been toying with the idea of having a small 'friends only' wedding in my city so I can really enjoy the day and not be sad on my wedding day. My boyfriend is close to his parents (they are great) and wants them to be there. I am worried about only inviting one set of parents to the wedding and am afraid that I will feel sad realizing how my own parents are not there if only his parents attend the small wedding. Another idea we were toying with was having a wedding reception a few weeks later where we invite both families. However, I can tell my boyfriend really wants his parents to be there on the actual wedding day and obviously I don't want him to feel sad that they are not there. Do you guys have any suggestions to reconcile my boyfriend and my wishes for a wedding? I know I will face an uphill fight with my parents because they want a very specific kind of wedding for me (religious/church) and I am not religious at all. They would be infuriated if I deviated from a church ceremony. I also think that my mom would be controlling about what I wear, judgmental if I drank alcohol or danced a certain way and it just seems like I couldn't even really enjoy myself if I was under her scrutiny. A part of me also fears that I'll "mourn the loss of not having the idea of parents at my wedding" if I don't invite them. The more I think about getting married, the more I wish I were just married already so I can just start a new chapter with my boyfriend.
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2016.06.01 15:56 eventbot What's happening around town (Wed, Jun 1st - Tue, Jun 7th)

Oklahoma City's event list.

Wednesday, Jun 1st

  • 😂 Alex Reymundo (Loony Bin Comedy Club) Thru Sat, Jun 4th
  • 🍴 Anthem Drown Night! (HiLo Club) Our local friends at Anthem Brewing Co. have some great beers! Every Wednesday night from 9pm to close enjoy $8 Drown Night! Their Power Pils will be flowing!
  • Bad Omens (89th Street Collective) Start Time: 6:30pm
  • Bi-Weekly Meetup (51st st. Speakeasy) Last Day Start Time: 5:00pm
  • Bringing Books to Life (Myriad Botanical Gardens) Start Time: 10:00am
  • 🎓 Norman Central - Baby Story Time (Norman Public Library - Norman) Start Time: 10:00am Have you ever wondered about the marvels of the World Wide Web? Come spend some time learning, from the ground up, how to build a webpage from scratch - and how to make it awesome! This…
  • 🎓 Norman Central - Minecraft for Kids (Norman Public Library - Norman) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 3:00pm Have you ever wondered how electronics work? How the great variety of gadgets that go into modern life are imagined, constructed, and programmed? Then this is the class for you! Tweens can…
  • 🎓 Norman Central - Smartphones and Tablets (Norman Public Library - Norman) Start Time: 6:00pm Modern phones are good for so much more than just phone calls and text messages. Let us get you started learning how much more you can get from your amazing little device! Students will learn…
  • Count This Penny (The Blue Door) Start Time: 8:00pm
  • 🎨 David Steele Overholt in the Showroom (Oklahoma Contemporary) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 11:00am In One Ear … is a kaleidoscopic study of broadcast media's influence on forming and keeping relationships. In the new media installation by David Steele Overholt, a generatively formed loop…
  • Del City Kiwanis Club (Rose State College 12:00 pm to 1:00 pm - Midwest City)
  • Evening Ferry River Cruises June - September (Oklahoma River Cruises) Start Time: 11:30am Departs from Regatta, Bricktown & Exchange Landings see Ferry Schedule for Evening Departure Times Fridays & Saturdays Join us for a full cash bar and complimentary snack mix on board one…
  • 🎨 Exhibtion: Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting (Western Heritage Museum) 1 day left Start Time: 10:00am **Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting **
    Ohio watercolorist and Prix de West winner, Lowell Ellsworth Smith (1924-2011), once referenced his *theology of painting *during an…
  • Fairy Tale Ballet Camp 1 (The Dance Center of Oklahoma City Ballet) 1 day left Start Time: 1:30pm The Dance Center of Oklahoma City Ballet is offering two four-day dance camps that will not only include a daily dance class, but will also introduce students to four famous fairy tale…
  • Family Play Time/ La hora de jugar en familia (Noble Public Library - Noble) Start Time: 10:30am Join us for a bilingual family play program for babies and children under 5 years of age. ¡Aprendan y jueguen todos juntos! Para bebés y niños hasta 5 años de edad con las personas que…
  • Ferry Fun Cruises (Oklahoma River Cruises) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 11:30am With four river landings, it's easy travel the Oklahoma River. Learn more about each of the landings and where they're located. The ferry transit schedule varies throughout the season.…
  • 🎨 Guerrilla Art Park (Oklahoma Contemporary) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 11:00am Artists: Apply to be part of our first installment of Guerrilla Art Park - an outdoor sculpture exhibition near our Showroom on the site of our future arts campus. We are **accepting…
  • Hospice Volunteer Opportunities (New Century Hospice, Inc.) 1 day left Start Time: 9:00am The services you will give as a Hospice volunteer will profoundly improve the quality of our patient's lives. Friendly visits enable families to keep their loved ones at home, around the…
  • 🎓 Managing Stress (Purcell Public Library - Purcell) Start Time: 10:00am This program is the second of 4 weekly video conferences by the Oklahoma Healthy Aging Initiative (OHAI) on Healthy Brain, Healthy Mind. Each week we will learn dozens of techniques to…
  • Mitsuno Reedy "Dances With Brushes" Artwork by Mitsuno Reedy 6 p.m. rec. May 13 (The Depot - Norman) Day 2 of 2 Mitsuno Reedy “Dances With Brushes” in Depot Gallery
    NORMAN… The beautifully realistic paintings of long time Norman artist Mitsuno Reedy will be featured in The Depot Gallery…
  • Monthly Maker Meet-Up (Noble Public Library - Noble) Start Time: 5:30pm All makers welcome! If you knit, crochet, sew or enjoy any other kid of craft bring your finished objects and works-in-progress and share with other makers! We meet in the library at the…
  • 🎭 Musical Monday (University of Oklahoma - Norman) Start Time: 12:00pm Write titles or phrases of your favorite songs on the walls of the Community Room to win a $5 gift card from the Bookmark!
  • 🏃 Outreach to Wayne SRP: 50's Game Day Kick-off (Purcell Public Library - Purcell) Start Time: 10:30am Come join us at the Wayne High School Library as we kick-off our Summer Reading Program: On Your Mark, Get Set...Read! We will have 1950's games like hula hoops, jump ropes, and hop scotch to…
  • Summer Reading Kick Off and Parade (Moore Public Library - Moore) Start Time: 10:00am Start the summer off with our annual Summer Reading Kick Off! Everyone will gather at the Moore City Hall at 10 AM to participate in our 1K parade to the library! The fun filled festivities…
  • 🎨 Summer Wheat: Everything Under the Sun (Oklahoma Contemporary) 1 day left Start Time: 9:00am Step into another world where Summer Wheat explores an extensive portrayal of what she imagines to be behind the wall in Vermeer’s historical painting, *The Milk Maid. *Wheat will create an…
  • *Urban Landscapes by Bob James, A Dialogue in Paint by James Daniel Gaar and Limited Processing: Nathan Evans, Laura Kent, Bryon * (IAO Gallery) **May 19-July 9
    **Opening Reception: May 20, 6-9pm
    **Closing Reception: June 17, 6-9pm
    **Urban Landscapes *by Bob James*
    In the main gallery of IAO, according to the artist, Bob…
  • Whitesnake (Riverwind Casino - Norman) Head to Riverwind Casino in Norman for a night filled with hard rock hits from classic English rock band Whitesnake.…

Thursday, Jun 2nd

  • Afternoon Movie: The Blind Side (Moore Public Library - Moore) Start Time: 2:00pm Come enjoy "The Blind Side" (rated PG-13): The true story of Michael Oher, a homeless African-American teen, taken in by the Touhy family, who help him fulfill his potential as an NFL…
  • 😂 Alex Reymundo (Loony Bin Comedy Club) Thru Sat, Jun 4th
  • Artisans Present Public Art 101 (Plaza District) Start Time: 6:00pm
  • Barks, Books, and Buddies (Moore Public Library - Moore) Start Time: 6:30pm Did you know dogs love to be read to? Well, they do! Especially by kids. Reading to dogs gives children essential extra practice with reading and oral skills. Come and read to a…
  • 🎓 Norman Central - Minecraft for Kids (Norman Public Library - Norman) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 3:00pm Have you ever wondered how electronics work? How the great variety of gadgets that go into modern life are imagined, constructed, and programmed? Then this is the class for you! Tweens can…
  • 🎡 Norman Central - Readers' Extravaganza (Norman Public Library - Norman) Start Time: 6:00pm Join us for Norman Public Library Central's 9th Annual Reader's Extravaganza, a mini book festival for Adults and Teens. Find out what's new, what's popular, and what is getting the latest…
  • 🎓 Norman Central - Science Café (Norman Public Library - Norman) Start Time: 7:00pm Science cafes are a nation-wide grassroots movement that feature a casual meeting environment where plain language and inclusive conversation create a comfortable atmosphere for people with…
  • 🎓 Norman Central - Web Design for Teens (Norman Public Library - Norman) Start Time: 10:00am Have you ever wondered about the marvels of the World Wide Web? Come spend some time learning, from the ground up, how to build a webpage from scratch - and how to make it awesome! This…
  • 🎡 Charlie Christian International Music Festival (Deep Deuce) Thru Sun, Jun 5th The Charlie Christian International Music Festival is a fun-filled, six-day event that celebrates the musical…
  • 🍴 Christians on Campus Thursday Dinner and Fellowship (University of Oklahoma - Norman) Start Time: 6:30pm Every Thursday we come together for dinner and fellowship in God's word. Come hear the riches of Christ ministered from the Scriptures that can be applied to your everyday life. Also meet…
  • 🎨 David Steele Overholt in the Showroom (Oklahoma Contemporary) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 11:00am In One Ear … is a kaleidoscopic study of broadcast media's influence on forming and keeping relationships. In the new media installation by David Steele Overholt, a generatively formed loop…
  • Oklahoma City Dodgers vs. Memphis Redbirds (Chickasaw Bricktown Ballpark) Start Time: 7:05pm
  • 🎨 Drink and Draw (Okay See) Start Time: 8:00pm Drink & Draw is hosted every Thursday at either Brass Bell Studios, The Okay See, or Tree & Leaf from 8-11pm.
    Here is the weekly schedule:
    1st Thursday: The Okay See
    2nd Thursday:…
  • Drink & Draw (Tree and Leaf) Start Time: 8:00pm
  • 🎨 Exhibtion: Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting (Western Heritage Museum) Last Day Start Time: 10:00am **Lowell Ellsworth Smith: My Theology of Painting **
    Ohio watercolorist and Prix de West winner, Lowell Ellsworth Smith (1924-2011), once referenced his *theology of painting *during an…
  • Fabulous Minx /joe Myside & the Sorrow / Trap Queen (Blue Note) Start Time: 9:00pm FABULOUS MINX - AWESOME ROCKA BILLY / PUNK / ROCK N ROLL FROM TULSA.... KNIFE FIGHT ... http://www.thefabulousminx.com/
  • The Fabulous Miss Wendy et al. (Your Mom's Place)
  • Fairy Tale Ballet Camp 1 (The Dance Center of Oklahoma City Ballet) Last Day Start Time: 1:30pm The Dance Center of Oklahoma City Ballet is offering two four-day dance camps that will not only include a daily dance class, but will also introduce students to four famous fairy tale…
  • Ferry Fun Cruises (Oklahoma River Cruises) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 11:30am With four river landings, it's easy travel the Oklahoma River. Learn more about each of the landings and where they're located. The ferry transit schedule varies throughout the season.…
  • 🎨 Guerrilla Art Park (Oklahoma Contemporary) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 11:00am Artists: Apply to be part of our first installment of Guerrilla Art Park - an outdoor sculpture exhibition near our Showroom on the site of our future arts campus. We are **accepting…
  • Hospice Volunteer Opportunities (New Century Hospice, Inc.) Last Day Start Time: 9:00am The services you will give as a Hospice volunteer will profoundly improve the quality of our patient's lives. Friendly visits enable families to keep their loved ones at home, around the…
  • in March: Take One Improv (District House) Start Time: 7:30pm
  • Justin Hayward (Hudson Performance Hall)
  • Mama Sweet returns to! (The Blue Door) Start Time: 8:00pm music
  • Much Ado About Nothing (Myriad Botanical Gardens) Start Time: 8:00pm
  • 🎭 Much Ado About Nothing (Paseo) Thru Fri, Jun 17th Feel the warmth of summer love when Oklahoma Shakespeare brings their production of “Much Ado About Nothing”…
  • OKC JAZZ FEST (The Criterion) Thru Sat, Jun 4th Jazz has played an important role in Oklahoma City. In the 1940s jazz music was a unifying catalyst in bringing the entire community together. The OKC Jazz Fest celebrates our jazz history,…
  • 🎡 OKC Jazz Fest (Bicentennial Park) Thru Sat, Jun 4th In downtown Oklahoma City, the OKC Jazz Fest takes over Bricktown and Deep Deuce. This multi-venue event features some…
  • 🎓 Our City, Our Collection (Oklahoma City Museum of Art) Start Time: 10:00am In celebration of the many extraordinary acquisitions that have made the Oklahoma City Museum of Art the premiere collecting institution in central Oklahoma, the exhibition *Our City, Our…
  • Preschool & Toddler Story Time On Your Mark, Get Set...Read (Purcell Public Library - Purcell) Start Time: 10:30am Come enjoy our Summer Reading Story TIme that will emphasize our Summer Reading program On Your Mark, Get Set...Read! We will share stories, rhymes & songs followed by a short craft or…
  • Redbud Spectacular Horse Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Thru Sun, Jun 12th The Oklahoma Quarter Horse Association puts on the Redbud Spectacular at the Oklahoma State Fair Park. Competitors show…
  • 🏃 Route 66 Triathlon (Lake El Reno - El Reno) Thru Sun, Jun 5th USAT Sanctioned courses. The 500 meter swim is an open water swim in Lake El Reno. Triangle course. Wetsuits should be permitted, lake temperature should approximately be mid 70's.
    The 20K…
  • 🎓 Oklahoma City Sales & Management Career fair (Embassy Suites) Start Time: 9:00am Oklahoma City Professional Career Event - Sales & Management Specific
    HireLive is a national career service company specializing in Sales, Retail and Management Career Fairs, and has more…
  • Skyline Bluegrass Festival (Grand Casino Hotel & Resort - Shawnee) Thru Sat, Jun 4th Music lovers of all ages will enjoy the traditional, lively sounds of bluegrass at the annual Skyline Bluegrass Festival…
  • 🎨 Summer Wheat: Everything Under the Sun (Oklahoma Contemporary) Last Day Start Time: 9:00am Step into another world where Summer Wheat explores an extensive portrayal of what she imagines to be behind the wall in Vermeer’s historical painting, *The Milk Maid. *Wheat will create an…
  • We Do Legos (Purcell Public Library - Purcell) Start Time: 2:00pm Beginning Lego Robotics. Build a project following step by step directions. Then program the creation to make sounds and movement. Laptops and all supplies will be provided for the first 16…

Friday, Jun 3rd

  • 😂 Alex Reymundo (Loony Bin Comedy Club) 1 day left
  • 🎡 Charlie Christian International Music Festival (Deep Deuce) Thru Sun, Jun 5th The Charlie Christian International Music Festival is a fun-filled, six-day event that celebrates the musical…
  • 🍴 H&8th Night Market (Elemental Coffee) Once a year, gourmet food trucks, musicians and local businesses come together for the annual H&8th Night…
  • In The Next Room (or The Vibrator Play) (Civic Center Music Hall) Thru Sat, Jun 25th In The Next Room, or the vibrator play is a comedy about marriage, intimacy, and electricity. Set in the 1880s at the dawn of the age of electricity and based on the bizarre historical fact…
  • 🎭 Much Ado About Nothing (Paseo) Thru Fri, Jun 17th Feel the warmth of summer love when Oklahoma Shakespeare brings their production of “Much Ado About Nothing”…
  • OKC JAZZ FEST (The Criterion) 1 day left Jazz has played an important role in Oklahoma City. In the 1940s jazz music was a unifying catalyst in bringing the entire community together. The OKC Jazz Fest celebrates our jazz history,…
  • 🎡 OKC Jazz Fest (Bicentennial Park) 1 day left In downtown Oklahoma City, the OKC Jazz Fest takes over Bricktown and Deep Deuce. This multi-venue event features some…
  • Oklahoma TenaCity (Central - Bethany) Thru Sun, Jun 5th Dedicate your weekend to food, fun, fuel and entertainment at Oklahoma TenaCity, a three-day cycling celebration. This…
  • 🏃 OU Medicine Corporate Challenge (Oklahoma City University) This fundraising event brings together companies from all over Oklahoma City, raising money for one great cause: The UCO Endeavor Games.
  • 🏃 Oklahoma City Pro-Am Classic (Automobile Alley) The Oklahoma City ProAm Classic Criterium is a full day of high energy racing for both the amateur and elite cyclist. Staged in Automobile Alley in the heart of OKC it offers an exciting…
  • Redbud Spectacular Horse Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Thru Sun, Jun 12th The Oklahoma Quarter Horse Association puts on the Redbud Spectacular at the Oklahoma State Fair Park. Competitors show…
  • 🏃 Route 66 Triathlon (Lake El Reno - El Reno) Thru Sun, Jun 5th USAT Sanctioned courses. The 500 meter swim is an open water swim in Lake El Reno. Triangle course. Wetsuits should be permitted, lake temperature should approximately be mid 70's.
    The 20K…
  • Skyline Bluegrass Festival (Grand Casino Hotel & Resort - Shawnee) 1 day left Music lovers of all ages will enjoy the traditional, lively sounds of bluegrass at the annual Skyline Bluegrass Festival…
  • 🎡 El Reno Small Town Weekend (El Reno) Thru Sun, Jun 5th Bring the family to a weekend of festivities during El Reno's Small Town Weekend celebration. Held rain or…
  • Toby Keith & Friends Golf Classic (Belmar Golf Club - Norman) Day 1 of 2

Saturday, Jun 4th

  • 😂 Alex Reymundo (Loony Bin Comedy Club) Last Day
  • All-American Kid's Fishing Derby (Spring Creek Park, Arcadia Lake - Edmond) Bring the kids out for a day of fishing fun at the annual All-American Kids Fishing Derby, held at Arcadia Lake. Open to…
  • Big BuzzUrd Trade Days (Choctaw) Plan a trip to Choctaw for Big BuzzUrd Trade Days, a monthly artisan show featuring goods and artwork from a variety of…
  • 🎡 Charlie Christian International Music Festival (Deep Deuce) 1 day left The Charlie Christian International Music Festival is a fun-filled, six-day event that celebrates the musical…
  • 🎡 Chisholm Trail Round-Up Crawfish Festival (Kirkpatrick Family Farm - Yukon) Enjoy a taste of Louisiana at the Chisholm Trail Crawfish Festival in Yukon. This annual outdoor event celebrates…
  • In The Next Room (or The Vibrator Play) (Civic Center Music Hall) Thru Sat, Jun 25th In The Next Room, or the vibrator play is a comedy about marriage, intimacy, and electricity. Set in the 1880s at the dawn of the age of electricity and based on the bizarre historical fact…
  • 🏃 Limbs for Life Blaze 5K & Hero Homecoming (Oklahoma River Cruises)
    1. Proceeds from the Limbs for Life BLAZE 5k will help provide prosthetic for amputees who cannot afford them on their own. Limbs for Life is also partnering with the Oklahoma City VA for…
  • 🍴 Made in Oklahoma Wine, Beer & Food Festival (Reed Conference Center - Midwest City) Witness agritourism at its finest as Midwest City offers a state of great tastes at the 2016 Made in Oklahoma Wine, Beer…
  • Morgan Horse Association Spring Showcase (Purcell Expo Center - Purcell) Day 1 of 2 Come watch riders compete at the Sooner State Morgan Horse Association seasonal showcase at the McClain County Expo…
  • 🎭 Much Ado About Nothing (Paseo) Thru Fri, Jun 17th Feel the warmth of summer love when Oklahoma Shakespeare brings their production of “Much Ado About Nothing”…
  • OKC JAZZ FEST (The Criterion) Last Day Jazz has played an important role in Oklahoma City. In the 1940s jazz music was a unifying catalyst in bringing the entire community together. The OKC Jazz Fest celebrates our jazz history,…
  • 🎡 OKC Jazz Fest (Bicentennial Park) Last Day In downtown Oklahoma City, the OKC Jazz Fest takes over Bricktown and Deep Deuce. This multi-venue event features some…
  • OKC ProAm Classic: District Tour (Plaza District) Start Time: 8:00am
  • Oklahoma Route 66 Corvette Round Up (Hafer Park - Edmond) Browse row after row of impressive classic cars at the Oklahoma Route 66 Corvette Round Up in Edmond. This event…
  • Oklahoma TenaCity (Central - Bethany) 1 day left Dedicate your weekend to food, fun, fuel and entertainment at Oklahoma TenaCity, a three-day cycling celebration. This…
  • Redbud Spectacular Horse Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Thru Sun, Jun 12th The Oklahoma Quarter Horse Association puts on the Redbud Spectacular at the Oklahoma State Fair Park. Competitors show…
  • R. Kelly (Cox Convention Center) Start Time: 8:00pm
  • Rob Baird (Wormy Dog Saloon)
  • 🏃 Route 66 Triathlon (Lake El Reno - El Reno) 1 day left USAT Sanctioned courses. The 500 meter swim is an open water swim in Lake El Reno. Triangle course. Wetsuits should be permitted, lake temperature should approximately be mid 70's.
    The 20K…
  • Skyline Bluegrass Festival (Grand Casino Hotel & Resort - Shawnee) Last Day Music lovers of all ages will enjoy the traditional, lively sounds of bluegrass at the annual Skyline Bluegrass Festival…
  • 🎡 El Reno Small Town Weekend (El Reno) 1 day left Bring the family to a weekend of festivities during El Reno's Small Town Weekend celebration. Held rain or…
  • Toby Keith & Friends Golf Classic (Belmar Golf Club - Norman) Day 2 of 2
  • Uncle Zep - Trib. To Led Zeppelin (State Theatre - Midwest City)
  • Vacant Mind et al. (Your Mom's Place)
  • 🎡 Wines of the West (Stockyards City) Visit historic Stockyards City in Oklahoma City for Wines of the West Festival. Sample some of Oklahoma's finest…

Sunday, Jun 5th

  • American Head Charge (Thunder Alley Grill & Sports Bar)
  • 🎡 Charlie Christian International Music Festival (Deep Deuce) Last Day The Charlie Christian International Music Festival is a fun-filled, six-day event that celebrates the musical…
  • In The Next Room (or The Vibrator Play) (Civic Center Music Hall) Thru Sat, Jun 25th In The Next Room, or the vibrator play is a comedy about marriage, intimacy, and electricity. Set in the 1880s at the dawn of the age of electricity and based on the bizarre historical fact…
  • Morgan Horse Association Spring Showcase (Purcell Expo Center - Purcell) Day 2 of 2 Come watch riders compete at the Sooner State Morgan Horse Association seasonal showcase at the McClain County Expo…
  • 🎭 Much Ado About Nothing (Paseo) Thru Fri, Jun 17th Feel the warmth of summer love when Oklahoma Shakespeare brings their production of “Much Ado About Nothing”…
  • Oklahoma TenaCity (Central - Bethany) Last Day Dedicate your weekend to food, fun, fuel and entertainment at Oklahoma TenaCity, a three-day cycling celebration. This…
  • 🎡 Peace, Love & Goodwill Festival (Myriad Botanical Gardens) The Peace, Love & Goodwill Festival showcases some of the best food trucks, pop-up shops and musicians in an…
  • Redbud Spectacular Horse Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Thru Sun, Jun 12th The Oklahoma Quarter Horse Association puts on the Redbud Spectacular at the Oklahoma State Fair Park. Competitors show…
  • 🏃 Route 66 Triathlon (Lake El Reno - El Reno) Last Day USAT Sanctioned courses. The 500 meter swim is an open water swim in Lake El Reno. Triangle course. Wetsuits should be permitted, lake temperature should approximately be mid 70's.
    The 20K…
  • 🎡 El Reno Small Town Weekend (El Reno) Last Day Bring the family to a weekend of festivities during El Reno's Small Town Weekend celebration. Held rain or…

Monday, Jun 6th

  • In The Next Room (or The Vibrator Play) (Civic Center Music Hall) Thru Sat, Jun 25th In The Next Room, or the vibrator play is a comedy about marriage, intimacy, and electricity. Set in the 1880s at the dawn of the age of electricity and based on the bizarre historical fact…
  • 🎭 Much Ado About Nothing (Paseo) Thru Fri, Jun 17th Feel the warmth of summer love when Oklahoma Shakespeare brings their production of “Much Ado About Nothing”…
  • Redbud Spectacular Horse Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Thru Sun, Jun 12th The Oklahoma Quarter Horse Association puts on the Redbud Spectacular at the Oklahoma State Fair Park. Competitors show…
  • WWE Monday Night Raw (Chesapeake Energy Arena) Start Time: 6:30pm

Tuesday, Jun 7th

  • In The Next Room (or The Vibrator Play) (Civic Center Music Hall) Thru Sat, Jun 25th In The Next Room, or the vibrator play is a comedy about marriage, intimacy, and electricity. Set in the 1880s at the dawn of the age of electricity and based on the bizarre historical fact…
  • Mamma Mia (Civic Center Music Hall) Thru Fri, Jun 10th Mamma Mia! is the ultimate feel-good show that has audiences coming back again and again to relive the thrill. Now it's your turn to have the time of your life at this smash-hit musical that…
  • 🎭 Much Ado About Nothing (Paseo) Thru Fri, Jun 17th Feel the warmth of summer love when Oklahoma Shakespeare brings their production of “Much Ado About Nothing”…
  • NCAA Women's College World Series (ASA Hall of Fame Stadium) Start Time: 8:59pm The NCAA Women's College World Series features some of the best fast-pitch softball in the country. This year,…
  • Redbud Spectacular Horse Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park) Thru Sun, Jun 12th The Oklahoma Quarter Horse Association puts on the Redbud Spectacular at the Oklahoma State Fair Park. Competitors show…
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2016.05.19 02:46 bexyrex [DAE] feel like they burden others by allowing them into your life and thus into your familial burden?

So I'm here home for the hopefully last summer. My boyfriend is 600 mi away soon to be 2500 mi away. My best friend is another 600 mi away in the opposite direction. And I'm here at home thinking to myself that maybe I made a mistake by letting these people into my life. Like I feel terrible for burdening them with myself and my family issues.
Everyone has normal family mostly. Whereas with my family it's like living a constant lie. Right now my boyfriend just graduated he's on vacation with his family and I'm so mad with myself and this situation because I couldn't be there for his graduation and meet his family because my parents don't know were dating. They CAN'T know we're dating. My parents are of a sect of Christianity that forbids " yoking " with non believers and considering I and my SO are both atheists it would cause a violent shit storm with my mother. And a huge fallout with my family. And I know my SO understands that but I feel bad that he HAS to understand that and be with someone like me.
But frankly sometimes I wonder if he and my friends would've been better off being with someone with a better more normal family. I mean I know he loves me and I love him no matter what but I just I wish I could be the kind of girlfriend I want him to have. The type without a mother with a tripwire and an unpredictable temper a father who can't decide if I'm this damn family's greatest disappointment or greatest success. Without siblings who are die hard anti vaccine young earth creationists. Who would probably chastise me for not dating someone in my race and my culture.
Idk I just wish I could contribute more from here at home to his life like I could back at school. At least at school i could see him talk to him cuddle him go out with him have an interesting day and tell him about it. All I can do here is send text messages and call and be interested in his life because where I am mine is uninteresting. If he asks me how my day is I have nothing to say and I hate that because I love sharing expert experiences but here I've got nothing to share except maybe the occasional my mother is belittling me today hurrah. I've only been in this house and church for the past week and it's frustrating because how did I use to live like this every goddamn ???
I feel boring here. Confined. Trapped and boxed in. Like a caged animal. So beaten into submission the minute I got back here all I can think about is how I'll never really get out. I'm not a person worth being around. I'm just the ungrateful Daughter.
And I KNOW my relationship is beyond my nmom and edad and is a safe loving space but sometimes I'm FEEL I bring too much negativity because of the baggage of my family and my family history and how that warped me.
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2016.02.14 14:56 ElectroClan I feel uncomfortable and vulnerable about being confirmed into the religion I believe in.

My Nmom and I are both Catholic. I do love my Lord, and I really feel like my religion has helped me out a lot with some of the things I’ve been through.
One of the things that all Catholics do is get confirmed into the church. There’s a small, separate ceremony that takes place in front of the entire congregation, in which you declare your faith in the Lord and get blessed and whatnot.
But I’m…scared to get confirmed. I love going to church, I love volunteering for them (there’s a food kitchen my campus ministry goes to every so often to serve food), and I love the people in the campus ministry. I love feeling closer to Jesus, but the thought of confirmation scares me.
I think it might have something to do with my Nmom. My Nmom is really religious, and she loves to talk about how much God is in her life and how “everything happens for a reason” and things like that. She’s very open about her religion, but I get so irked every time she starts talking about God. Even when I was a young child, I would just get so annoyed every time she talked about or even mentioned God, even though I believe in Him, too!
I guess it’s because all the times she has called me names, tried to convince me that something was wrong with me, invaded my privacy, and overall made me feel like crap for a good part of my life completely overshadow the faith she had. She would tell me one day that I’m a blessing from God and tell me the next day how stupid I am for making a small mistake.
And it wasn’t like she was one of the fundamentalists, either. In fact, one of the things she loved to brag about was how much of a non-fundamentalist she was and how open-minded she was. She’d talk about how much she loves Jews, Muslims, Hindus, Buddhists, and other mainstream religions, but don’t be fooled. She absolutely loathes atheists and Wiccans.
(I say Wiccans because we visited Salem, Massachusetts one summer, and my Edad and I went into one of the museums there. My Nmom and my brother stayed outside while Edad and I perused the gift shop out where there was a lot of Wiccan merch that fascinated me. I thought that a lot of the things they sold there were cool, but my Nmom grumbled about how she felt an evil presence in the store.)
She has yelled at me before for having friends who are atheist. I used to visit /atheism occasionally just to check them out, but she found it in my history and lectured me over it. My first boyfriend in high school was an atheist, and she found out by listening into our phone conversations. But that time, she had told me that my then boyfriend was guaranteed to change his beliefs now that he was dating a Christian, so I had to “change” him somehow. (Haha, no.)
So for my entire life, I tried to do the opposite of what my Nmom did. I simply act like a good person like anyone else should (regardless of faith or lack thereof) while keeping my relationship with God under tight wraps except in front of some good friends of mine who are also Christian. I go to church, pray silently, and wear my Virgin Mary necklace all the time. I love to feel close to God because I feel that He’s really there and that He helps me when I need it.
But I feel very uncomfortable mentioning my Christianity with others. I have friends who like to ask questions about Catholicism, and I don’t mind answering. But I like to keep it as private as I can, because otherwise, I feel like I’m showing off or stroking my ego like my Nmom seemed to do.
On top of that, confirmation is literally announcing your personal belief in Jesus to everyone in the room, and I feel vulnerable for letting a bunch of strangers see a very personal part of me. I know this is completely irrational, but I feel like somebody is going to see me and start interrogating me the same way my Nmom used to do, putting my head into a spin and them pointing out some question I answered wrong and using it against me. It's really stupid of me, but it keeps me from getting confirmed.
And because of this, getting confirmed in front of the entire congregation feels scary for me.
Lent season has just started, and it’s a time for when I need to get closer to Jesus. If I don’t get confirmed, I feel like I’m doing something wrong. But I don’t feel ready to stand in front of the entire church, even if I don’t have to face them. I feel so vulnerable and uncomfortable thinking about it.
Am I wrong for not wanting to be confirmed? Am I less faithful for doing so? I'm already eighteen years old, and I feel like I should've done it by now. Is it normal to want to keep my religion this private?
(Note: Some advice from Christians on here would be nice, but I really don’t care what your non/religious beliefs are. Don’t feel singled out; I would really love some advice from anyone.)
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2015.08.17 03:01 spasticlitgeek I'm New Here - spasticlitgeek's story

Introduction
I’m new here, and this post is really long. I grew up in an N family, and I’ve dealt with layers of hurt and varying levels of trauma as a result. I feel much healthier now, but it’s definitely a journey. Thanks in advance for reading.
My parents
I had an Nmom and an Edad (who later became a non-Edad). I can remember preferring my mom when I was really young, but when my brother was born (I was 3), she became totally wrapped up in him. My closeness to my dad grew, and he and I were pretty much the two musketeers in most things. We had good rapport; he seemed to see me as a real person, and talked to me about things like science, books, and movies. We used to play video RPGs together, along with my brother when he was older. We would go on hikes when we camped out and when I needed clothing, my dad would take me shopping (it was intolerable to shop with my mom). My second brother was born when I was 7. My mom wanted to have 7 or more kids. My dad did not. There was a lot of N raging about this.
Nmom's family
My Nmom was the second oldest in a family of 7 kids. They were all enmeshed with each other and jacked up to varying degrees, thanks to an N/borderline/bipolar father (Ngrandpa) and Emother. The oldest daughter was completely broken emotionally. My Nmom always looked like she had it together by comparison, but there were definitely N traits running through her whole family. We spent A LOT of time with them when I was a kid. They were charismatically religious, to the point of spiritual abuse, which could be frightening at times. They had no boundaries to speak of.
Childhood
When I was young, both parents were involved in a charismatic church. Thus, my mom stayed home with us and my dad worked. Until I was about 5 or 6, I was spanked by my dad. He was the designated disciplinarian, although I got face slaps and “the wooden spoon” from my mom. My dad eventually decided he wasn’t going to be the thug of the family anymore and stopped spanking us, which pissed off my mom. My mom homeschooled us, so that we wouldn't learn about evil things out in the real world. She talked about demons and Satan a lot, in the sense that they were always walking among us. She wanted us to be homeschooled through high school, in spite of my desperate desire to go to school with other kids and my dad's lack of enchantment with the process. Eventually my dad started to have some respiratory problems at his painting job, and he decided to go for his bachelor's degree. This would mean my mom would have to work at least part time. She was livid, called him selfish and flat out refused. Long story short, he went anyway. As a result, my mom did get a job and I finally got to go to school (5th grade). My dad also left the church when I was around 10. My mom's Nrage knew no bounds at this point. She would go psychotic on him at night. I could hear her crying/yelling/growling at him from my bedroom (which never had a door). Any time we were all together after that, the tension was palpable. She worked every other weekend, and I loved those weekends because my brothers and me and our dad could actually have fun without her guilt trips and snide comments.
Triangulation
When my dad went back to college and then left the church, Nmom went to both sides of the family, tears flowing, to tell them what a selfish bastard my dad was and that he was destroying our family. She was/is really good at the victim/martyr thing and they believed her and came after him. I often got an earful about my dad from her side because they had no boundaries. Nmom loved to say that she was "raising those kids by myself", which was utter bullshit. She said this line to me again 3 months ago (I’m 36).
Divorce
My parents went back and forth about separating. Eventually, my mom asked my dad to leave, and he moved into an apartment. I was 14 then. After this, she kept trying to get him to move back, but he was done and filed for divorce. She told me that she wished he had died instead, because that would have been easier on her. She was a wreck and mentioned suicide a few times. I was terrified to come home and find her dead. When given the choice, I moved in with my dad. Of course Nmom gave me hell over this, said I was abandoning her and so forth. My brothers stayed with her, but my parents shared custody pretty evenly. As the oldest, I was the carrier of messages between the two of them. I was also the recipient of their vitriol toward each other. I still preferred my dad's place, but I felt overwhelmed at being thrust into a parentified role, and sank into a deep depression. I stopped doing things with friends or trying to make new friends. I threw myself into academic pursuits and ensconced myself in the fantasy genre (books, movies, games, writing). I thought if I wanted it badly enough, I could make the real world disappear.
Nmom’s behavior toward me as a kid
She said she loved me all the time, and certainly everyone around me believed she did. But I never felt close to her. There was something cold about her, like she wasn’t quite human. Of course, now I know it must have been her fundamental lack of empathy, but at the time I thought there must be something wrong with me. She could cry with the best of them, but it was always for effect. I learned pretty early on that her tears meant she wanted something, even if it was just to make someone feel guilty. I wasn’t any good to her unless I shared her beliefs and interests exactly. If I liked something she didn’t, she’d get huffy or rage at my dad, who had often introduced me to whatever it was.
Incest accusations
During my preteen years, my parents relationship really started to go downhill. I must have been about 10 when she first accused me to trying to steal my dad away from her. The phrases I remember are, “You two might as well just be married!” and “Why don’t you just go be his wife!” and (to my dad) “Just sit there and keep watching that movie with your girlfriend.” It was deeply unsettling. I thought something must be really wrong with me if my mom felt this way about me. To be fair, my dad didn’t have the best boundaries about what to tell a young kid, but there was no sexual element or incest involved. And she seemed to blame me, rather than him. That still cuts me deeply.
Personal hygiene
She acted strangely when I got my period, and wouldn’t buy me feminine care products (she gave me a sample pack of panty liners that someone had given her and offered me her embarrassingly huge pads to use). I wanted to know how to use tampons, and she wouldn’t explain them to me. I didn’t even know I had a hole for them to go in until I started experimenting myself. I ended up using lunch money from my dad to buy my own pads and tampons (all through my teen years) because I was too embarrassed to tell my dad I needed them. Nmom never explained to me that I’d need to wash more often when I got older. A few people told me I smelled bad and I noticed that women in books seemed to take baths a lot, so that was how I put it together. I know that sounds dumb, but it’s true. After that, I started showering every day. Nmom never talked to me about boys or dating, although she did explain sex in a rudimentary way. Any time I gave a hint of being interested in a boy, she would make fun of me or say something snarky about him. Eventually, I just stopped telling her. She once got me a subscription to a Christian girls magazine, which I guess was supposed to teach me everything I needed to know.
Other marriages
Nmom was remarried to my Estepdad, who was much more docile and to her liking. He’s an okay guy, but he’s always been her creature. I was 18 then. My dad remarried twice. The second time was to a borderline/N woman he’d gone to highschool with. Me and her son became good friends, but other than that, it was an extremely abusive situation. She would get drunk and start yelling horrible accusations at me. She said I wanted to fuck my dad. She said I was disgusting for having a period and having to use pads. She was physically violent to my dad (fortunately, she was only 5’ tall) and once threw a can of beer on my then-11-year-old brother. I was lucky enough to leave for college after 2 years, and get away from her. My dad took my side, but was in her thrall and our relationship was severely damaged for many years. At about the same time I moved to college, my dad moved out of state with her, which caused a rift between him and my brothers that they’re only now repairing. Down the road, he divorced wife 2 and married wife 3. She was much better, but also rather N. She ended up leaving him eventually. He’s now been happily single for almost a decade, has been through tons of therapy, and he and I are close again (although from different states).
My relationships
I didn’t have a relationship at all until college. I decided I’d try dating women, because my parents’ marriage had messed with my head so much. I ended up in a 4-year relationship with a woman who was borderline, and along with me being crazy from past trauma, we made each other miserable for the duration. While I was trying to date women, I still tended to fall for men, but the wrong kind - i.e. married, gay, or abusive in some way. I made myself miserable that way for a few years, then found the polyamory community. This seemed to be where I belonged, and it did help me work through some childhood issues (oddly), but I wasn’t happy. After about a decade of horrid relationships that exorcised my demons one by one, I met a truly wonderful guy who also came from an N family. We had our bumps, but we got married and are still best friends after 9-ish years. We now have 2 young kids.
Discovering my mom was N
When my first daughter was born, I knew something wasn’t right about my mom. She went from ignoring to engulfing (although I didn’t know those terms then) in about the space of a heartbeat. We didn’t have an adult relationship to speak of. Like, we’d have dinner once a month and meet at family gatherings. Suddenly, she wanted to be at our house ALL THE TIME. I couldn’t handle it. Besides, I knew on a very fundamental level that I didn’t want her weird shit in my daughter’s life. Not knowing what I was up against, I kept trying to talk to her about it. She blew me off, she blamed others, she raged, she cried. We eventually moved out of state. When she tried to follow us (2,000 miles!), I went NC. Unfortunately, it didn’t stay that way. I felt very guilty about it, so I started emailing with her after about a year. Then she was diagnosed with cancer, so I felt like I couldn’t cut her off completely. She recovered. After that, she tried to move near us again. I drew the line. She said, “I changed my mind anyway.” I’ve seen her a few times, and we used to Skype about once a month. The trouble is, I end up feeling like all the joy has been sucked out of my life every time we talk. I fall into depression. I can’t function well. I become a less effective parent and spouse. Now I haven’t talked to her in 3 months, give or take a few text messages. When I let her visit for my second daughter’s first birthday, she tried to talk to me about our NC and what happened. This might have been healing, except that it was all about her. “I hope you know I did my best when you were a child. When you cut me off, it broke my heart.” She said she’d changed. When I asked what that meant, she spouted off some examples that were so irrelevant that I can’t even remember them now. She also said, again, that she wanted to live by us. Because she had logged into my iPad and left her email open on it when she left, I saw that she was applying to jobs in our metro area. I texted her and told her to back off, and she said fine. But I know I can’t trust her. I don’t have any desire to speak to her or deal with her crap or have her in my kids’ lives. I don’t know if I’ll do the official NC again because I don’t think it does any good. She still sends gifts and basically acts as if nothing happened. I have better boundaries now than I did 3 years ago, so I can mostly just ignore her attempts. And if she gets weird on me, I can always get a restraining order.
My greatest fear
My greatest fear is passing on the N traits I learned in my family to my kids without realizing it. And/or falling into depression and being an ineffectual parent. And/or becoming my Nmom, and treating my kids the way she treated me.
Conclusion
If you’ve gotten this far, thanks for reading. It’s been really healing for me to read other people’s stories and to write out my own. I wish you all peace in your situations with your Ns, whatever your level of contact. I’m sure I’ll be hanging around this subreddit here and there, now that I’ve found it. :)
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2015.05.17 17:59 Bluepie19 Getting married in 7 days, and Nmom is making everything so unbearable I'm terrified to even show up to my own wedding.

​​Warning, this is really long. I just need to vent, I'm sorry.
I live in the US about 1,000 miles away from Nmom. When I got engaged I couldn't afford to pay for a wedding so Nmom and Edad offered to pay and host in in my hometown. What could go wrong?
Every little thing has become a fight. I hate being the center of attention so I just wanted a small-ish simple wedding, while she has her heart set on an expensive celebration to show off her money. To say our visions clash is an understatement. If I try to explain why I want something different she yells over me to drown me out, or literally tells me to be quite and listen to her talk. Apparently because she's been to lots of weddings before she knows all the rules so I better listen! She yells at me to read wedding etiquette books when I, "won't listen to what she has to say" and I need to learn to respect her. She thinks I will be a huge embarrassment for if I don't do all these things she has in mind.
The wedding budget has become a nightmare. My Edad told me what the budget was before we planned anything. I tried my hardest to suggest the cheapest venues, using as few flowers as possible, having someone hand sew my dress for $300 instead of buying one 10x more expensive from a shop, designing and printing my own save the dates, ect. But, all she can do is spend spend spend. My poor dad is too E to stop her, and she has already spend twice the original budget on shit I don't even want or need. All she cares about is how good she looks for throwing a fancy party that I never asked for!
The worst is the ceremony details. My fiancee and I are both atheists despite both of our parents being quite religious. We opted for a nice garden wedding, wrote our own ceremony that was just about love, tried to make everything accommodating and comfortable for our more religious guests. I know she is highly embarrassed to admit to our guests that I am no longer the same religion as her, and the whole thing is just a huge blow to her ego that I don't want to be just like her. She yells at me on the phone about how my wedding is a mockery to her religion, and how disrespectful it is for our guests when they are expecting a christian wedding. Wtf! It would be more disrespectful for me to have a fake christian wedding when none of what I would say would be sincere. Even my brother who is a christian pastor looked over my ceremony and said it was very respectful and pleasant.
Today was the icing on the cake. I called her to tried to assert myself on an issue and she fucking lost it. Screaming into the phone that she does all this work on the wedding and I so ungrateful (obviously not true). She was being manipulative, and emotionally abusive so I told her to stop. She screamed back at me "no, you need to listen to me! I'm talking now". So I just said "when you are ready to have an actual conversation, you can call me back. Bye" and I hung up. She texted me a few minutes later saying "I don't have time for your temper tantrums". Ugg!!!!
My sweet future husband heard all of this and thought we could placate the Nmonster by sending a very nice apology email in order to calm her a bit. He offered to write it for me because it literally sickens me to have to read the fluffy lovey stuff he wrote about how awesome she is. Cue the reply email from her a few hours later. This 5 paragraph behemoth of an email could only be described as anger-fulled hate mail. Here are some highlights
I just can't take it! I was just recently was diagnosed with PTSD from all of the abuse I endured as a child, and thinking about being anywhere near her is just terrified. I know maybe it's a shitty thought to wish you could skip your own wedding so you don't have to deal with your own Nmom, but that's how I feel. :(
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2015.03.20 07:20 Nancydrewfan nMom and Romance: A Series. Part IV. [FINAL]

Part 1 Part 2
Preface: This is essentially going to be a continuation of Part III, which will follow the timeline up to the point I moved out, ending with the day our year+ long ruse finally fell apart... three days after I moved out.
Case 6: Thanksgiving.
In reality, I actually skipped our first Thanksgiving together, because I spent Thanksgiving 2012 with his family, too. The difference was that in 2012, we weren't dating, just working together, because we canvassed neighborhoods on a national holiday had a mutual crush on each other that went unacknowledged because I was 17.
Anyway, 2013. For around the last seven years, my family has volunteered at a local restaurant, serving Thanksgiving Dinner for a dollar from 10am to 2pm on Thanksgiving Day, since our extended family doesn't celebrate until the weekend. When we're finished with clean up, we pretty much lay around watching TV for the rest of the day, so me going somewhere didn't cause any family turmoil. I didn't even make up an excuse for Thanksgiving 2013; my parents knew we were good friends. I just said I'd been invited out to his house for Thanksgiving, since I'd mentioned we didn't do anything until the weekend. I threw in a little flattery about them wanting me to make one of my dad's awesome recipes that I'd learned, and that put them over the edge. Drove to SO's place, met a couple of his relatives, met his brother's new girlfriend, and had a wonderfully relaxing afternoon with my FOC.
Case 7: New Years Eve.
Likewise, this was actually my second year spending New Years Eve at his place, which made it much easier to get permission. In 2012, SO threw a NYE party with a bunch of friends at his place, and I got permission to attend and spend the night, because nMom, ever the martyr, worried that the roads would be icy and there would be too many drunk drivers out for me to drive home after midnight. In fact, she banned me from driving anywhere after dark on New Years Eve. In 2013, we started at another mutual friend's home for dinner and some party, then headed back to his place. The plan had been for me to drive home, but I called nMom at about 1:15am. Called, because she always told me to wake her up. I'd seen SG get screamed at too many times for simply texting her that he was crashing at a friend's place.
See, my options here were:
  1. Call. If she answered, pretend to be super sleepy and ask if I can crash at SO's place. I wasn't the only one; there were two others crashing there as well. Apologize for not thinking about that in advance and coming home early, and hope she bought it.
  2. Call. If she didn't answer, leave a tired sounding voicemail explaining that I was crashing-- not alone. Apologize for not having left the party early so that I could get home, but remind her that it's NYE and drunk drivers may be about. Follow up with a text. Deal with the lectures the next day.
In my case, Option 2 worked out. In reality, I had planned on spending the night, because both of my younger brothers were at all night parties, and I was NOT about to go home and spend NYE with my fighty-drunk eDad and already pissed nMom, alone. She was already pissed, because SG had spent the last four nights crashing at his best friend's house for a LAN tournament to get away from our parents, and even though he had permission from eDad, it was revoked after the second night. They made him come home, which he did... long enough to complete a handful of chores and return to his friend's, reminding our parents that he had obtained permission. Nopenopenope; I was NOT dealing with that argument. Instead, New Years Eve 2013 was spent with my lovely other half, and several good friends. We played games, had great conversation, and incredible food.
I'm going to back up just briefly: Part of the way through December 2013, I found a full time job, the same job I still work. It was supposed to be a temporary thing until they found someone to replace the employee that had quit, but I did such a good job that my employer retracted their job listing, stopped interviewing other people, and kept me on. Additionally, I had saved a significant chunk of money over the years from odd jobs and photography. I was hoping to stick it out at home so that I could attend a 4 year school in fall of 2014, but my coping mechanism for home, in spite of my best attempts, began appearing in my work life, too. I could no longer mentally separate the two. My abuse had become so pervasive that my subconscious treated everyone as abusers. The first time it caused me to screw up an assignment at work, I bailed from home.
It was an, "Oh shit!" moment. I had literally heard the first sentence someone told me, and though I responded coherently to the second sentence, I was not at all conscious that they had continued speaking. When my boss pulled me aside to ask me what happened, I broke down crying. I immediately decided that fixing my immediate mental health and safety was more important than affording school the next fall. I could always go back to school, but if I was emotionally broken, I knew my grades would suffer even more than they had my last quarter working toward my Associates, and I'd never finish my degree or get into a good four-year institution. I immediately began hunting for a place, and within a couple of weeks, was holding the shiny keys to my new apartment.
Moving out was a fiasco worthy of its own post-- nMom was in rare form, and the most supportive thing eDad had to say was that they "couldn't stop" me from moving out. However, I thought you guys would enjoy the final footnote on my journey:
The day I planned to move, it snowed. My parents tried to convince me to wait, but I had promised myself I was going to be living on my own by Valentines Day, and I knew I wouldn't have time at all the rest of the week if I didn't do it the day I'd picked out. My friends showed up that evening, and eDad decided to grudgingly help. Between him, my friends, and myself, we got all the basic necessities moved in an evening. And suddenly, I was free.
SO and I had already talked about taking my parents out to a restaurant for dinner to tell them about our relationship, but a mutual friend forgot we were supposed to be a secret and beat us to the punch... three days after I moved. My employer holds a monthly luncheon, and this particular person worked at her employer's branch in a town 30 minutes away, and had never come to a luncheon before. Just my luck, she sat next to nMom, who promptly pointed out that I was her daughter, and asked our mutual friend if she knew me. Mutual friend replied, "Of course; she's SO's girlfriend."
OOPS. nMom stalked up to me at the end of the luncheon, her face tight: "So. You and SO are dating?" Me: "What do you mean?" nMom: "[Mutual Friend] said you were [SO's] girlfriend when I asked if she knew you. Girlfriend?!?!" After considering the reality that she wouldn't believe we already had plans to tell her and dad in the next couple of weeks, and the reality that I lived on my own and could ignore her phone calls, texts, and e-mails, and block her on Facebook if I needed to, I replied, "Yes." Her face flew through a range of emotions-- rage, embarrassment, anger-- and she responded, "It was really embarrassing, you know! Here [Mutual Friend] knew you were [SO's] girlfriend, and all I could do was try not to look shocked! I didn't know! This woman I barely know is telling ME that my daughter has a boyfriend?! I'm very disappointed and extremely embarrassed."
Thankfully, we were still in public, and there were a handful of people milling around, so she couldn't blow up at me. She and eDad left (eDad was speaking, so she didn't get a chance to tell him before they left), and I headed back to the office, awaiting the shit show I knew was coming as soon as she and eDad were able to talk.
On the bright side, I felt so free, and so light. No more hiding. My parents knew. It didn't come out in the way I wanted it to, but I was just relieved it didn't happen until I had my own place.
And that, at least for now, is the conclusion of this series.
P.S. SO met eDad for breakfast a couple weeks later. eDad wasn't happy-- not about our ages, and not about the fact that everyone had lied to him for an entire year. In his words, when I told SO that we could date, but I specifically did not want him to speak to my parents until AFTER I had moved out, SO should have either refused to be in a relationship with me, or immediately told eDad that I had asked him to hide our relationship. SO not going directly to eDad was proof that SO was a "girly-man" because he wouldn't stand up to his woman and tell her he was going to talk with eDad whether she liked it or not. Also that it showed a lack of respect for me.
Because only in nLogic does observing someone's requirements for a relationship make you less of a man and also disrespectful to the individual attaching requirements. The part SO graciously chose not to share with eDad is the reason I asked him not to talk to Dad. SO, who is from a wonderfully caring family, asked me what I thought was the worst that could happen. I told him: Not allowed to use the car, not allowed to leave the house, even for school. Only allowed on my laptop in room with entire family, and only then when parents have given me permission to access it for a limited time, and eDad has installed plenty of software to track my every move and login. Worst case scenario, they make me quit my job, get me excommunicated from my church over claims of unrepentant premarital sex, and I'm stuck at home for the foreseeable future. I was honestly terrified that if they found out before I left home, that I would never be able to do so. That (in combination with me making hiding from my parents a condition of the relationship) is the only reason SO didn't approach Dad initially.
eDad decided that SO didn't believe in the Trinity, and therefore wasn't a Christian, because in the course of their conversation, he said he sees God through Creation-- the beauty of wilderness, from lakes to thickly-wooded forests. eDad continued to insist that I had clearly only moved out so I could be with SO. The gem of a quote came out when I pointed out the dysfunction that actually caused my departure: "I have lived it this long. You will be stronger having lived through it. My family and Mom's was just as dysfunctional."
I replied, "That doesn't mean I wanted to stay there any longer than absolutely necessary."
He answered: "[Estranged Aunt] is the one of 7 (# of his siblings) that has not been able to deal with that dysfunction and move on. Why is forgiveness required in the gospel?"
I responded: "Forgiveness is not the same as continuing to live in dysfunction. I forgave a long time ago. I don't hold a grudge about it. I just didn't want to deal with it any longer. That's like claiming a woman in an abusive marriage hasn't forgiven the abuser if she leaves him! Getting out of a bad situation doesn't mean you have to be bitter about where you were!"
He responded like a true enabler: "Feeling like you are the same as an abused wife is a bit out there, because you know your mom as well as anyone and I don't think you can say you have been abused."
Ha. O rly? Maybe my abuse wasn't physical because I was the GC for much of my life, but that doesn't mean I lack scars from her poor "mothering." When your 14 year old feels like she needs to lie to you about meeting with the youth pastor's wife, and your husband has to lie to them to keep status quo, what is happening in the family is definitely abuse.
And that, RBN, is the story of nMom and (my) romantic relationships.
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